There seems to be many frustrations toward the opposite sex in this thread.
Might seem off topic at the start, but the conclusion addresses the poster who started this.
On niceness:
Niceness is a simple way to influence things to go a certain direction, but it has been pervaded to the point that there is a belief that niceness will get you everything. Niceness will not get you sex. The logical inference to make that mental conclusion is a fallacy. I dont even see how people got that idea. People ( men and women) want nice among other things.
On fake niceness:
Now again, people seem to be pent up feelings in what the other person believed before or after the meeting. It is irrelevant. I wont even go in the moral implications that people usually go into because morals are an indefinite amount that can be only be qualified vaguely. People seemed to have qualms in being lied to because it seems to affect their ego, and etc... The truth is that "real" niceness is contagious, it resonates. When you set off a clock in a room filled with clocks, the clocks will start beating the same rhythm as that dictated by their natural frequency. When you hit a chord, a glass right beside might emit a tune by resonance. When a person smiles at you, you smile back. When you emit nice, people will be nice. And in that moment, the resonance makes it real.
Of course, all other parties implicated might try to conclude based on false thought process that it was all fake and etc later on... That last part is the typically human trait of lying to ourselves.
On attraction:
Attraction i believe is related to how well a person embody intelligence and reflect it. Obviously alot of the SPs are attractive, and their appearance reflect a certain kind of intelligence when it comes to maintaining one's shape. An intelligence they've garnered either intuitively or actively. People make a distinction between hot and intelligence. There's none. If people want to end up who has a certain body maintenance intelligence, they have to balance it somehow with an equal amount of intelligence of the same or of different type. And thats what you see in real life, and thats how it should be. Unfortunately, people make malicious conjectures.
On losing it because of reasons related to the above:
Ive lost it because of stupidity and because of that i tend to think of people in general in a very abstract manner. Not as real people, but a collection of natural principles embodied at varying degree, and their behaviour as dictated by physical laws, nutrition and circumstances. As a consequence, i really do have a bad time in building up relationships.
I am young, not even late twenties. But i do know alot about how things work. And if i dont, i can infer usually spot on. Many "normal" people seem to garner pleasure in being intimate with another person. And while losing it to a SP seems like an idea. It has repercussion. Ive never really loved anybody ( excluding family) and i dont think i will.
"I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all."