I agree with you on that I think a rating system lack of nuance and personal experience
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Why would anybody laugh at that.
The 2 ladies I see most often I think are both amazing and not only do I like them but I consider them as friends. I am lucky to have them both in my life.
Escorts aren’t that much different, they have the same dreams and wishes as other women and the same feelings, they know when someone cares and respects them and they certainly can tell if you genuinely like them.
I think in this way you fall under the category of clients who book with personality in mind.
There is a difference between clients who book on personality, and hobbyist who seem to see a body they desire, with no reguard to the person who has that body.
Do you see yourself as a hobbyist? I think how you refer to the ladies you see, I'd call you more aficionado than hobbyist.
Read Merb reviews and boards is part of the preliminary sex for me.
One thing we have to keep in mind, merb runs on a forum software called xenforo. Its not an easy task to add custom app-like features to it. There are extensions which can be added, but it adds an extra layer that needs to be supported. They can also be there one day, and abandonned the next.
If someone likes bbw, a spinner might get 1/5.
If someone likes spinners, the bbw provider might likely get 1/5.
SP doesn't offer anal 1/5.
SP had reasonable boundaries, 1/5.
...ect.
It is all relative. Who you would repeat with is such a combination of attraction, expierience, and what you are looking for. 1, 5 star rating to tally up all aspects would be a disservice to the provider and yourself as a client.
It would create just looking for the 5 stars, which for anyone who is looking for other then, socially imposed beauty standards, willing to please at all personal costs, will still likely have to then shift threw the 1-4 stars, to find what they are attracted to, is disliked and down voted by the greater population. Shaming what they like, and the providers who don't meet the hobbyist standard of perfection.
The greater important part which you have here already, is this person a scammer, or are they legit, and what about them sets them appart from others.
Who knows, I could be wrong, but then again.
Pretty much all girls I see would receive low ratings… At this point, it’s all personal
Some things come in mind:
- Does she turn me on? (Not only physically)
- Does she (likely) enjoy her time with me?
- If 2 previous points are met, she has some gem status from my pov. Can I afford to se her on a regular basis? If yes, she will likely be a favorite
Instead of complaining about reviews and proposing a new rating system, maybe start by writing a review yourself. If people happen to like it, who knows they might take your Nobel rating advice seriously. Just so you know, it’s not actually me speaking,it's ChatGPT, after thoroughly analyzing your profile on merb and reading your comments. It’s about time someone calls you out.
No I don’t think seeing escorts is a hobby and I don’t consider myself an aficionado either.
Simply someone who realizes that both sex and female companionship from time to time for me is necessary to function and be happy.
While most men can be aroused simply by physical attraction me included I much prefer to genuinely like the person and look forward to seeing them because of who they are and how they treat me than just their looks and luckily it is not that difficult and I have been able to find both.
When I repeat and I often do, it's because I liked something more than the pure physical/sexual aspects of the meeting. So yeah I do take personality into account.
Agreed. I would even go as far as saying that some hobbyists on this forum don't even seem to like women at all...
It's a bit of a crap shoot the first time people meet, because the guys will choose largely on whether they are attracted or not, since they have very little else to base their decision on, other than possibly services offered and price. After the first time, however, for many of the gentlemen persoanlity becomes not just an important factor but the defining factor as to whether they will choose to repeat or not. I think maybe some of the ladies here are underestimating that pull for guys and overestimating how superficial they are. Of course there are mysoginists and the superficial guys, but I don't think they constitute the largest group. Many if not most men will choose someone who is less attractive but with whom they have greater rapport over someone who may be more conventionally beautiful because they will have more fun in that person's company and that defines the entire experience. One of the benefits of MERB is that it offers guys an actual opportunity to look through the window and into the personality of some of the ladies who make their presence known here. It's a double edged sword, but ultimately the familiarity and that insight into a provider's personality may help sway some clients to make a decision to see people who have a presence here, whch of course is why they present themselves here in the first place. It may also push them the other way. The personal interactions make a difference, is what I'm saying.
That's part of the reason, coming back to the point of the thread, why these star ratings are so useless. There's no accounting for the personalities of the people involved. A good review can also give you some insight into the provider you're considering going to see. Some familiarity with the poster and their tastes may in some way help you decide how well aligned your mutual tastes are and whether the SP in question may be a good fit for you too. The nuance is what makes the review good. Star rating systems ( the number templates that some places like to use) wipe that all away.
That's part of the reason, coming back to the point of the thread, why these star ratings are so useless. There's no accounting for the personalities of the people involved. A good review can also give you some insight into the provider you're considering going to see. Some familiarity with the poster and their tastes may in some way help you decide how well aligned your mutual tastes are and whether the SP in question may be a good fit for you too. The nuance is what makes the review good. Star rating systems ( the number templates that some places like to use) wipe that all away.
I agree. Just seeing reviews would be nice. Answers to questions also help.
What clutters a thread like Rebecca’s are posts about a John telling us about the intention to book versus an after the fact review.
Or commenting on every other review about how great the review is. There is an inbox for that.
It’s kind of like at work. When a meeting could have been an email.
That may be true but I would say there are far more people who actually want someone they genuinely like and can relate to.
While where on the subject how many escorts do you think would be far happier living and being with other women and actually hate what they are doing and their clients but find it a necessary evil to pay their bills.
Let me start by saying thank you for two things.
First: for making my day. Now let’s talk about the irony. You claim that Chatgpt
went through my Merb profile and read all my comment but somehow missed the fact that I’ve written multiple reviews.
That either says a lot about how little attention you actually paid, or you’ve reached the point where your Chatgpt is so messed up, it can’t even recognize what a review looks like anymore and somehow can’t find the ones sitting right there on my profile.
That’s impressive in its own way
Second: for my “Nobel Prize in star ratings” from Chatgpt
If Obama got his Nobel Peace Prize before being sworn into office, I guess it’s ok to accept it before the system is even implemented.
But I’ll take it on behalf of Robin, a longtime member whose legacy was actually brought back because of this thread. Thanks to fellow merbites who dug into the past and did a tremendous job researching and synthesizing a lifetime of experience. Through this back-and-forth his work has resurfaced as a trailblazer in objective rating systems . And honestly, that alone made the whole debate worth it.
At the core of all this is one simple issue: unchecked subjectivity
The recurring argument against a star rating system is: “One person’s 5 is another person’s 1” that’s not a flaw in the system, that’s what happens when personal bias dominates and there’s no structure in place to balance it.
Written reviews are not much better, many read like ads, or as I like to call your reviews “infomercials” which you or Chat are clearly still bitter about.
That’s why I proposed something basic:
a “helpful / not helpful” button. Something simple to help the community separate fluff from substance. If the content is not helpful, such as exchanges between members praising each others reviews without adding anything new useful it shouldn’t clutter the thread. I mean, it should be easy to have only reviews by filtering a discussion thread that has several pages on the SP.
Let the useful reviews rise. Let the overly subjective fade. Grounding them in objective criteria to allow meaningful comparison and yield more overall fairness. Actually put
Aside personal preference to convey a more accurate portrait and not just praise blindly.
Because at the end of the day, some people actually rely on these reviews. So it’s pretty frustrating when things get so subjective that once the sp actually shows up you realize some very basic things weren’t even mentioned, or at least clearly conveyed
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I don't think it's useful to talk about escorts "doing it to pay their bills". At the end of the day, it's a job even if we love it, have mixed feelings about it or hate it.
I really enjoy what I'm doing and I want to provide a good service but yes. I'm not trying to villainize clients in general.. there are a lot of great clients out there, who are looking for connection and respect us
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Is it useful to bring up that there are many hobbyists that actually dislike women.I don't think it's useful to talk about escorts "doing it to pay their bills". At the end of the day, it's a job even if we love it, have mixed feelings about it or hate it.
I really enjoy what I'm doing even if certain things are difficult and I want to provide a good service but yes. I'm not trying to villainize clients in general.. there are a lot of great clients out there, who are looking for connection and respect us
Funny how you get instantly offended when the shoe is on the other foot.
Yes I get pissed when this is brought up constantly by escorts, I hate the fact that they continually bash their clients on media but then don’t have the backbone if they hate it so much to find another way to earn their living.
For the record I love women, I have had nothing but love and kindness from them and I hate it when they group all men into this category of being without feeling or just plain hating women.
I think you misunderstood. I'm not offended and I'm not pissed. I don't understand how me stating a critical opinion turns into getting accused of being "easily offended" lol I didn't think you were talking about escorts who bash clients on media, that wasn't clear in your comment.
Obviously bashing clients who didn't do anything wrong isn't cool. I'd never do this. I never said it's ok to put all men in the same category and make them feel like shit.
Me bringing up some hobbyists are disrespectful has nothing to do with you and has nothing to do with other good clients. My comment was written in a completely calm way... I even pointed out that I have a lot of great clients.
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Haha, no problem! Glad you liked it. Keep up the good work with your posts, and maybe one day you'll make it into the hall of fame!
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