Ask us anything part 3

[Fradi]

Nudist resorts and swingers resorts are indeed very different things! I'm sorry people were judgemental.

I think when it comes to SP's everyone has their own tolerance level. I'm used to hearing really tough stories and I have experience with people who suffered from a lot of trauma so I'm okay with listening to all kinds of things and even welcome it, but it's always good to ask before bringing up certain subjects. Sometimes we can be feeling a bit under the weather and a certain topic may be hard to hear about. Otherwise I would say personally as a gfe provider I feel like that's what I'm here for (of course everyone has a different gfe service and some may feel like keeping the session lighter, and that's totally okay and should be respected)

I think maybe this emotional stuff is way overrated.
Yes I will always feel the pain of losing the woman of my dreams the mother of my children but that is not what we talk about or dwell on with my ATF.
She is much more like a dear friend or family member we talk about all kinds of things mostly lite stuff, we joke, we laugh, share a bottle of wine some snacks talk about vacations family get togethers just everyday things, rarely if something bad or important happens yes we talk about it, it is not a therapy session, would we be there for each other if we needed a shoulder to lean on yes but it is mostly just fun.

 

[Johnny test]

I think maybe this emotional stuff is way overrated.
Yes I will always feel the pain of losing the woman of my dreams the mother of my children but that is not what we talk about or dwell on with my ATF.
She is much more like a dear friend or family member we talk about all kinds of things mostly lite stuff, we joke, we laugh, share a bottle of wine some snacks talk about vacations family get togethers just everyday things, rarely if something bad or important happens yes we talk about it, it is not a therapy session, would we be there for each other if we needed a shoulder to lean on yes but it is mostly just fun.

What do you mean by "overrated"?
The "emotional stuff" to use your words isn't an absolute truth like gravity, what may not be a need for you may be one for someone else or did i misunderstand what you meant?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

OP and the mods say we shouldn't be getting into arguments here. But I don't think anyone should judge other client's needs. Some people book us because they need someone to talk to in an intimate context, and that's one of the reasons why sex workers are in demand.

Let's just move on to asking and answering questions..

My question to clients : why do you, or other clients, ask for services that are not offered in the ad or complain about things that weren't offered in the first place? This isn't really a rant on my part, but more something I find puzzling. I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Another question : why is it so common for clients to not read our ads fully or at all? this is particularly prevalent on LL, but I've even had people from here ask for my rates and services when they are in plain sight

Last question : why do some clients keep various phone numbers of different providers and contact them without remembering who they are? this is quite common, and I want to understand the psychology behind it.

 

[Workingman]

What do you mean by "overrated"?
The "emotional stuff" to use your words isn't an absolute truth like gravity, what may not be a need for you may be one for someone else or did i misunderstand what you meant?

Trying to explain empathy seldom works

 

[Fradi]

OP and the mods say we shouldn't be getting into arguments here. But I don't think anyone should judge other client's needs. Some people book us because they need someone to talk to in an intimate context, and that's one of the reasons why sex workers are in demand.

Let's just move on to asking and answering questions..

My question to clients : why do you, or other clients, ask for services that are not offered in the ad or complain about things that weren't offered in the first place? This isn't really a rant on my part, but more something I find puzzling. I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Another question : why is it so common for clients to not read our ads fully or at all? this is particularly prevalent on LL, but I've even had people from here ask for my rates and services when they are in plain sight

Last question : why do some clients keep various phone numbers of different providers and contact them without remembering who they are? this is quite common, and I want to understand the psychology behind it.

Sex workers are not therapists or medical professionals and they usually have as many or more troubles, hang ups and addictions just like clients so using them as a crutch for your problems is not very bright.
If you developed a friendship with them that is great and some are exceptionally nice people to be with.

 

[Fradi]

Trying to explain empathy seldom works

I mean don’t use them as a crutch for your problems they are not doctors or therapists.

 

[Fradi]

What do you mean by "overrated"?
The "emotional stuff" to use your words isn't an absolute truth like gravity, what may not be a need for you may be one for someone else or did i misunderstand what you meant?

Get off your White Knight horse.
If anybody cares or treats these ladies with kindness and respect I am one of them.
Go ask one that I see and have reviewed.
They are not doctors or therapists, they are not there to solve your addictions and hang ups they have as many or more emotional problems like you do.
Go see a doctor or a real therapist.

 

[Johnny test]

English isn't my first language so hopefully you'll excuse me if i wasn't clear. I think a simple question which is, do you think your needs are the same as the rest of us? which would explain how you so easily pass judgment on the rest of us white knights.

 

[DouMan]

OP and the mods say we shouldn't be getting into arguments here. But I don't think anyone should judge other client's needs. Some people book us because they need someone to talk to in an intimate context, and that's one of the reasons why sex workers are in demand.

Let's just move on to asking and answering questions..

My question to clients : why do you, or other clients, ask for services that are not offered in the ad or complain about things that weren't offered in the first place? This isn't really a rant on my part, but more something I find puzzling. I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Another question : why is it so common for clients to not read our ads fully or at all? this is particularly prevalent on LL, but I've even had people from here ask for my rates and services when they are in plain sight

Last question : why do some clients keep various phone numbers of different providers and contact them without remembering who they are? this is quite common, and I want to understand the psychology behind it.

To all 3 questions I would answer: boner.

We know that a hard-on takes a lot of blood, some of it stolen from our top brain which is already busy sending commands to our digits to wack off while reading (leaves very little for judgement)

In general when going through ads and booking with a boner see it as:
"duh picktchur ... ouuu numbher ... cawl 4 pooshy"

 

[Fradi]

English isn't my first language so hopefully you'll excuse me if i wasn't clear. I think a simple question which is, do you think your needs are the same as the rest of us? which would explain how you so easily pass judgment on the rest of us white knights.

English is not my first language either, neither is French.
Every bodies needs are different, however these ladies are not therapists or doctors and they should not be used as a crutch for emotional issues they are not qualified and they have as many issues of their own.
You are the one that quoted me and complained not the other way around.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I've had members of this board ask for things I don't advertise.

Maybe because "not advertizing" and "not offering" can be 2 very diferent things, generaly speaking. Its getting harder and harder to get to know what exactly we, the clients, are "purchasing" before making a booking.

We oftent see providers being very vague in their ads or even on their websites. Some of them dont even state their "considerations" fees on their website anymore. Its as if every tactical tricks are thought to, purposely, keep a blurred proposal.

 

[Workingman]

I mean don’t use them as a crutch for your problems they are not doctors or therapists.

Sex work is not a therapeutic service? Is this really a hill you are willing to die on? I'm truly confused why you are so triggered by this. I'm even more confused why you're always arguing stupid points that there are many approaches to. Use Google and read a little bit.

 

[Fradi]

Sex work is not a therapeutic service? Is this really a hill you are willing to die on? I'm truly confused why you are so triggered by this. I'm even more confused why you're always arguing stupid points that there are many approaches to. Use Google and read a little bit.

Tell me which one of these ladies has a doctors degree or therapists degree and with them I will agree.
You want to use them as such be my guest, the hourly rate is probably similar so you won’t be losing out.
As far as taking your advice the same thing applies lol.

 

[Workingman]

Tell me which one of these ladies has a doctors degree or therapists degree and with them I will agree.
You want to use them as such be my guest, the hourly rate is probably similar so you won’t be losing out.

Google it

 

[Fradi]

Google it

Last I looked you actually have to go to University and pass medical exams to be a Psychologist or a doctor who are trained to help people with deep emotional issues , ( google is your friend lol) fucking someone or sucking their dick doesn’t qualify. yeah it does feel great.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

fucking someone or sucking their dick doesn’t qualify.

Should I ask my shrink if she would experiment some new treatments with me?

 

[Fradi]

Should I ask my shrink if she would experiment some new treatments with me?

If she looks anything like your favourite SP I would go for it.
You are probably paying similar rates, hope it is not going to be an extra.

 

[Johnny test]

I won't add any more fuel to those last posts since a lot of them will probably be deleted by mods.
As @Lunaseraphim mentioned the level of intimacy can depend on both clients and SP and if you read some testimonies on the board there are some people who look for more than sexual gratification.
As i mentioned before we are not looking for the same thing, the same experiences and that's pretty reassuring in my book

 

[Fradi]

I won't add any more fuel to those last posts since a lot of them will probably be deleted by mods.

And yet you do lol.
I don’t see why any of it would be deleted non of it was rude. I don’t take things to heart it is just a discussion we are all entitled to our opinion.
Don’t get me wrong I adore the ladies I see, they are amazing women and we have been friends for many years and I definitely don’t see them for just sex.
We talk about anything and just about everything and if they would need my help or the other way around I am sure we could rely on each other as friends do, but not for things that require a trained professional.
I just don’t think they are qualified like I am not to be burdened with deep emotional issues and that is not the reason I see them.
I see them because they are gorgeous, kind, funny and just amazing to spend time with.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Therapy doesn't equal psychology or psychotherapy, massage is therapeutic. I'm not a psychologist, no, and I won't say that escorts are "like" therapists but some people just need human connection, if it's what they needed, it's as good as any therapy.