I’m speaking the experience from one of my good friend who is still happily together with her boyfriend for 11 years.For personal relationships, how do you guys maintain a healthy and happy relationship past the six year mark?
Be yourself but not too comfortable. All of us have a big filter for strangers and a smaller filter for the ones closer to us. What has been said can’t be taken back. fighting is normal and healthy but it is very hard to have consideration and empathy for the other person on the heat of the moment. It’s better to chill down first and then fight/ talk/ whatever.
put work in a relationship as if you are running a business and every decision have consequences. A relationship don’t maintain “happy” or “healthy” without effort and care.
DONT EVER TAKE YOUR PARTNER FOR GRANTED. take time to think and appreciate the things they did for you. (I think the longest “relationship” I had is with clients who seen me from day one and are still there for me. It’s been 2 years, if you read this and recognise it, I’m extremely grateful and happy to have you in my life. )
No one is perfect, We all make mistakes, forgiveness is extremely valuable. I believe bad things should stay in the past. It’s pointless to bring the bad past mistake out everytime there’s an argument.
I believe similar core values are extremely important.
Acceptance and compromise as well. No one is perfect, we all have flaw. Our partner can tone down their flaws for you but it will never be gone. And no one can change another person unless that person wants to change. The question “can I accept the other person’s flaws and live with it” is extremely important. People come together from attraction first. We see the good quality in another person, we get to know them, we see the bad side too and can we accept the other person as a whole, with good and bad?
I believe love is not what my partner has to offer, what can I do for my partner?
Life is a roller coaster. We are born, we live and then we all die one day. I believe life is a journey to learn to be a better person, and it would be wonderful to share life together with someone we cherish.
“ for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish“
Those marriage vows are classic for a reason and often we forget them. I believe the keys to a happy and healthy relationship are very transparent and straightforward like those vows.
Enjoy life
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