Ask us anything part 2

[LC18]

The first one was getting very long. Please refer to it to see what this thread is about.

Try and not ask the same question twice, you can use the search tool to see if your question is already on merb.

 

[Rebaynia]

To answer questions that didn't get a chance to be answered.

@Jaxan

At times, do you ever feel like you walk a fine line between a sex therapist and a mental health therapist? Hope the extra services are included in the rate, lol

Yes it is a place where my expieriences in life come in handy, and makes me feel validated as an educated person. It makes a visit feel more worth it to be able to make a lasting positive impact.
Lol. I think we can cost as much as them. Already no need to charge more It is the bonus expierience.

@Nachoy

How do you deal with hurtful feelings that can result from others in your “normal” life when he/she finds about your secret job, and makes negative “slut shaming” comments ?
Have you had a client shame you for what you do?

I don't hide what I do for a living. It isn't something I feel needs to be secret. Secret to me means it is something shameful, and embracing myself involves not feeling ashamed about who and what I am.
And anyone worth being part of my life needs to be able to accept and not be ashamed, or feel the need to shame me either. People like that don't deserve to be part of my life.

A client is in no position to shame us. Their only position should be to be grateful we are available to them. To shame the girl you call is only a refection of yourself.

 

[FrenchSecrets]

To answer questions that didn't get a chance to be answered.

@Jaxan

At times, do you ever feel like you walk a fine line between a sex therapist and a mental health therapist? Hope the extra services are included in the rate, lol

Yes it is a place where my expieriences in life come in handy, and makes me feel validated as an educated person. It makes a visit feel more worth it to be able to make a lasting positive impact.
Lol. I think we can cost as much as them. Already no need to charge more It is the bonus expierience.

@Nachoy

How do you deal with hurtful feelings that can result from others in your “normal” life when he/she finds about your secret job, and makes negative “slut shaming” comments ?
Have you had a client shame you for what you do?

I don't hide what I do for a living. It isn't something I feel needs to be secret. Secret to me means it is something shameful, and embracing myself involves not feeling ashamed about who and what I am.
And anyone worth being part of my life needs to be able to accept and not be ashamed, or feel the need to shame me either. People like that don't deserve to be part of my life.

A client is in no position to shame us. Their only position should be to be grateful we are available to them. To shame the girl you call is only a refection of yourself.

Yes! It’s so refreshing having a fantastic Mistress come to me and cater to my kinky needs and not judge me at all!

 

[funnyricky]

First sentence,i agree...but for the second one....well if you think like that? what about us,customer,you(SP girl) should be grateful that we call you for appointment? No?

 

[Rebaynia]

Yes. I agree to that in a way. But there are also the kinds that don't make the screening processes. I didn't mean it to sound onesided. I am grateful for those I am privledged to spend time with.

Doesn't mean I see everyone who contacts me. Many don't pass the screening. Not just expecting that you called, but that you could present yourself in a manner that I am comfortable to see you, is what I'm grateful for. The rest don't get to see me. Just because they called doesn't mean I am grateful for them... I have had many contacts that can lead to no where, and a few numbers i have had to block.

I was refering to the very kind of client who might call an SP, and then slut shame them. I don't believe one side over the other holds a moral highground.

LoL. What can I say, the idea of the disrespect brings out my dominant side. I may be a submissive, to my master, but he earned my submission.

 

[Nachoy]

Yes. I agree to that in a way. But there are also the kinds that don't make the screening processes. I didn't mean it to sound onesided. I am grateful for those I am privledged to spend time with.

Doesn't mean I see everyone who contacts me. Many don't pass the screening. Not just expecting that you called, but that you could present yourself in a manner that I am comfortable to see you, is what I'm grateful for. The rest don't get to see me. Just because they called doesn't mean I am grateful for them... I have had many contacts that can lead to no where, and a few numbers i have had to block.

I was refering to the very kind of client who might call an SP, and then slut shame them. I don't believe one side over the other holds a moral highground.

LoL. What can I say, the idea of the disrespect brings out my dominant side. I may be a submissive, to my master, but he earned my submission.

Do you ever switch it up and play the dom role?
Are you sub by nature outside the bedroom ?

 

[bodick7]

I found it very cool that more and more girls are getting involved in board discussions.
Your POVs are very valuable and appreciated. I guess some of us are presently taking notes. Ha!Ha!
Thank You for doing so.

 

[Rebaynia]

Do you ever switch it up and play the dom role?
Are you sub by nature outside the bedroom ?

I am what comes out of me when I see someone... If the man I see is naturally submissive, my inner beast seems to take over. Primal preditor, is the best way to refer to that side.
If the person is dominant in a way I can respect, my submissive side comes out.
If someone is dominant in a way I don't respect, I will fight them on who is the more dominant, and refuse to submit. I've refered to that side as an 'alpha submissive.' Incapable of submitting, and have overpowered many a dom who tried to dominate me in the wrong way. Often my dominant side has come out as a protective measure in the past. I am not a domme, it doesn't intrigue me to be full out domme. I'd tend to call it more a primal responce.

The funniest part is my master hasn't seen that side, and according to him he can't picture his slave ever being dominant. He had my heart submit to him, and he has earned my trust, so he doesn't get the resistant side of me, and I am submissive always with him.

But these sides aren't present with everyone. Only those who the chemistry seems right with. Otherwise I am often just seen as a sweetheart by friends. Likely as a submissive, rather nieve person I guess, because I tend to pull out a protective nature out of most people I meet.

 

[FrenchSecrets]

I think it is easier to say I have a wild side that while kissing will bring out different sides depending on the chemistry awaken by that person.

I am what comes out of me when I see someone... If the man I see is naturally submissive, my inner beast seems to enjoy dominating. Primal preditor, is the best way to refer to that side.
If the person is dominant in a way I can respect, my submissive side comes out.
If someone is dominant in a way I don't respect, I will fight them on who is the more dominant, and refuse to submit.
Though once I am/do dominate a guy, being submissive to him is out of the question.

The funniest part is my master hasn't seen that side, and according to him he can't picture his slave ever being dominant. He had my heart submit to him, and he has earned my trust, so he doesn't get the resistant side of me.
Often my dominant side has come out as a protective measure. I am not a domme, it doesn't intrigue me to be full out domme. I'd tend to call it more primal. An instinctual reaction to the person I meet.

It would be a lot of fun seeing your primal side! Great pictures!

 

[Nachoy]

Have you ever had a client have a heart attack during the session?

 

[Rebaynia]

Have you ever had a client have a heart attack during the session?

No, thank god. Something i am prepared for, but wish never happens.

 

[rando555]

For personal relationships, how do you guys maintain a healthy and happy relationship past the six year mark?

I've known so many married couples that start off super strong and then fall apart.

The smartest thing I've heard from an SP is that both individuals should live separate and help each other work on their goals.

 

[Nachoy]

No, thank god. Something i am prepared for, but wish never happens.

How does one prepare for this? Other than doing CPR, I think there is a need to call for outside help and all discretion is lost

 

[LC18]

Maybe she set up a quick and reliable way to dispose of the body?

Uh?

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

For personal relationships, how do you guys maintain a healthy and happy relationship past the six year mark?

I've known so many married couples that start off super strong and then fall apart.

The smartest thing I've heard from an SP is that both individuals should live separate and help each other work on their goals.

Communication, affective connection, therapy, honesty, seeing this person as your bestest friend and not only a lover or partner. It takes work everyday to make it work but love is the most wonderful adventure of all.

 

[Nachoy]

In the future will there be a time you would consider only having sex when love is involved

 

[Snuggles]

A few questions, beard or body hair, is stubbies the problems? Are pets or allergies a problem, say a sp has a peanut allergy or something. Ever had a client who still lived with their parents?

 

[LC18]

A few questions, beard or body hair, is stubbies the problems? Are pets or allergies a problem, say a sp has a peanut allergy or something. Ever had a client who still lived with their parents?

Allergies aren’t an issue. I don’t provide food and we don’t have any pets at my incall.

How would I know if my client lives with his parents? It’s not usually something they shout when they walk in my apartment.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

In the future will there be a time you would consider only having sex when love is involved

My personnal sex life and my job are two different very distinct things.

 

[CuriousGent]

A client has performance anxiety and takes a long time to get an erection or loses his erection during the session, would you rather he tells you this before the meeting? would this allow you to approach the meeting differently in trying to put him at ease or would you rather not see the client in case it takes to much effort to get him hard?