Ask us anything part 3

[Alphabeta666]

Clients
What if your favourite SP were to ask you if you wanted to be friends? Without benefits.

Would you accept and stop seeing her for sex or would you decline and keep seeing her for sex?

Ça m’est arrivé une fois.

La filles laissait sous-entendre que ce serait bien de se voir « dans la vrai vie ». Mais je n’y accordais pas trop d’importance car je croyais que c’était une façon de me faire sentir bien et important.

Finalement, nous nous sommes vu pour une vrai date. Nous avons même fini par être em couple pendant quelques années.

Aujourd’hui, nous ne sommes plus ensemble, mais nous sommes encore de très bons amis.

C’était une fille « out of my league » comme on dit. Je n’ai jamais compris comment nous avons pu être ensemble si longtemps lol

 

[Bucky]

Inutile de mettre le tarif. 99,9% des clients ne prennent pas la peine de lire. Lol

Et puis ca permet à la demoiselle de choisir son tarif en fonction de différents facteurs, j'imagine (type de service, mood du jour, besoins financiers, budget du client)...

Merci

 

[OhThatGuy]

Clients
What if your favourite SP were to ask you if you wanted to be friends? Without benefits.

Would you accept and stop seeing her for sex or would you decline and keep seeing her for sex?

It depends on two things:

1. How well we click outside the bedroom
2. How able we are to come out of the fantasy world into the real world

#1 can be seen and experienced rather easily. And if the SP is my favourite, then it is already there - based on my personal preferences and expectations.
#2 is the real challenge here. I pay for being the king in that fantasy world where she is my queen that makes me feel like no other man has ever existed for her. How we can come down to reality from fantasy and become friends who listen to each other and are there for each other is a challenge, especially on the client’s end as the SP is an expert of getting the clients into that world where the client is the one that lives it from start to finish. This is the very reason why some clients cannot just come out of it and get obsessed with their SPs.

 

[LC18]

Clients
What if your favourite SP were to ask you if you wanted to be friends? Without benefits.

Would you accept and stop seeing her for sex or would you decline and keep seeing her for sex?

Because I have a friend who I’ve met because he was a client. We don’t have sex together anymore but we still talk often and hangout. I mean we’ve had sex maybe twice in our friendship. He will however give my phone number to his friends looking for escorting services which I think is cute in a way

 

[Sylar]

Clients
What if your favourite SP were to ask you if you wanted to be friends? Without benefits.

Would you accept and stop seeing her for sex or would you decline and keep seeing her for sex?

That depends on the reason she is my favorite SP. Do we just have amazing sex and attract each other physically? If that's the case, I'd probably keep that arrangement as is.
If we have the same interests, enjoy talking to each other and just like hanging out, I would choose friendship over sex in a heartbeat. I can always get laid, finding a true friend is rare.

 

[CenterofNH]

I can't help feeling awkward about asking a lady I have been with if she minds being a reference so I can meet a new provider. It feels like I'm insulting her somehow. How do you as a provider feel when asked?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

I can't help feeling awkward about asking a lady I have been with if she minds being a reference so I can meet a new provider. It feels like I'm insulting her somehow. How do you as a provider feel when asked?

Most of us base our business on references, it's part of the game. Also, we are escorts, we know what we offer, and to many men. What's beautiful about it is that you don't have to be faithful, just like we aren't! It's also important to not exaggerate when using the name of a selected SP: ask the provider you have seen the most recently to be your reference, and a few times at most. You can always ask her first as well.

 

[LookAlike]

I can't help feeling awkward about asking a lady I have been with if she minds being a reference so I can meet a new provider. It feels like I'm insulting her somehow. How do you as a provider feel when asked?

I have the same feeling …

 

[Sylar]

I can't help feeling awkward about asking a lady I have been with if she minds being a reference so I can meet a new provider. It feels like I'm insulting her somehow. How do you as a provider feel when asked?

Meanwhile I even ask if they have colleagues / friends that are my type...

 

[Joe Thighsman]

When she asks for your full name, it is because they want your name for screening purposes. A fake name serves no purpose in that reguard.

I never delete any of my messages. Those i haven't seen, remain numbers in my phone. Those i have seen are given nicknames i choose to give them as a reminder of how the visit went. (I am bad with names, and names meen nothing if you have a list of 40 Mohammed's, 8 David's, 10 Jason's, 20 Adam's and a long list of names you can't even pronounce.) So nicknames that refer to the time spent jog my memory instantly about if I enjoyed time with the person, and am I willing to return and see them again, as if I didn't enjoy my time with them, I refuse to return.

Better than naming them Tom, Dick, or Harry, I guess.

 

[OhThatGuy]

As an SP, how do you like your very first minute to be with your 1st-time client? When you see them, what is your approach in greeting and the following minute? Hug, kiss on the cheek or no touching until play time begins? In a hotel setting or if you are heading to a pub/cafe to hang out for a bit, is holding hands or having their hands around your lower back into the venue/elevator to let you in first weird?
To me, it is almost always uncomfortable if I am meeting an SP for the first time which is mostly the case as I am new to the MTL SW industry. Yes the SP is there for whatever service the we agreed for but that doesn’t change the fact that we are seeing each other for the first time which can make touching a bit awkward. On the other hand, not touching could also feel awkward because we both know what we are there for.

 

[runninggag123]

That depends on the reason she is my favorite SP. Do we just have amazing sex and attract each other physically? If that's the case, I'd probably keep that arrangement as is.
If we have the same interests, enjoy talking to each other and just like hanging out, I would choose friendship over sex in a heartbeat. I can always get laid, finding a true friend is rare.

This 100%. Couldn’t have said it better myself.

 

[LC18]

As an SP, how do you like your very first minute to be with your 1st-time client? When you see them, what is your approach in greeting and the following minute? Hug, kiss on the cheek or no touching until play time begins? In a hotel setting or if you are heading to a pub/cafe to hang out for a bit, is holding hands or having their hands around your lower back into the venue/elevator to let you in first weird?
To me, it is almost always uncomfortable if I am meeting an SP for the first time which is mostly the case as I am new to the MTL SW industry. Yes the SP is there for whatever service the we agreed for but that doesn’t change the fact that we are seeing each other for the first time which can make touching a bit awkward. On the other hand, not touching could also feel awkward because we both know what we are there for.

Incall
A lot of people might think it’s cold but I will not kiss you if we just met, I might hug you if I feel like you’d be comfortable with that.

If you come to me, I’ll offer to take your jacket, small talk and wait for you to put your stuff away and before inviting you in the living room. (That would be a good time to leave the money on a table) I’ll get touchy then, not before. I still have to feel your vibe and figure out if you’re gonna hurt me or not.

If I feel you’re nervous because it’s your first time doing this or it’s your first time doing me, I’ll offer a few options to calm you down.

Public meeting except hotels
Oddly enough, I will kiss you on the cheeks but only so that it’s not weird for people around us. I want it to look like friends that already know each other or maybe two people finally meeting in person after chatting on a dating site. I won’t mention money but will expect an envelope or an empty gift bag with money in it. I’ll count it when it’s appropriate.

Outcall
I will quickly get in your room in case there are people in the hallway. I might hug if I feel it’s ok. I’ll excuse myself to the bathroom to quickly freshen up. (This would be a good place to leave the money)

 

[Halloween Mike]

Clients
What if your favourite SP were to ask you if you wanted to be friends? Without benefits.

Would you accept and stop seeing her for sex or would you decline and keep seeing her for sex?

Friendzoning yourself on purpose? Damn... lol. It obviously depend if im allow to be a client at the same time or not. If she tell me we will just be friend and never do anything sexually ever again (cause it would be awkward for her or such), then i would likely say no because that would be just "too hard" ...pun intended and in both sense of the term. The first reason i booked her lets be honest was because of pictures or reviews...or other words, her workline. So obviously im sexually attracted to her. In the context of becoming friends it imply we seen each other multiple times, so if i book multiple times its i enjoyed the "service" so yeah purposely cutting this for myself ... I guess the only time i could think about it is if for some reasons i REALLY enjoy her PERSONALITY a lot, yet im not that attracted to her physically. Like if for exemple we share interest in stuff like movies, video games or other "nerdy stuff". But then i doubt i would book her enough time to develop that "friendship crave". Because personally im not a high volume client. I can do this just so often so i obviously make the best out of it in term of sexual needs. Especially since i never have sex in a "civilian context".

Now if she ask me to be friend but totally allow me to be a client (no freebies, but pay for sex when its what i want, but see me as a friend casually) then i supose yes. There is always the fear to develop feelings beyond whats "autorized" but i guess in my case i know my place and to not "cross the line".

There was a couple SPs over the years i got a bit "closer" than just meet for work type of meetings but never to the point of "hanging out" semi often or such.

Incall
A lot of people might think it’s cold but I will not kiss you if we just met, I might hug you if I feel like you’d be comfortable with that.

Do you mean at the very start before shower and such or the whole session? Just curious if i understand correctly.

 

[Julia Sky]

I can't help feeling awkward about asking a lady I have been with if she minds being a reference so I can meet a new provider. It feels like I'm insulting her somehow. How do you as a provider feel when asked?

Sharing is caring! I don't feel any type of way about it, I'm just glad my colleagues make money and clients are having fun. I often recommend my friends as well. There is enough money for everyone and I don't believe in gatekeeping pleasure

 

[Halloween Mike]

Inutile de mettre le tarif. 99,9% des clients ne prennent pas la peine de lire. Lol

Et puis ca permet à la demoiselle de choisir son tarif en fonction de différents facteurs, j'imagine (type de service, mood du jour, besoins financiers, budget du client)...

C'est aussi malheureusement une perte de temps pour les 2 dans certain cas. Il y a bien des providers que je bookerais (ou considerais booker) a un tarif mais pas a un autre. Et j'essaye de me mettre une limite aussi a ne pas depasser. (Tel prix est trop haut, peu importe c'est qui a moins d'etre une semi celebrité genre pornstar ou instagram famous). Je trouve ca tellement akward de texter pour demander le tarif. J'essaye d'etre le moins time waster possible et quand tu texte en ayant pas une intention solide de booker, ca fait time waster.

 

[LC18]

Do you mean at the very start before shower and such or the whole session? Just curious if i understand correctly.

“I will not kiss you if we just met” because the person asked how I would greet a new client.

I will kiss them after “I’ll get touchy then”

 

[Giselle Montreal]

As an SP, how do you like your very first minute to be with your 1st-time client? When you see them, what is your approach in greeting and the following minute? Hug, kiss on the cheek or no touching until play time begins?

If we have never met before, I will kiss you on the cheeks and I need 5 minutes at least to size your vibe and who you are, and to acclimate to your presence. If the said new client starts to touch me, get close to me and want to french kiss in those 5 minutes (especially if he didn't give me my consideration yet), it makes me uncomfortable. I don't think a few minutes is too much to ask even though we know why you are here, we are strangers after all and I'm human and in a vulnerable position.

 

[Halloween Mike]

“I will not kiss you if we just met” because the person asked how I would greet a new client.

I will kiss them after “I’ll get touchy then”

Ah ok !! Yeah thinking of it i never gone for kissing a provider at the greeting step either. When i arrive to an incall i say hi and such, but then i immediately ask to go to the shower because i need a bit of time after shower to feel comfortable starting. Even if i dry myself with a towell i still kinda feel "wet" and i don't like that.

If outcall we go to the bed and talk a bit, sometimes she ask to go refresh in bathroom (wich is cool) then when she come back its when it start.

 

[Sylar]

Friendzoning yourself on purpose? Damn... lol. It obviously depend if im allow to be a client at the same time or not. If she tell me we will just be friend and never do anything sexually ever again (cause it would be awkward for her or such), then i would likely say no because that would be just "too hard" ...pun intended and in both sense of the term. The first reason i booked her lets be honest was because of pictures or reviews...or other words, her workline.

Interesting perspective. I have had ONS or flings for several weeks / months that turned into long term friendship without anything sexual after.