I wanted to be one at one point because i like satisfying women but i made an ad and only men replied... Then i got married and she want to leave because canada is too cold but now im alone again and my confidence is down as well. I always think about stop going to strip clubs and stopping the hobby but its how i cope. My question to you is do you genuinely like your clients and they can take you out for fun like to laronde or something that doesnt have sex attached to it without being monetized because the client just wants to have fun and hes a regular who wants you to be open to the possibility of just having a good moment with you. Its basically like saying i pay your rent, your car, your lifestyle, do i ever get a chance to spend actual you wanna spend time with me time or is that just the arrangement and theres nothing any guy can do about it. I know answers may vary, i just want to see if going to these places like massage parlours and seeing these women if off the back im labeled as a loser etc... thats why i havent done it in a long time only strip clubs because when a stripper likes me shell just stay at my table and hang out whether the club is alive or empty just buy her one or 2 dribks to be nice. Im sorry if this was long just want to know how im seen in the eyes of an sp or mp.
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Because the client just wants to have fun? No.
If I ask you? Yes, maybe.
If I texted you ‘hey let’s go to Barleys for breakfast’ out of the blue, I wouldn’t expect you to pay more than the food.
If you text me I’d like to take you for breakfast Sunday
Then I would expect you to pay me.
1 is me volunteering, 2 is you requesting my time. Replace the activity with anything you’d like, still the same but also that’s mostly why I never text people that I want to go somewhere
3rd option if I really like you, you request my time and I give you a huge discount
If someone actually paid my rent it would be VERY different but no one currently is paying for that. Is your boss paying your rent? No, he’s paying you a salary and you pay your rent with it. Semantics you’ll say…
The answers will vary. Personally I do really like many of my clients. My decision not to hang out with clients for free doesn't have anything to do with our connection not being genuine.. it's because I want to maintain certain boundaries. What you're describing sounds like a sugar baby relationship but without compensation and I doubt anybody is interested in that.. but maybe if you see an escort enough times, she will make the decision to hang out with you off the clock. I have heard of this happening. It's just not something I would personally do because I don't like blurred lines. A lot can go wrong in a situation like this
If you are looking for a romantic relationship with an SP you are barking up the wrong tree.
It is a job for them, a way to make a living and pay their rent.
Does it happen ? Only in extremely rare circumstances and it is even rarer for it to last.
Can you be friends with an SP and do things together sometimes outside of a client provider relationship.?
Yes but even that is rare and it may take years of seeing each other regularly, establishing trust and being able to keep the 2 relationships apart and not take advantage of each other.
I would never look for or want a romantic relationship, for one the age gap is far too wide the work itself does not lend itself to relationships lasting and I figure that the lady deserves to have a loving relationship with someone her own age and be happy just like I have had most of my life with the lady I will always be in love with.
Friendship I can handle and it is an extremely nice thing to have an SP who you have a connection with, who you trust and who trusts you.
They are women just like any other, some are gorgeous, intelligent and really a pleasure to have as a friend.
It is a job for them, a way to make a living and pay their rent.
Does it happen ? Only in extremely rare circumstances and it is even rarer for it to last.
Can you be friends with an SP and do things together sometimes outside of a client provider relationship.?
Yes but even that is rare and it may take years of seeing each other regularly, establishing trust and being able to keep the 2 relationships apart and not take advantage of each other.
I would never look for or want a romantic relationship, for one the age gap is far too wide the work itself does not lend itself to relationships lasting and I figure that the lady deserves to have a loving relationship with someone her own age and be happy just like I have had most of my life with the lady I will always be in love with.
Friendship I can handle and it is an extremely nice thing to have an SP who you have a connection with, who you trust and who trusts you.
They are women just like any other, some are gorgeous, intelligent and really a pleasure to have as a friend.
sounds like he just needs a, what do you call it... a girl friend?
Yeah.. and you can't buy a girlfriend or exchange goods with somebody in exchange for dating them. Not everything can be purchased. Unless that person is in a dire financial situation and starving, which would create a power imbalance.
Even if I met somebody who was willing to bring me on expensive vacation and take me to restaurants and other luxury experiences, if I didn't have romantic feelings for them and/or didn't feel respected, I would decline the offer.
Being an escort hasn't made me more transactional in my relationships, but it made me understand my own value and what my time is worth. I don't have any energy to put into something that isn't genuine or that leaves me feeling drained.
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i think this is what makes you a vey special person, with clear boundaries and a moral code.
And yet, some seem to think I'm greedy because I believe I'm being paid for my time and won't hang out for free...
Do I have a secret method / technique that I do to make a man cum immediately? Yes.
Can I share it with you? No.
Can I show you? Yes.
I respect that feeling I think the argument from some the other side is that their time is valuable as well and it can be a win win situation especially if they are older wiser and can mentorAnd yet, some seem to think I'm greedy because I believe I'm being paid for my time and won't hang out for free...
I don’t want to hang out with someone I don’t like for free. But it might be someone I might like in the future what not take a free meal, chat and explore it?
I don't really understand what you're trying to say..
I'm not really sure what you mean by mentoring, because being ''older and wiser'' doesn't mean you can mentor somebody. I'm assuming you're talking about specific skills or a specific type of knowledge.. In the case of somebody being ''mentored'' that's an exchange of service, it's completely different.. but it still creates an uneven power dynamic, and I'm not sure if it's appropriate to mentor someone you're paying as an escort.
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eyes on the prize. i dont "work" for free. gotta eat!And yet, some seem to think I'm greedy because I believe I'm being paid for my time and won't hang out for free...
seems to me like you (and everyone) should really only do what you want to do. If YOU want to hang with someone, then obviously its not very complicated. If someone else seems to think its in your "interest" I think we all know what that means.
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