Ask us anything part 2

[Mika xx]

For personal relationships, how do you guys maintain a healthy and happy relationship past the six year mark?

I’m speaking the experience from one of my good friend who is still happily together with her boyfriend for 11 years.

Be yourself but not too comfortable. All of us have a big filter for strangers and a smaller filter for the ones closer to us. What has been said can’t be taken back. fighting is normal and healthy but it is very hard to have consideration and empathy for the other person on the heat of the moment. It’s better to chill down first and then fight/ talk/ whatever.

put work in a relationship as if you are running a business and every decision have consequences. A relationship don’t maintain “happy” or “healthy” without effort and care.

DONT EVER TAKE YOUR PARTNER FOR GRANTED. take time to think and appreciate the things they did for you. (I think the longest “relationship” I had is with clients who seen me from day one and are still there for me. It’s been 2 years, if you read this and recognise it, I’m extremely grateful and happy to have you in my life. )

No one is perfect, We all make mistakes, forgiveness is extremely valuable. I believe bad things should stay in the past. It’s pointless to bring the bad past mistake out everytime there’s an argument.

I believe similar core values are extremely important.

Acceptance and compromise as well. No one is perfect, we all have flaw. Our partner can tone down their flaws for you but it will never be gone. And no one can change another person unless that person wants to change. The question “can I accept the other person’s flaws and live with it” is extremely important. People come together from attraction first. We see the good quality in another person, we get to know them, we see the bad side too and can we accept the other person as a whole, with good and bad?

I believe love is not what my partner has to offer, what can I do for my partner?

Life is a roller coaster. We are born, we live and then we all die one day. I believe life is a journey to learn to be a better person, and it would be wonderful to share life together with someone we cherish.

“ for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish“

Those marriage vows are classic for a reason and often we forget them. I believe the keys to a happy and healthy relationship are very transparent and straightforward like those vows.

Enjoy life

 

[Kiyana]

Around what percentage of clients have premature ejaculation and how do you deal with it during a session? Has it ever ruined the moment or surprised you?

 The client knows when they are having an early ejaculation, So I take more my time with him

 

[bodick7]

While that is an option I didn't think about, I've had multiple providers leave random things at my place. Wondering if it was intentional.

There must be tons of clients (as I sometimes did) who unintentionally leaves stuff at an incall. I just can imagine it's the same for girls but in a lesser proportion.

 

[Mika xx]

While that is an option I didn't think about, I've had multiple providers leave random things at my place. Wondering if it was intentional.

Small anecdote when I was with Vog:
“Merde j’ai oublié mon sac de condom chez mon premier client pis j’ai d’autres calls après”

Yes absolutely, we do it intentionally 200% every single time

 

[mauricevachon]

I only found out when I was 50 that women can contract vaginal muscles to make a guy SOG fast.
No one ever did that with me before.

Are women:

A) Not aware that they can make a guy cum faster by contracting vaginal muscles?

or

B) They are aware .... but they keep their vaginal muscles loose to prolong the sex?

 

[Nachoy]

What do you do sexually with your BF that you don’t generally don’t do with clients

 

[Rebaynia]

What do you do sexually with your BF that you don’t generally don’t do with clients

My master may do whatever he wants, wherever he wants, however he wants. But that is part of the trust I have in him. His love for me also means he is more likely to take better care of me then I would myself.

While when I am working, there are restrictions for safety, and anal is not available, mental health reasons. Neither is the total submission I have for him. If someone trys to force submission, when they don't have permission for it, they will find themselves corrected.

 

[Rebaynia]

I only found out when I was 50 that women can contract vaginal muscles to make a guy SOG fast.
No one ever did that with me before.

Are women:

A) Not aware that they can make a guy cum faster by contracting vaginal muscles?

or

B) They are aware .... but they keep their vaginal muscles loose to prolong the sex?

Because it takes concentration to do kegals exercises while in the moment and isn't something that encourages her own pleasure but breaks the pleasure aspect and makes it even more work. It is mucils that need to be worked, not in intimate moments, to be easier to flex effortlessly in the moment.

Like doing pushups when in missionary instead of Just enjoying the pleasure you get while thrusting...

 

[wiinston17]

If someone trys to force submission, when they don't have permission for it, they will find themselves corrected.

Uncoerced and enthusiastic consent must be present at all times otherwise it's rape.

 

[wiinston17]

I only found out when I was 50 that women can contract vaginal muscles to make a guy SOG fast.

I'm sure this practice is used more often when you pay by the shot and not by the hour.

 

[DouMan]

Uncoerced and enthusiastic consent must be present at all times otherwise it's rape.

I agree with your point 100% but I think @Rebaynia is more referring to the BDSM term of "submission"

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

What do you do sexually with your BF that you don’t generally don’t do with clients

Love

 

[Rebaynia]

Uncoerced and enthusiastic consent must be present at all times otherwise it's rape.

Men tend to not realize some of their ways can be taken as undesired movements. Like trying to push a girls head to his crotch. Not ask or gentle suggestion to imply his desire, but actually try to force it.

Trying to force deepthroat by attempting to hold her head and thrust rather then let her go to her pace or comfort levels. She may get there, but on her own terms not having him damage her throat. There are things guys do, and to them don't realize it is not acceptable.

There are still many out there that seem to run with the mindset they are paying and will make it the expierience they demand. Unless it is agreed on in advance. They don't get to demand anything.

I handle the situations with class and tact. Where they get the message. But often to them they don't see it or understand it as inappropriate, because the average girl doesn't realize she gets to voice her distaste at these behaviors, and he need to be taught or instructed otherwise.

There is a right way and a wrong way to get the expierience desired. But some men, unfortunately enough to make me feel the need to make it crystal clear. Don't realize how inappropriate it is to push or attempt to manhandle when faced with resistance. Not every girl has the voice to speak up and their resistance is their means to show they don't want to.

 

[Rebaynia]

I agree with your point 100% but I think @Rebaynia is more referring to the BDSM term of "submission"

Not refering to bdsm submission, but men who try to force a submission by will and physical manipulation.

The kind of guys i refer to as false doms. Because there is no comunication just trying to physically dominate without concent. They often refer to themselves as dominant, but really it's just disreguard to someones limitations and pushing their desires.

 

[Nachoy]

During your typical day
What proportion of the clients you service

1 Cum once in one hour session
2 Cum twice or more in one hour session
3 Cannot cum at all

 

[WilliamStub]

Can you describe interactions where you felt genuine - and mutual - kindness / empathy with a client? (ie: Not something romantic or purely sexual in nature).

 

[Rebaynia]

Can you describe interactions where you felt genuine - and mutual - kindness / empathy with a client? (ie: Not something romantic or purely sexual in nature).

Yes like i have had a client who would pay the hour and if he hadn't finished within the first 30 minutes would still call off the sexual part of the visit, and we would have coffee time just so he had time for conversations and coffee. And we would talk about camping and fishing and how his family (his dad and siblings) were doing. He would show concern for my safety in doing this work.
Many visits the sexual side can end in like 5-30 minutes and we then get lost in conversation or massage, sometimes a round 2, but not always. Much of the time the rest of the visit just happens to be like cuddling and talking with a friend or gf while naked. Most interactions tend to feel genuine i would think.

 

[Gazoo64]

Many visits the sexual side can end in like 5-30 minutes and we then get lost in conversation or massage, sometimes a round 2, but not always. Much of the time the rest of the visit just happens to be like cuddling and talking with a friend or gf while naked. Most interactions tend to feel genuine i would think.

Good answer, and glad to hear that some interactions feel genuine!!
That’s how I feel about my interactions with my ATF. It’s not just the sex part (which is great), but the conversations, cuddling, etc that makes it feel genuine and natural.

I see a few ladies regularly and they’re all great (at least for me), but it seems even better with my ATF!

 

[WilliamStub]

Many visits the sexual side can end in like 5-30 minutes and we then get lost in conversation or massage, sometimes a round 2, but not always. Much of the time the rest of the visit just happens to be like cuddling and talking with a friend or gf while naked. Most interactions tend to feel genuine i would think.

Yeah I think you are capturing the gist of a positive encounter for me. Room for both people not to feel like the encounter is purely transactional, respect and space for each other’s personal lives, sexual chemistry and a genuine desire for the encounter to be pleasant for everyone.

I’ve often offered to give massages after a session. I like touching people and I feel like we’ve lost almost all casual physical contact during the pandemic. Are there great (or bad) “after-sex” interactions that make you want to see a client again?

W.

 

[OHenry]

I feel a strong turn on with a particular SP and want to see her at least 2-3 times a month but at the MP there is the time and noise factor that is off-putting. Is there a good way to suggest a different place or arrangement ?
How do you not become infatuated ?