Approaching women

[sweetlivia]

Hmm, I would not go into workplace harassment.

On the topic of rejection, we will have a new generation of sexless teenagers. The reason is porn as porn gives instant dopamine hits and zero rejection. Before the Internet, you have to work just to see sex. And porn magazines, and apparently you have to rewind stuff to watch porn.

Now you are faced with a menu for every need and body types and acts. So, men are getting so rewarded. Then comes the dating apps that make them believe it’s the same choice system to only have no match.

I agree that the dating procedures are complicated. Is this love-bombing my friend asked. Was his intention to have sex tonight or just to meet, asks another.

 

[maymay]

Hmm, I would not go into workplace harassment.

On the topic of rejection, we will have a new generation of sexless teenagers. The reason is porn as porn gives instant dopamine hits and zero rejection. Before the Internet, you have to work just to see sex. And porn magazines, and apparently you have to rewind stuff to watch porn.

Now you are faced with a menu for every need and body types and acts. So, men are getting so rewarded. Then comes the dating apps that make them believe it’s the same choice system to only have no match.

I agree that the dating procedures are complicated. Is this love-bombing my friend asked. Was his intention to have sex tonight or just to meet, asks another.

Men are walking away and tired of the dating scene. (this is not to say that some men are not idiots), but its gotten so complicated. A women gives you attention and is interested, and yet she as other options, if she as Facebook, Instagram, is online dating apps you can bet any amount of money you are not the only one she is chatting with.

A women at work was looking at me, giving me all the vibes, long glance, eye contact, smile touch. Being out of the market for a while I lost my touch, and i wanted too long to ask her out (job=bad idea i know) and now we are talking on Facebook guess what, she met another guy, she was talking to about 5 guys at the same time. Of course seeing this was a bit frustrating for me, I did dodge a bullet, but even then.

When you talk to a 45 year old women who has 3 adult kids, got full of tattoos and is partying hard with her 2 other 40 something friend, then she tells you she wants a real relationship but me having no tattoos is a deal breaker, its a what the fuck thing right.

Of you meet those older women who act like princess and prizes to be won, you go on the date to meet them and get to know them and all they do is brag about how they are in demand and men want them.

Get insulted, ghosted, and more. I understand why young men stop chasing women, unless you are really good lucky and even then good luck dating in the world today.

This as nothing to do with porn, young men today have low testosterone levels and are simply not interested in sex, they rather stay home and play online video games with there friends then go out and have fun and meet women like we did in our younger years, but still every club and place i went younger is now closed.

 

[RayaMaven]

It's interesting to read how rejection is so painful for some people. It feels like the woman you are trying to approach is no longer a human being. Her humanity is not being acknowledged, the sole focus is the outcome and the circumstances aren't considered. Is it possible nowadays to approach someone and connect over something else than looks (even if that's what caught your attention)

Secondly, can someone explain why it's an issue if women are talking to multiple people at the same time? How does that change the quality of your interactions with her if you are an interesting guy? Isn't she naturally going to drop her other boring conversations to keep talking to you?

 

[David Sel et Poivre]

There was a time in my life where I thought I was addicted to sex:
Always aroused
Always looking for release
Always chasing bodies and calling it “preference”

But the truth is:
I wasn’t addicted to sex
I was starving for love
Craving connection
Thirsting for the feminine energy I never received in wholeness

So I used sex to fill the emotional hunger I refused to face
I used women to distract me from the boy inside me still waiting to be held

And what hurt most is
They thought I was with them because I desired them
But in reality, I was using them to numb the ache of being emotionally unfed

Every orgasm was a cry for closeness
Every hookup was me begging God for healing
Every drained moment was a reminder that I still hadn’t met myself

MOST MEN AREN’T HORNY , THEY’RE HOLLOW:

What looks like arousal
Is often just emotional emptiness that hasn’t been named
Most men aren’t chasing sex
They’re chasing the version of themselves they never got to become

They think they want a woman’s body
But what they truly crave is feminine nurture, trust, softness, and surrender
And because they’ve never learned to identify those needs
They reduce their cravings to lust

And the tragedy
Is that the more they chase sex
The further they drift from what they actually need
They never experience intimacy
Because they’ve confused intensity with connection

And every time they ejaculate without love
They bury the boy deeper
And crown the addict louder

Until they’re a grown man with a broken nervous system
Unable to sit still
Unable to love
Unable to lead
And convinced that pleasure is the only path to peace

But real peace doesn’t come from sex
It comes from the mastery of it

Now I don’t chase pleasure
I cultivate presence
I don’t touch a woman to be filled
I touch her because I’m already overflowing

Now I love slowly
Now I lead consciously
Now I’m aroused by her submission
Not her curves
Her devotion
Not her cleavage

Now sex isn’t where I go to hide
It’s where I go to worship
It’s not where I lose myself
It’s where I return to God with her

I no longer beg for closeness through orgasm
I create it through mastery
I no longer consume women to feel powerful
I protect them because I already am

YOU DESERVE TO BE A MAN WHO MAKES LOVE WITH HIS ENERGY, NOT HIS WOUNDS

YOU DESERVE TO BE A MAN WHO’S TURNED ON BY WHAT’S REAL

YOU DESERVE TO BE A MAN WHO IS NO LONGER A SLAVE TO HIS UNMET NEEDS

 

[RayaMaven]

Its a numbers game, like i said today if you have a Facebook account Instagram, text you are pretty sure that the women you are talking to as other options. Like I said that women at my job gave me all the signs but I found out she was talking to other men aside from me.

I might be the problem here too since when I am interested in one women I don't go after 5 or 6 on the side I concentrate on her and her alone. And who says she has boring conversations with the other guys maybe they are all good at texting etc. This is why men walk away from dating, too much game, too many do this but don't do that, at some point you get discourage and you said fkit i am out of here.

I still don't understand why it's a problem and considered playing games.

I understand the part of people having physical preferences, but lets say a woman is talking to 5-6 guys who look exactly like who she wants to be with, she still needs to talk to them to find out if the vibe is good and if she likes them and access enough situations with them to know if she can deal with someone like this.
How does it change anything for you what she does when she is chatting with other people as well. She is getting to know you and other people. Sooner or later, she will find out which person she relates to the most. Isn't it more efficient to talk to 5 guys at the same time, go on a few dates with them, have a feel at how the vibe is and pick the most compatible one. The process would have been the same (but much longer) if she was going one by one. Imagine 1 month talking to one and then she finds out she doesn't like him, second guy takes 3 weeks to show things she doesn't like and finally after 3 months she sees that the flaws of the 3rd guy is something she can deal with. Thats a total of almost 5 months, she could have instead be talking to all the dudes simultaneously and after 3 months stuck with the 3rd guy since she likes him best.

To me it really is more about efficiency and how can I best use my time to find the one guy I am most interested in. A lot of dude disqualify themselves pretty quickly. And I hope that men are confident enough in their skills and charisma. And on the other side, it's also ok if things don't work out, we can't be compatible with everyone.

A friend of mine admitted that he liked when a woman focussed on him only from the start because he was jealous of the capacity of women to entertain multiple guys while he could not, simply because he did not have the mental capacity to focus on the girls and he did not have the funds to take them all out.

 

[RayaMaven]

MOST MEN AREN’T HORNY , THEY’RE HOLLOW:

Is often just emotional emptiness that hasn’t been named
They’re chasing the version of themselves they never got to become

trust, softness, and surrender
And because they’ve never learned to identify those needs
They reduce their cravings to lust

And the tragedy
Is that the more they chase sex
The further they drift from what they actually need
They never experience intimacy
Because they’ve confused intensity with connection

I don't know if you will agree. But I also think that these things some men are lacking: Emotional Emptiness, Trust, Softness, Surrender, Intimacy

They’re absences. And what’s striking is that so many of these needs could be fulfilled… through friendship. Especially with other men.

But somewhere between ego and expectation, that possibility gets shut down.
Is it fear of being seen as weak? As gay? As less-than?
Whatever it is, it’s costly.

Because imagine how freeing it would be not to place every deep emotional need on the shoulders of one poor woman who is just trying to figure out which dude would make a good partner.
Imagine having brothers you could be soft with. Open with. Held by.

Many women, myself included, know what it means to be carried by deep friendships.
We don’t ask one lover to be everything. We scatter our needs across safe harbours. And that makes us feel whole without a relationship. Helps not be bitter after every rejection.

So why is it so rare to see men do the same?

I’m not talking about the friend who’ll bury a body for you.
I’m talking about the one you can unzip your chest for. experience vulnerability with.
The one who simply says, “You’re safe with me.” "It's ok that you don't have all the answers right now"

That kind of intimacy isn’t weakness. It’s strength with its armour down.
And I wonder… how many men wished they could talk about more than sports, women and money, and dive into their feelings with fellow men as supports.

 

[StephenHarper]

I also work 40 hours per week on construction site so women are pretty rare over there. It affects my mood being around nic addict workers all week long

I feel you. Same thing in my industry. A woman would walk in and everyone get surprised and then they're start to ask each other if she's lost or what. After that, they would daydream about her 'til the end of the day (even for days in some cases). Pheromones I guess... and being surrounded by singles guys too!

 

[Jacob Israel]

I don't know if you will agree. But I also think that these things some men are lacking: Emotional Emptiness, Trust, Softness, Surrender, Intimacy

They’re absences. And what’s striking is that so many of these needs could be fulfilled… through friendship. Especially with other men.

But somewhere between ego and expectation, that possibility gets shut down.
Is it fear of being seen as weak? As gay? As less-than?
Whatever it is, it’s costly.

Because imagine how freeing it would be not to place every deep emotional need on the shoulders of one poor woman who is just trying to figure out which dude would make a good partner.
Imagine having brothers you could be soft with. Open with. Held by.

Many women, myself included, know what it means to be carried by deep friendships.
We don’t ask one lover to be everything. We scatter our needs across safe harbours. And that makes us feel whole without a relationship. Helps not be bitter after every rejection.

So why is it so rare to see men do the same?

I’m not talking about the friend who’ll bury a body for you.
I’m talking about the one you can unzip your chest for. experience vulnerability with.
The one who simply says, “You’re safe with me.” "It's ok that you don't have all the answers right now"

That kind of intimacy isn’t weakness. It’s strength with its armour down.
And I wonder… how many men wished they could talk about more than sports, women and money, and dive into their feelings with fellow men as supports.

I partly agree with you. Sad thing is that many lack personality especially younger ones. Relations lack depth because some people are boring and have no opinions about anything unless it’s ass and tits. I as a guy in my thirties have better conversation with ladies in their 50s than guys my age (not even expecting sex lol) . The only part I disagree is trusting 100% guys your age. I think a mentor a father an uncle or an older brother would play that role better. So yes putting everything on a poor woman is bad 100%. So we mostly agree expect for that small detail. Interesting conversation. Not generalizing but talking about some cases

 

[StephenHarper]

I partly agree with you. Sad thing is that many lack personality especially younger ones. Relations lack depth because some people are boring and have no opinions about anything unless it’s ass and tits. I as a guy in my thirties have better conversation with ladies in their 50s than guys my age (not even expecting sex lol) . The only part I disagree is trusting 100% guys your age. I think a mentor a father an uncle or an older brother would play that role better. So yes putting everything on a poor woman is bad 100%. So we mostly agree expect for that small detail. Interesting conversation. Not generalizing but talking about some cases

About me, lack of depth is probably what blocks me. I've been told that my vision of love is too romantic and not enough passionate. The problem for me to get passionate, I need to be turned on and empty shells won't do it. I consider myself a true sapiosexual. Looks will get my attention, but if the brain doesn't follow the body, it would be about it. That's not something easy to spot at first view and not easy to find neither. When I see someone who has it, she's already in a steady couple. So I still search someone who's a high quality candidate for me, but I've been told to compromise and settle for less. Worst, I even been told that thinking about high and low quality candidates is plain rude. Sorry, but having preferences is totally normal and everybody has their own way to see who's who. in my opinion, I think that I am very open minded, but I don't think that lower my criteria (as I've been told) will get me further. If I water down my criteria, don't you think that I would also water down my match quality over quantity? Moreover, my first choice would be to find someone great, but I still prefer to be single rather than with a bad match.

This week, I was thinking about this thread and I was thinking in a new manner. I hate when people tell me to lower my criteria, but maybe I should keep my criteria and instead try to focus on other qualities, other parts of the personnality to see get more choices or more matches and then explore if she has the brain I need to get a spark rather than focusing on the brain before everything else.

 

[Bouddha1]

ENGLISH WILL FOLLOW


Approcher une femme qui m'intéresse vraiment, c'est terrifiant. Plus mon désir est fort, plus je me dis que je ne suis pas a la hauteur.
Étant petit, mes parents s'entendait super bien et je croyais que l'amour existait pour vrai (surtout avec les films Aladdin, Belle et la Bete, Shrek, Titanic, Armageddon etc..) Finalement, ils se sont séparés quand j'avais 11 ans. Boum.

Tu commences a comprendre qu'un homme peut aimer sa femme de tout son coeur, elle peut décider du jour au lendemain de dire Bye bye j'en ai trouver un meilleur que toi. A quoi ca sert de s'investir si du jour au lendemain elle te dit bye bye c'est fini. C'est dégueulasse.

En grandissant, j'étais un jeune homme sérieux qui cherchait le vrai amour tout en étant gêné, ayant peur du rejet, mettant la femme sur un piedestale comme une déesse ayant le pouvoir de te rejeter comme une ordure. Tout ca m'a mener vers des années, décennies de porno. Sur la porno, pas de rejet, pas d'investissement.

Tu crois en l'amour, tu as besoin d'amour mais tu ne fais plus confiance aux femmes. Et avec une personnalité de bon gars, tu ne veux pas mentir pour 'profiter' de la femme. Les applications de rencontre, de Reseau Contact a Tinder, tu n'attires aucune fille intéressante. Après quelques relations insatisfaisante, a 25 ans je suis tombé en depression et depuis ce temps je vis avec des tensions a la tête chronique 24h/24 et des problèmes de digestion chronique aussi. J'ai 40 ans aujourd'hui.

Ce n'est pas facile de rencontrer une fille intéressante aujourd'hui. Au travail, dans une activité, amie d'un ami, a l'épicerie ?
Je me dit que ca serait une bonne idée de rencontrer une ou des escortes/courtisanes pour aller chercher du social, de l'affection et du sexe avec une escorte avec qui l'expérience est positive pour soulager mes maux, le mal de l'âme. Et transférer dans la vie, pour approcher les femmes avec moins de sérieux peut-être.

Avez-vous vécu l'expérience qu'une escorte vous aide a guérir des blessures pour mieux avancer dans la vie et être mieux dans sa peau ? Ou c'est juste du sexe et ca ne change rien.
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Approaching a woman I'm truly interested in is terrifying. The stronger my desire, the more I tell myself I'm not up to it.

When I was little, my parents got along really well, and I believed love existed for real (especially with the movies Aladdin, Beauty and the Beast, Shrek, Titanic, Armageddon, etc.). Finally, they split up when I was 11. Boom.

You begin to understand that a man can love his wife with all his heart, but she can suddenly decide to say, "Bye, bye, I've found someone better than you." What's the point of investing in the relationship if she suddenly says, "Bye, bye, it's over." It's disgusting.

Growing up, I was a serious young man looking for true love while being embarrassed, afraid of rejection, and putting women on a pedestal like a goddess with the power to discard you like trash. All of this led me to years, decades of porn. When it comes to porn, there's no rejection, no investment.


You believe in love, you need love, but you no longer trust women. And with a nice-guy personality, you don't want to lie to 'take advantage' of a woman. Dating apps, from Reseau Contact to Tinder, don't attract any interesting girls. After a few unsatisfying relationships, at 25, I fell into depression, and since then, I've lived with chronic tension in my head 24/7 and chronic digestive problems as well. I'm 40 today.

It's not easy to meet an interesting girl these days. At work, at a business, as a friend of a friend, at the grocery store?

I'm thinking it would be a good idea to meet one or more escorts/courtesans to seek social interaction, affection, and sex with an escort whose experience is positive to relieve my pain, the pain of my soul. And to transfer it into real life, to approach women with less seriousness perhaps.

Have you experienced how an escort helped you heal wounds so you could move forward in life and feel better about yourself? Or is it just sex and it doesn't change anything?

 

[Enjoying life]

ENGLISH WILL FOLLOW


Approcher une femme qui m'intéresse vraiment, c'est terrifiant. Plus mon désir est fort, plus je me dis que je ne suis pas a la hauteur.
Étant petit, mes parents s'entendait super bien et je croyais que l'amour existait pour vrai (surtout avec les films Aladdin, Belle et la Bete, Shrek, Titanic, Armageddon etc..) Finalement, ils se sont séparés quand j'avais 11 ans. Boum.

Tu commences a comprendre qu'un homme peut aimer sa femme de tout son coeur, elle peut décider du jour au lendemain de dire Bye bye j'en ai trouver un meilleur que toi. A quoi ca sert de s'investir si du jour au lendemain elle te dit bye bye c'est fini. C'est dégueulasse.

En grandissant, j'étais un jeune homme sérieux qui cherchait le vrai amour tout en étant gêné, ayant peur du rejet, mettant la femme sur un piedestale comme une déesse ayant le pouvoir de te rejeter comme une ordure. Tout ca m'a mener vers des années, décennies de porno. Sur la porno, pas de rejet, pas d'investissement.

Tu crois en l'amour, tu as besoin d'amour mais tu ne fais plus confiance aux femmes. Et avec une personnalité de bon gars, tu ne veux pas mentir pour 'profiter' de la femme. Les applications de rencontre, de Reseau Contact a Tinder, tu n'attires aucune fille intéressante. Après quelques relations insatisfaisante, a 25 ans je suis tombé en depression et depuis ce temps je vis avec des tensions a la tête chronique 24h/24 et des problèmes de digestion chronique aussi. J'ai 40 ans aujourd'hui.

Ce n'est pas facile de rencontrer une fille intéressante aujourd'hui. Au travail, dans une activité, amie d'un ami, a l'épicerie ?
Je me dit que ca serait une bonne idée de rencontrer une ou des escortes/courtisanes pour aller chercher du social, de l'affection et du sexe avec une escorte avec qui l'expérience est positive pour soulager mes maux, le mal de l'âme. Et transférer dans la vie, pour approcher les femmes avec moins de sérieux peut-être.

Avez-vous vécu l'expérience qu'une escorte vous aide a guérir des blessures pour mieux avancer dans la vie et être mieux dans sa peau ? Ou c'est juste du sexe et ca ne change rien.
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Approaching a woman I'm truly interested in is terrifying. The stronger my desire, the more I tell myself I'm not up to it.

When I was little, my parents got along really well, and I believed love existed for real (especially with the movies Aladdin, Beauty and the Beast, Shrek, Titanic, Armageddon, etc.). Finally, they split up when I was 11. Boom.

You begin to understand that a man can love his wife with all his heart, but she can suddenly decide to say, "Bye, bye, I've found someone better than you." What's the point of investing in the relationship if she suddenly says, "Bye, bye, it's over." It's disgusting.

Growing up, I was a serious young man looking for true love while being embarrassed, afraid of rejection, and putting women on a pedestal like a goddess with the power to discard you like trash. All of this led me to years, decades of porn. When it comes to porn, there's no rejection, no investment.


You believe in love, you need love, but you no longer trust women. And with a nice-guy personality, you don't want to lie to 'take advantage' of a woman. Dating apps, from Reseau Contact to Tinder, don't attract any interesting girls. After a few unsatisfying relationships, at 25, I fell into depression, and since then, I've lived with chronic tension in my head 24/7 and chronic digestive problems as well. I'm 40 today.

It's not easy to meet an interesting girl these days. At work, at a business, as a friend of a friend, at the grocery store?

I'm thinking it would be a good idea to meet one or more escorts/courtesans to seek social interaction, affection, and sex with an escort whose experience is positive to relieve my pain, the pain of my soul. And to transfer it into real life, to approach women with less seriousness perhaps.

Have you experienced how an escort helped you heal wounds so you could move forward in life and feel better about yourself? Or is it just sex and it doesn't change anything?

I learned that feelings did not get me anywhere with the normal average vanilla girl! Ups and downs all the time so having different SPS with just having conversations with good kinky sex that come with no headaches is the way to go! SPS are different not the average women and have an understanding what the male needs so no BS just right to the point! Also with outcall they come to you so no going out trying to meet some BS date wasting time and money !

 

[Rebaynia]

Approaching a woman I'm truly interested in is terrifying. The stronger my desire, the more I tell myself I'm not up to it.

When I was little, my parents got along really well, and I believed love existed for real (especially with the movies Aladdin, Beauty and the Beast, Shrek, Titanic, Armageddon, etc.). Finally, they split up when I was 11. Boom.

You begin to understand that a man can love his wife with all his heart, but she can suddenly decide to say, "Bye, bye, I've found someone better than you." What's the point of investing in the relationship if she suddenly says, "Bye, bye, it's over." It's disgusting.

This happens both ways. Husband's do the same to wives. It is not only 1 gender that leaves the relationship. These decisions are done with valid reasons often. But can also be for selfish reasons. We get into relationships with the idea of forever, and as time passes some grow appart, and some find out they just aren't compatible. Sorry you went threw this, but relationships are hard work, and both parties need to contribute to it to keep love alive. Far too often 1 sits back while the other does the work, until they get tired of giving, and choose to move on to someone who will give back to them aswell. Not saying this is the case in your situation, every situation is different, but I speak from my own expierience of relationships I have chosen to walk out on.

Growing up, I was a serious young man looking for true love while being embarrassed, afraid of rejection, and putting women on a pedestal like a goddess with the power to discard you like trash. All of this led me to years, decades of porn. When it comes to porn, there's no rejection, no investment.


You believe in love, you need love, but you no longer trust women. And with a nice-guy personality, you don't want to lie to 'take advantage' of a woman. Dating apps, from Reseau Contact to Tinder, don't attract any interesting girls. After a few unsatisfying relationships, at 25, I fell into depression, and since then, I've lived with chronic tension in my head 24/7 and chronic digestive problems as well. I'm 40 today.

I do feel bad for what happens in these cases. But I don't think the nice-guy personality is exactly what you think it is.
It is generally the reference to a guy who trys to show he is a nice guy, and if things don't go exactly as he likes, a very toxic and nasty side is revieled. There is a difference between being a nice-guy, and a good guy. Unfortunately, it seems many nice-guys seem to have a similar story to this though. Problem is the woman hater showes itself when a nice-guy doesn't get his way. Aim to be a good man, not a nice-guy.

It's not easy to meet an interesting girl these days. At work, at a business, as a friend of a friend, at the grocery store?

Women say the same thing about struggling to meet a good man they feel compatible with. To the point many are choosing to avoid dating to avoid the potential bad expieriences at this point. Not willing to gamble that it may actually turn out to be a good relationship.

I'm thinking it would be a good idea to meet one or more escorts/courtesans to seek social interaction, affection, and sex with an escort whose experience is positive to relieve my pain, the pain of my soul. And to transfer it into real life, to approach women with less seriousness perhaps.

I have seen, and known a few lovlies who have gotten this benifit out of their visit. I even had one amazing soul who felt it was worth taking that gamble and is working on seeing if their interest and themselves will work out. (They sound so compatible, that it puts a smile on my face when I get updates.)

Have you experienced how an escort helped you heal wounds so you could move forward in life and feel better about yourself? Or is it just sex and it doesn't change anything?

I am not on your side of the exchange, but speak for myself only from my side, I avoid the people who their encounters mean nothing more than just sex. Yes it is a part of it, but not the only part of the interaction. If they aren't looking for a connection with the person I am, then I just am not suited for them. There are so many amazing and beautiful providers, they aren't missing out by not getting to see me. If what I am best at and need from my encounters isn't what they are looking for from the appointment, the expierience together will fall flat for both of us.

 

[Rebaynia]

I learned that feelings did not get me anywhere with the normal average vanilla girl! Ups and downs all the time so having different SPS with just having conversations with good kinky sex that come with no headaches is the way to go! SPS are different not the average women and have an understanding what the male needs so no BS just right to the point! Also with outcall they come to you so no going out trying to meet some BS date wasting time and money !

Lol the emotional roller-coaster isn't for vanilla alone. The emotional roller-coaster a sub goes threw while learning to trust and put faith in their dominate can be a lot worse.

The things I have said and accused Master of in the time I was learning to trust and have faith in someone other then myself to lead. The strength in him was to be patient and understanding, and there for me, as he understood how we look for every reason in the world why this person doesn't deserve this kind of devotion, it isn't easy to give athority over yourself to someone else. His place was to show me who he was, and that he was deserving of that kind of devotion. And aftercare is very specifically designed for emotional care after extremely kinky play. There is very much, up and downs in the kink world.

He maintains my emotional stability, so that I get to just have fun with others I am privledged to get to play with.

 

[Enjoying life]

Lol the emotional roller-coaster isn't for vanilla alone. The emotional roller-coaster a sub goes threw while learning to trust and put faith in their dominate can be a lot worse.

The things I have said and accused Master of in the time I was learning to trust and have faith in someone other then myself to lead. The strength in him was to be patient and understanding, and there for me, as he understood how we look for every reason in the world why this person doesn't deserve this kind of devotion, it isn't easy to give athority over yourself to someone else. His place was to show me who he was, and that he was deserving of that kind of devotion. And aftercare is very specifically designed for emotional care after extremely kinky play. There is very much, up and downs in the kink world.

He maintains my emotional stability, so that I get to just have fun with others I am privledged to get to play with.

Sounds perfect! Its always very exciting meet new people! How do married people do it? Alot of BS thats for sure! One married guy at work told me, “You are lucky to be free”, as he was drooling at other women!

 

[Rebaynia]

Sounds perfect! Its always very exciting meet new people! How do married people do it? Alot of BS thats for sure! One married guy at work told me, “You are lucky to be free”, as he was drooling at other women!

Lol. I can't speak for them lol... as I can guarantee you Master doesn't have that issue at all. We check out attractive women together, and i can't fault him, when he is more discreet than me when I see an attractive woman.
His easiest out of that, is asking me what I have in mind for her.