I strongly disagree. Nothing worse then rejection, it is very embarassing. I rather not do anything. I cannot handle rejection.“The sting of rejection is way better than the pain of regret.”
I strongly disagree. Nothing worse then rejection, it is very embarassing. I rather not do anything. I cannot handle rejection.“The sting of rejection is way better than the pain of regret.”
Men are walking away and tired of the dating scene. (this is not to say that some men are not idiots), but its gotten so complicated. A women gives you attention and is interested, and yet she as other options, if she as Facebook, Instagram, is online dating apps you can bet any amount of money you are not the only one she is chatting with.Hmm, I would not go into workplace harassment.
On the topic of rejection, we will have a new generation of sexless teenagers. The reason is porn as porn gives instant dopamine hits and zero rejection. Before the Internet, you have to work just to see sex. And porn magazines, and apparently you have to rewind stuff to watch porn.
Now you are faced with a menu for every need and body types and acts. So, men are getting so rewarded. Then comes the dating apps that make them believe it’s the same choice system to only have no match.
I agree that the dating procedures are complicated. Is this love-bombing my friend asked. Was his intention to have sex tonight or just to meet, asks another.
I still don't understand why it's a problem and considered playing games.Its a numbers game, like i said today if you have a Facebook account Instagram, text you are pretty sure that the women you are talking to as other options. Like I said that women at my job gave me all the signs but I found out she was talking to other men aside from me.
I might be the problem here too since when I am interested in one women I don't go after 5 or 6 on the side I concentrate on her and her alone. And who says she has boring conversations with the other guys maybe they are all good at texting etc. This is why men walk away from dating, too much game, too many do this but don't do that, at some point you get discourage and you said fkit i am out of here.
MOST MEN AREN’T HORNY , THEY’RE HOLLOW:
Is often just emotional emptiness that hasn’t been named
They’re chasing the version of themselves they never got to become
trust, softness, and surrender
And because they’ve never learned to identify those needs
They reduce their cravings to lust
And the tragedy
Is that the more they chase sex
The further they drift from what they actually need
They never experience intimacy
Because they’ve confused intensity with connection
I feel you. Same thing in my industry. A woman would walk in and everyone get surprised and then they're start to ask each other if she's lost or what. After that, they would daydream about her 'til the end of the day (even for days in some cases). Pheromones I guess... and being surrounded by singles guys too!I also work 40 hours per week on construction site so women are pretty rare over there. It affects my mood being around nic addict workers all week long
I partly agree with you. Sad thing is that many lack personality especially younger ones. Relations lack depth because some people are boring and have no opinions about anything unless it’s ass and tits. I as a guy in my thirties have better conversation with ladies in their 50s than guys my age (not even expecting sex lol) . The only part I disagree is trusting 100% guys your age. I think a mentor a father an uncle or an older brother would play that role better. So yes putting everything on a poor woman is bad 100%. So we mostly agree expect for that small detail. Interesting conversation. Not generalizing but talking about some casesI don't know if you will agree. But I also think that these things some men are lacking: Emotional Emptiness, Trust, Softness, Surrender, Intimacy
They’re absences. And what’s striking is that so many of these needs could be fulfilled… through friendship. Especially with other men.
But somewhere between ego and expectation, that possibility gets shut down.
Is it fear of being seen as weak? As gay? As less-than?
Whatever it is, it’s costly.
Because imagine how freeing it would be not to place every deep emotional need on the shoulders of one poor woman who is just trying to figure out which dude would make a good partner.
Imagine having brothers you could be soft with. Open with. Held by.
Many women, myself included, know what it means to be carried by deep friendships.
We don’t ask one lover to be everything. We scatter our needs across safe harbours. And that makes us feel whole without a relationship. Helps not be bitter after every rejection.
So why is it so rare to see men do the same?
I’m not talking about the friend who’ll bury a body for you.
I’m talking about the one you can unzip your chest for. experience vulnerability with.
The one who simply says, “You’re safe with me.” "It's ok that you don't have all the answers right now"
That kind of intimacy isn’t weakness. It’s strength with its armour down.
And I wonder… how many men wished they could talk about more than sports, women and money, and dive into their feelings with fellow men as supports.
About me, lack of depth is probably what blocks me. I've been told that my vision of love is too romantic and not enough passionate. The problem for me to get passionate, I need to be turned on and empty shells won't do it. I consider myself a true sapiosexual. Looks will get my attention, but if the brain doesn't follow the body, it would be about it. That's not something easy to spot at first view and not easy to find neither. When I see someone who has it, she's already in a steady couple. So I still search someone who's a high quality candidate for me, but I've been told to compromise and settle for less. Worst, I even been told that thinking about high and low quality candidates is plain rude. Sorry, but having preferences is totally normal and everybody has their own way to see who's who. in my opinion, I think that I am very open minded, but I don't think that lower my criteria (as I've been told) will get me further. If I water down my criteria, don't you think that I would also water down my match quality over quantity? Moreover, my first choice would be to find someone great, but I still prefer to be single rather than with a bad match.I partly agree with you. Sad thing is that many lack personality especially younger ones. Relations lack depth because some people are boring and have no opinions about anything unless it’s ass and tits. I as a guy in my thirties have better conversation with ladies in their 50s than guys my age (not even expecting sex lol) . The only part I disagree is trusting 100% guys your age. I think a mentor a father an uncle or an older brother would play that role better. So yes putting everything on a poor woman is bad 100%. So we mostly agree expect for that small detail. Interesting conversation. Not generalizing but talking about some cases
I learned that feelings did not get me anywhere with the normal average vanilla girl! Ups and downs all the time so having different SPS with just having conversations with good kinky sex that come with no headaches is the way to go! SPS are different not the average women and have an understanding what the male needs so no BS just right to the point! Also with outcall they come to you so no going out trying to meet some BS date wasting time and money !ENGLISH WILL FOLLOW
Approcher une femme qui m'intéresse vraiment, c'est terrifiant. Plus mon désir est fort, plus je me dis que je ne suis pas a la hauteur.
Étant petit, mes parents s'entendait super bien et je croyais que l'amour existait pour vrai (surtout avec les films Aladdin, Belle et la Bete, Shrek, Titanic, Armageddon etc..) Finalement, ils se sont séparés quand j'avais 11 ans. Boum.
Tu commences a comprendre qu'un homme peut aimer sa femme de tout son coeur, elle peut décider du jour au lendemain de dire Bye bye j'en ai trouver un meilleur que toi. A quoi ca sert de s'investir si du jour au lendemain elle te dit bye bye c'est fini. C'est dégueulasse.
En grandissant, j'étais un jeune homme sérieux qui cherchait le vrai amour tout en étant gêné, ayant peur du rejet, mettant la femme sur un piedestale comme une déesse ayant le pouvoir de te rejeter comme une ordure. Tout ca m'a mener vers des années, décennies de porno. Sur la porno, pas de rejet, pas d'investissement.
Tu crois en l'amour, tu as besoin d'amour mais tu ne fais plus confiance aux femmes. Et avec une personnalité de bon gars, tu ne veux pas mentir pour 'profiter' de la femme. Les applications de rencontre, de Reseau Contact a Tinder, tu n'attires aucune fille intéressante. Après quelques relations insatisfaisante, a 25 ans je suis tombé en depression et depuis ce temps je vis avec des tensions a la tête chronique 24h/24 et des problèmes de digestion chronique aussi. J'ai 40 ans aujourd'hui.
Ce n'est pas facile de rencontrer une fille intéressante aujourd'hui. Au travail, dans une activité, amie d'un ami, a l'épicerie ?
Je me dit que ca serait une bonne idée de rencontrer une ou des escortes/courtisanes pour aller chercher du social, de l'affection et du sexe avec une escorte avec qui l'expérience est positive pour soulager mes maux, le mal de l'âme. Et transférer dans la vie, pour approcher les femmes avec moins de sérieux peut-être.
Avez-vous vécu l'expérience qu'une escorte vous aide a guérir des blessures pour mieux avancer dans la vie et être mieux dans sa peau ? Ou c'est juste du sexe et ca ne change rien.
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Approaching a woman I'm truly interested in is terrifying. The stronger my desire, the more I tell myself I'm not up to it.
When I was little, my parents got along really well, and I believed love existed for real (especially with the movies Aladdin, Beauty and the Beast, Shrek, Titanic, Armageddon, etc.). Finally, they split up when I was 11. Boom.
You begin to understand that a man can love his wife with all his heart, but she can suddenly decide to say, "Bye, bye, I've found someone better than you." What's the point of investing in the relationship if she suddenly says, "Bye, bye, it's over." It's disgusting.
Growing up, I was a serious young man looking for true love while being embarrassed, afraid of rejection, and putting women on a pedestal like a goddess with the power to discard you like trash. All of this led me to years, decades of porn. When it comes to porn, there's no rejection, no investment.
You believe in love, you need love, but you no longer trust women. And with a nice-guy personality, you don't want to lie to 'take advantage' of a woman. Dating apps, from Reseau Contact to Tinder, don't attract any interesting girls. After a few unsatisfying relationships, at 25, I fell into depression, and since then, I've lived with chronic tension in my head 24/7 and chronic digestive problems as well. I'm 40 today.
It's not easy to meet an interesting girl these days. At work, at a business, as a friend of a friend, at the grocery store?
I'm thinking it would be a good idea to meet one or more escorts/courtesans to seek social interaction, affection, and sex with an escort whose experience is positive to relieve my pain, the pain of my soul. And to transfer it into real life, to approach women with less seriousness perhaps.
Have you experienced how an escort helped you heal wounds so you could move forward in life and feel better about yourself? Or is it just sex and it doesn't change anything?