Ask us anything part 3

[LC18]

As an SP, how do you like your very first minute to be with your 1st-time client? When you see them, what is your approach in greeting and the following minute? Hug, kiss on the cheek or no touching until play time begins? In a hotel setting or if you are heading to a pub/cafe to hang out for a bit, is holding hands or having their hands around your lower back into the venue/elevator to let you in first weird?
To me, it is almost always uncomfortable if I am meeting an SP for the first time which is mostly the case as I am new to the MTL SW industry. Yes the SP is there for whatever service the we agreed for but that doesn’t change the fact that we are seeing each other for the first time which can make touching a bit awkward. On the other hand, not touching could also feel awkward because we both know what we are there for.

Incall
A lot of people might think it’s cold but I will not kiss you if we just met, I might hug you if I feel like you’d be comfortable with that.

If you come to me, I’ll offer to take your jacket, small talk and wait for you to put your stuff away and before inviting you in the living room. (That would be a good time to leave the money on a table) I’ll get touchy then, not before. I still have to feel your vibe and figure out if you’re gonna hurt me or not.

If I feel you’re nervous because it’s your first time doing this or it’s your first time doing me, I’ll offer a few options to calm you down.

Public meeting except hotels
Oddly enough, I will kiss you on the cheeks but only so that it’s not weird for people around us. I want it to look like friends that already know each other or maybe two people finally meeting in person after chatting on a dating site. I won’t mention money but will expect an envelope or an empty gift bag with money in it. I’ll count it when it’s appropriate.

Outcall
I will quickly get in your room in case there are people in the hallway. I might hug if I feel it’s ok. I’ll excuse myself to the bathroom to quickly freshen up. (This would be a good place to leave the money)

 

[Halloween Mike]

Clients
What if your favourite SP were to ask you if you wanted to be friends? Without benefits.

Would you accept and stop seeing her for sex or would you decline and keep seeing her for sex?

Friendzoning yourself on purpose? Damn... lol. It obviously depend if im allow to be a client at the same time or not. If she tell me we will just be friend and never do anything sexually ever again (cause it would be awkward for her or such), then i would likely say no because that would be just "too hard" ...pun intended and in both sense of the term. The first reason i booked her lets be honest was because of pictures or reviews...or other words, her workline. So obviously im sexually attracted to her. In the context of becoming friends it imply we seen each other multiple times, so if i book multiple times its i enjoyed the "service" so yeah purposely cutting this for myself ... I guess the only time i could think about it is if for some reasons i REALLY enjoy her PERSONALITY a lot, yet im not that attracted to her physically. Like if for exemple we share interest in stuff like movies, video games or other "nerdy stuff". But then i doubt i would book her enough time to develop that "friendship crave". Because personally im not a high volume client. I can do this just so often so i obviously make the best out of it in term of sexual needs. Especially since i never have sex in a "civilian context".

Now if she ask me to be friend but totally allow me to be a client (no freebies, but pay for sex when its what i want, but see me as a friend casually) then i supose yes. There is always the fear to develop feelings beyond whats "autorized" but i guess in my case i know my place and to not "cross the line".

There was a couple SPs over the years i got a bit "closer" than just meet for work type of meetings but never to the point of "hanging out" semi often or such.

Incall
A lot of people might think it’s cold but I will not kiss you if we just met, I might hug you if I feel like you’d be comfortable with that.

Do you mean at the very start before shower and such or the whole session? Just curious if i understand correctly.

 

[Julia Sky]

I can't help feeling awkward about asking a lady I have been with if she minds being a reference so I can meet a new provider. It feels like I'm insulting her somehow. How do you as a provider feel when asked?

Sharing is caring! I don't feel any type of way about it, I'm just glad my colleagues make money and clients are having fun. I often recommend my friends as well. There is enough money for everyone and I don't believe in gatekeeping pleasure

 

[Halloween Mike]

Inutile de mettre le tarif. 99,9% des clients ne prennent pas la peine de lire. Lol

Et puis ca permet à la demoiselle de choisir son tarif en fonction de différents facteurs, j'imagine (type de service, mood du jour, besoins financiers, budget du client)...

C'est aussi malheureusement une perte de temps pour les 2 dans certain cas. Il y a bien des providers que je bookerais (ou considerais booker) a un tarif mais pas a un autre. Et j'essaye de me mettre une limite aussi a ne pas depasser. (Tel prix est trop haut, peu importe c'est qui a moins d'etre une semi celebrité genre pornstar ou instagram famous). Je trouve ca tellement akward de texter pour demander le tarif. J'essaye d'etre le moins time waster possible et quand tu texte en ayant pas une intention solide de booker, ca fait time waster.

 

[LC18]

Do you mean at the very start before shower and such or the whole session? Just curious if i understand correctly.

“I will not kiss you if we just met” because the person asked how I would greet a new client.

I will kiss them after “I’ll get touchy then”

 

[Giselle Montreal]

As an SP, how do you like your very first minute to be with your 1st-time client? When you see them, what is your approach in greeting and the following minute? Hug, kiss on the cheek or no touching until play time begins?

If we have never met before, I will kiss you on the cheeks and I need 5 minutes at least to size your vibe and who you are, and to acclimate to your presence. If the said new client starts to touch me, get close to me and want to french kiss in those 5 minutes (especially if he didn't give me my consideration yet), it makes me uncomfortable. I don't think a few minutes is too much to ask even though we know why you are here, we are strangers after all and I'm human and in a vulnerable position.

 

[Halloween Mike]

“I will not kiss you if we just met” because the person asked how I would greet a new client.

I will kiss them after “I’ll get touchy then”

Ah ok !! Yeah thinking of it i never gone for kissing a provider at the greeting step either. When i arrive to an incall i say hi and such, but then i immediately ask to go to the shower because i need a bit of time after shower to feel comfortable starting. Even if i dry myself with a towell i still kinda feel "wet" and i don't like that.

If outcall we go to the bed and talk a bit, sometimes she ask to go refresh in bathroom (wich is cool) then when she come back its when it start.

 

[Sylar]

Friendzoning yourself on purpose? Damn... lol. It obviously depend if im allow to be a client at the same time or not. If she tell me we will just be friend and never do anything sexually ever again (cause it would be awkward for her or such), then i would likely say no because that would be just "too hard" ...pun intended and in both sense of the term. The first reason i booked her lets be honest was because of pictures or reviews...or other words, her workline.

Interesting perspective. I have had ONS or flings for several weeks / months that turned into long term friendship without anything sexual after.

 

[Sylar]

I don't think a few minutes is too much to ask even though we know why you are here, we are strangers after all and I'm human and in a vulnerable position.

Sometimes it takes me 5 minutes to be sure I am at the right address!

 

[LC18]

Ah ok !! Yeah thinking of it i never gone for kissing a provider at the greeting step either. When i arrive to an incall i say hi and such, but then i immediately ask to go to the shower because i need a bit of time after shower to feel comfortable starting. Even if i dry myself with a towell i still kinda feel "wet" and i don't like that.

If outcall we go to the bed and talk a bit, sometimes she ask to go refresh in bathroom (wich is cool) then when she come back its when it start.

It’s happened to me on a duo date. The other girl went straight for a kiss so I had to do the same. I wasn’t gonna stand there with my hands behind my back

 

[Halloween Mike]

Interesting perspective. I have had ONS or flings for several weeks / months that turned into long term friendship without anything sexual after.

Im different than normality. Like i said i never slept with a civilian. So i can't compare this to just having some ONS or "fuck buddies" that eventually we realize we better just be friends and get back on the market for the sex stuff. Here we talking of an SP i specifically chose to book because i was drawn to her sexually.

 

[Sylar]

Would you ever introduce a client to a very close friend of yours who is not in the industry because you think they’d be a good fit?

 

[Fradi]

I could easily be friends with my ATF if we stop having sex and one other lady also.
It is not just about sex with these ladies, they are kind thoughtful human beings and I would be proud to have them as friends always.
I consider them as friends now so I don’t see why we can’t be after also.
They are both amazing young women. and have made my life a lot better and I will always be thankful to them for that.

 

[LC18]

Would you ever introduce a client to a very close friend of yours who is not in the industry because you think they’d be a good fit?

I would but he would have to stop seeing me because I don’t sleep with my friend’s boyfriends

 

[Julia Sky]

Would you ever introduce a client to a very close friend of yours who is not in the industry because you think they’d be a good fit?

No I wouldn't. I don't want to see my friends be heartbroken because their BF cheated with an escort and unfortunately that's always a risk with a lot of clients.

 

[Sylar]

Like i said i never slept with a civilian.

I was not aware. How come if you dont mind me asking?
Funny enough based on your posting on the board, we seem to have the same interests, and I meant outside of the hobby

 

[LC18]

For clients
Those of you travelling to a different city and booking 4-5 girls, how and why?

Are you not physically exhausted? The way some of you are f******, I cannot believe you’re be able to do that twice a day.

Also why do you want to see so many girls, sometimes in the same day? Might make it harder to cum the second time too.

Why not 2 and repeat? You could build on the intensity and have an even better second encounter.

 

[Halloween Mike]

I was not aware. How come if you dont mind me asking?
Funny enough based on your posting on the board, we seem to have the same interests, and I meant outside of the hobby

Struggled with weight all my life. Fluctuate between 350 and 205. Of course one is better than the other . Live in a village. I don't drive (don't want to). Can't be sexually attracted to women heavier than me... Not after years of escorts... Maybe im broken inside by the business. Im not a psychologist but if i was it would be my conclusion.

That said i waited til mid 20s til i met escorts. Had horroble local experiences at 22 and then at 24 found merb...changed my life. But ill admit i was already a porn consumer.

I think having few girlfriends/date as a kid/teen contributed. I had 2 and thats it.

Anyway the past is the past. We can only move forward.

 

[DouMan]

Struggled with weight all my life. Fluctuate between 350 and 205. Of course one is better than the other . Live in a village. I don't drive (don't want to). Can't be sexually attracted to women heavier than me... Not after years of escorts... Maybe im broken inside by the business. Im not a psychologist but if i was it would be my conclusion.

That said i waited til mid 20s til i met escorts. Had horroble local experiences at 22 and then at 24 found merb...changed my life. But ill admit i was already a porn consumer.

I think having few girlfriends/date as a kid/teen contributed. I had 2 and thats it.

Anyway the past is the past. We can only move forward.

A lovely and generous tip of the hat to this noble and ever so important art that is professional sex work.

Many thanks @Halloween Mike for sharing these deep felt words that resonate with many of us.

To each and every honest and professional Sex Worker out there those of us who resonate HM's few but so important words thank you for being there.

 

[Sylar]

Also why do you want to see so many girls, sometimes in the same day? Might make it harder to cum the second time too.

Why not 2 and repeat? You could build on the intensity and have an even better second encounter.

While I am local to MTL, I can see why multiple bookings in a day can be attractive when you are traveling from far away. You want as many new experiences during the trip as possible. Making it harder to cum the second time can be a benefit too.

You also do not know in advance how good the SP will be, which is probably why people traveling avoid multiple bookings with one SP. It's an aversion of putting all your eggs in the same basket. (pun intended) I am sure some clients may change their booking schedule if one of the SPs they saw turned out to be amazing.