“The sting of rejection is way better than the pain of regret.”
There are 11 pages of posts, and I would like to reply more to MmiG (not that Burt Reynolds cannot be interesting).
Two common themes here are rejection and confidence.
I’ve tried “rejection therapy” or “embracing rejection as practice.” It’s as simple as attempting something like “100 Days of Rejection Therapy.” You can do silly things just to get a “no” every day. For example, I know my coffee shop doesn’t carry Splenda, but I ask for it anyway and get a “no.” I’ve asked for extensions on assignments — ha! denied, as usual. Once, I even asked for a grade revision and surprisingly got a “yes.” It soothes when the pain of no keeps recurring the brain. The key is to intentionally seek rejection. Eventually, when I expect rejection the most, it happens, and my brain just goes, “Bah.”
The most prominent factor for building confidence is going from zero to one. The first time is always the hardest. The first time losing your virginity is the most nerve-wracking. Your first SP felt weird. Look at you now—it’s easy, simple, and you barely remember the first time.
Confidence also comes from doing things alongside others. I have friends who lack confidence, but hitting the gym changes him. People say they do it for health reasons, but let’s be honest—men work out for other reasons too. If you think men stare at women, trust me, they’re ego-boosting in the mirror.
Success in one area often spills over into confidence in another. For instance, career success or achieving a certain level of wealth can make you feel attractive in other ways.
As for accepting yourself, we live in a world where being edgy and different is okay, thanks to the Internet. I’ve learned that nerds used to be ostracized. Movies like “Revenge of the Nerds” portrayed them as outsiders, but then shows like “The Big Bang Theory” made nerds funny and relatable. With billionaires like Gates and Zuckerberg, what was once marginal is now considered cool.
If you’re an introvert, it might take longer to find the right person, but she’s out there. As a nerd, I once thought I’d never find the right fit either. But if you think looks are everything, let me tell you—funny guys can still get me naked. So, be yourself. Rejection is common. Just find an indirect way to approach us and strike up a conversation. Studies show that women find men more attractive over time, not based on first impressions.
Good luck!
There are 11 pages of posts, and I would like to reply more to MmiG (not that Burt Reynolds cannot be interesting).
Two common themes here are rejection and confidence.
I’ve tried “rejection therapy” or “embracing rejection as practice.” It’s as simple as attempting something like “100 Days of Rejection Therapy.” You can do silly things just to get a “no” every day. For example, I know my coffee shop doesn’t carry Splenda, but I ask for it anyway and get a “no.” I’ve asked for extensions on assignments — ha! denied, as usual. Once, I even asked for a grade revision and surprisingly got a “yes.” It soothes when the pain of no keeps recurring the brain. The key is to intentionally seek rejection. Eventually, when I expect rejection the most, it happens, and my brain just goes, “Bah.”
The most prominent factor for building confidence is going from zero to one. The first time is always the hardest. The first time losing your virginity is the most nerve-wracking. Your first SP felt weird. Look at you now—it’s easy, simple, and you barely remember the first time.
Confidence also comes from doing things alongside others. I have friends who lack confidence, but hitting the gym changes him. People say they do it for health reasons, but let’s be honest—men work out for other reasons too. If you think men stare at women, trust me, they’re ego-boosting in the mirror.
Success in one area often spills over into confidence in another. For instance, career success or achieving a certain level of wealth can make you feel attractive in other ways.
As for accepting yourself, we live in a world where being edgy and different is okay, thanks to the Internet. I’ve learned that nerds used to be ostracized. Movies like “Revenge of the Nerds” portrayed them as outsiders, but then shows like “The Big Bang Theory” made nerds funny and relatable. With billionaires like Gates and Zuckerberg, what was once marginal is now considered cool.
If you’re an introvert, it might take longer to find the right person, but she’s out there. As a nerd, I once thought I’d never find the right fit either. But if you think looks are everything, let me tell you—funny guys can still get me naked. So, be yourself. Rejection is common. Just find an indirect way to approach us and strike up a conversation. Studies show that women find men more attractive over time, not based on first impressions.
Good luck!
