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[Rebaynia]

Would you ever consider being a client and paying for companionship ?

Lol.. back when I was 19 I tried this. I asked for a guy who was in his 20's and had a guy who looked to be in his late 30's show up lol, sure he was in shape, but was disappointed to see what to me at that time was an old man show up, when i wanted someone close to my age. It really wasn't anything to brag about. Another man with an inflated ego on thinking fucking is how to please a woman. I was disappointed and decided it wasn't worth it.

I've had better men and better expieriences from dating sites when I was single from guys looking to earn a place as a regular ff. What can I say when single I played guys like guys get accused of playing girls. Difference being, dealing with men ment I could be honest with them, and they all knew about eachother. I had a personal rule of, if it wasn't established as a monogamous relationship, then I'm under the assumption your dateing other people, so so am I, and I am not the type to hide it. (It was also a protective mechanism to not fall for someome who would inevitably break my heart if I got too attached)

 

[DouMan]

(It was also a protective mechanism to not fall for someome who would inevitably break my heart if I got too attached)

 

[Nachoy]

The SP’s main job is to please their clients and be appreciated and rewarded
How important is it to you that you get pleased sexually as much as the client during the session?

 

[Rebaynia]

When I fall, I fall hard and my heart can be hurt too easily. And after being hurt so much in life. I was dead set against falling in love again.

It took my kids pushing me that I deserved love, and self work to see men as more than just toys to play with (viewing men the way misogynistic men view women, after a long time of being a single mom), and a relationship where he had to fight with me to break down barriers to try and show me love was worth taking a gamble on.

Unfortunately I needed what I have with my master now, and that relationship with that ex wasn't it. When I had to shut down my ability to enjoy kink for that relationship, it shut down my desire in life all together.

My master tends to focus more on rebuilding my mental health, and attempts to get me back to when I was able to enjoy life, while ensuring I have the best of both worlds, fun while working, and I get my kink and love with him. And my submissive heart is protected by him.

 

[Rebaynia]

The SP’s main job is to please their clients and be appreciated and rewarded
How important is it to you that you get pleased sexually as much as the client during the session?

I tend to have more fun treating clients as toys. Seeing them as puzzles, what makes them tick, till they explode. Sex aside it is more important they treat me as an equal and appreciate me as a person. I am flattered when they want to try to please me, but I am not easy to please. So it is nice when we get time to connect in other ways than just their pleasure.

 

[NatashaSnow]

The SP’s main job is to please their clients and be appreciated and rewarded
How important is it to you that you get pleased sexually as much as the client during the session?

zero.

*However*, i will be significantly more important to me if i see it really matters to you. Matter as in genuinely wanting to reciprocate and give pleasure and not doing all sorts of crazy fuckery under the pretext of caring about giving said pleasure but just wants to give himself asspats afterwards.
One obviously is alert to my reactions and sometimes even engages a feedback loop. The other is on his own planet.
For the former group, i want you to have the best time and that clearly includes my pleasure and so I will guide to that. The latter i won’t bother.

 

[FrenchSecrets]

When I fall, I fall hard and my heart can be hurt too easily. And after being hurt so much in life. I was dead set against falling in love again.

It took my kids pushing me that I deserved love, and self work to see men as more than just toys to play with (viewing men the way misogynistic men view women, after a long time of being a single mom), and a relationship where he had to fight with me to break down barriers to try and show me love was worth taking a gamble on.

Unfortunately I needed what I have with my master now, and that relationship with that ex wasn't it. When I had to shut down my ability to enjoy kink for that relationship, it shut down my desire in life all together.

My master tends to focus more on rebuilding my mental health, and attempts to get me back to when I was able to enjoy life, while ensuring I have the best of both worlds, fun while working, and I get my kink and love with him. And my submissive heart is protected by him.

I enjoy my mistress as I learned that my libido is much more stronger than being in a normal relationship ! I can be free and do things I could not do before!

 

[Giselle Montreal]

The SP’s main job is to please their clients and be appreciated and rewarded
How important is it to you that you get pleased sexually as much as the client during the session?

Not important.

It is not my moment, it is yours! And often, clients confuse pleasure with orgasm. One of the things that turns me off the most is when a client says that he won't come before I do. I come when I feel I want to, because the moment and our energy get me there, not because I am physically stimulated or we ask me to. I do not come every time I have intercourse, and pressuring me to orgasm is setting yourself up for failure. Sex to me is far more than an orgasm. I find pleasure in many ways during our encounter, and it's not only sexual!

 

[Nachoy]

Orgasm.
Can tell in men by much cum he can shot out
How do I know if a woman cums/orgasm?
Is there a physical sign?
Not every woman squirts

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Orgasm.
Can tell in men by much cum he can shot out
How do I know if a woman cums/orgasm?
Is there a physical sign?
Not every woman squirts

Everyone is different but usually there are contractions in the vaginal canal and the clitoris is more erected with excitation. However, just ask your partner and believe them. Orgasms should never be pressured and usually the more you press for an orgasm and the less likely you will give one to your partner I know I have very specific ways to make myself orgasmed and sometimes I have a better time without orgasms, it depends on the moment I am in my menstrual cycle.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Would you ever consider being a client and paying for companionship ?

I already did twice in the past. But right now I do not feel like it. I don't really like to have this kind of relationship with my colleagues (paying them) but this could change depending on the situation. I am always afraid I would contribute to the exploitation of someone so I would be very specific in who I choose to hire. I do like when my colleagues hire me, I feel extra special and lucky

 

[FrenchSecrets]

Not important.

It is not my moment, it is yours! And often, clients confuse pleasure with orgasm. One of the things that turns me off the most is when a client says that he won't come before I do. I come when I feel I want to, because the moment and our energy get me there, not because I am physically stimulated or we ask me to. I do not come every time I have intercourse, and pressuring me to orgasm is setting yourself up for failure. Sex to me is far more than an orgasm. I find pleasure in many ways during our encounter, and it's not only sexual!

I don’t know why some men settle down and then there is no sex or bjs anymore and they are stuck in a situation they cannot get out of cause they are tied down with money with the wife! I know of one guy as he could have a blast with some great women on here and his wife makes excuses not to have sex ! It’s better to be free and explore I find!

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

I think many of us here do not want to contribute to the exploitation of anyone either, so, if you don’t mind me asking, what are the signs you look for to assess whether someone is being exploited?

Well Indy Companion is a good start as we are a community and providers need to be independant to join. Of course we don't know what happens in their home, etc. but they do need to attend in-person meetings with our committee members. After that... you need to do your research, is the person active on social medias, seem to have community, etc... but you can't really know for sure. Sex work is a spectrum and we all have different approach or reasons for doing this work. It is tricky. For me, I really went with the vibe of the website and how they present online and in person when I met them during social events.

 

[Rebaynia]

I don’t know why some men settle down and then there is no sex or bjs anymore and they are stuck in a situation they cannot get out of cause they are tied down with money with the wife! I know of one guy as he could have a blast with some great women on here and his wife makes excuses not to have sex ! It’s better to be free and explore I find!

There is a difference between sex and love. Maybe his wife isn't able to have sex because it hurts, but still loves and cares for him.
It isn't always as black and white as people outside the relationship may think. There is also a sense of security in marriage. If he's ill she is there to take care of him. He isn't alone. Hiring a girl for just an hour isn't going to love and care for him the same way. And after years with someone, sometimes it's hard to imagine what life would be without that person.

 

[FrenchSecrets]

There is a difference between sex and love. Maybe his wife isn't able to have sex because it hurts, but still loves and cares for him.
It isn't always as black and white as people outside the relationship may think. There is also a sense of security in marriage. If he's ill she is there to take care of him. He isn't alone. Hiring a girl for just an hour isn't going to love and care for him the same way. And after years with someone, sometimes it's hard to imagine what life would be without that person.

Actually he is very frustrated and upset! She would not be with him if he did not bring in what he is bringing! She is using him but he does not care as he does not want to be alone! That is not a situation to be in! Also, she was doing the pleasing in the beginning but once she got things she stopped! The thing is there is no love only on his side!

 

[Jaxan]

At times, do you ever feel like you walk a fine line between a sex therapist and a mental health therapist? Hope the extra services are included in the rate, lol

 

[Nachoy]

How do you deal with hurtful feelings that can result from others in your “normal” life when he/she finds about your secret job, and makes negative “slut shaming” comments ?
Have you had a client shame you for what you do?