Respectfully speaking my friend , if you were involved with multiple partners simultaneously. I'm curious about the reason for your presence on this forum. Undoubtedly, employing the services of a provider is cheaper than engaging in a date or a one-night stand at a club. If you're intending to meet them at a library, bus stop, or Jean Coutu and take them to a McDonald's, then your theory make sense. In sharp contrast to the 90s era where things were comparatively affordable, prices have skyrocketed currently. I'm interested in knowing how to meet females without incurring any expenses.
OK, there's a bunch of stuff to unpack here, so I'll try to approach it point by point. You guys seem to have the idea that I'm disrespecting the SP choice, and I'm not, clearly, since I see them myself. There are pluses and minuses. I'm just saying there are alternatives. So here's where I'm at:
1) I mentioned that this applies only if you're traveling regularly and if you're regularly traveling to the same places. You can create sex only relationships online but frankly it's too much work and not worth it for somewhere you're only going to visit once
2) I did not talk about pickups at bars and restaurants and whatever because it's too random and uncertain, and you are correct, expensive, or at least it can be. Again I discussed setting up relationships with people online before going to wherever you're going.
3) I mentioned cultural and language barriers because it's much easier to do outside of the north american space. Girls are much more open to no strings relationships there but are also more hopeful of converting it to something more. You need to be both respectful and honest around that so that you aren't unnecessarily leading someone on or complicating your own life. You can do the same thing in North America but the screening process becomes lengthier
4) It's a numbers game. Be straight up about what you want (dinner, some laughs, straight up sex, whatever) and if you go through enough people you will find people that will agree. Most won't. Some will. Simple as that.
5) As far as costs go, your personal costs can be whatever you want them to be. It's your criteria. Set that criteria and run with it. Your filtering process might change but it's the same numbers game either way. If you want some romance then there will be some cost. If you just want to hang out then it's whatever you want to hang out doing. If it's just straight sex then costs are minimal, maybe limited to normal courteous hosting like providing drinks or whatever. You decide, then find someone who agrees with you. For me I traveled a lot for work and I travel for personal passion. I set up lots of relationships like this, and the travel costs were the expensive part, and my company paid all of those for work related trips (that I often would tack extra days onto). The incidental costs were nothing, relatively speaking, and you can control all of those.
6) Nowadays I don't travel for work and my personal travel is less too (especially during covid) so the investment in time necessary to maintain these relationships costs more to me personally than the reward is worth. I still stay in touch with some people, but it's a very occasional thing. Now I see more people here at home, and my personal life is such that it doesn't make sense for me to pursue these kinds of relationships
7) I've never been exclusive of either SPs or "regular" girls. It has always been a portion of both and has always depended on locale and circumstances. I have been on many boards, in many countries, and in some places it makes sense only to see SPs and in some places a hybrid and in some places just online girls. For example, you could go to the Philippines and beat them off with a stick all day long and never pay a dime (although you likely would, a little anyway) or you could go to Vegas and have it be entirely the opposite.
8) It's always a question of your personal preferences. Some people simply prefer to interact less and can't be bothered with the social stuff, so the SP route is much better. Some people crave the social relationship. There isn't any right or wrong here. Do whatever makes you feel good.
9) The convenience of SPs can't be beat. It's great to be lazy sometimes, and sometimes that's what you really, really want. Git 'er done then settle down with a pizza to watch the game, or whatever. I often feel that way, so that even if you have someone you can see you might prefer to pay to see someone else for that very reason.
10) If you can set up the casual relationships then you don't always have to keep setting them up (although there's always a certain amount of turnover) and those relationships keep paying dividends over and over again. It gets easier and more casual the longer you can keep them going, and yes, it's much, much cheaper than hiring SPs. That doesn't necessarily mean better, because as someone once said, you pay SPs to go away at the end of the evening. There are always some social responsibilities tied to the casual relationships, no matter how casual they are. You don't have that with SPs, and that can be a big advantage at times.
Hope that clarifies things a little.
