Did a SP ever say something that hurt your feelings?
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Just go to the Random Thoughts thread, which is locked right now for good reasons
Ha! Just read it. Great example of when SP post too much (like on Twitter) and just turn off potential clients
This is something I've told a client recently : I don't think people are inherently good or bad in bed. The most important is communication and listening to the other person's needs. Sexuality is complex and every time a new experience occurs both partners need to get used to each other. Sometimes people are nervous too.
I'd never tell someone they're bad in bed because that's really hurtful and could cause the person to have self esteem issues.. however if the person is physically hurting me or doing something that makes me uncomfortable I have to tell them. And we all have different things we like and dislike so it's not an insult!
Closest thing to that I've gotten was from an SP/MP I've seen for many years say I started seeing her at too young an age.
“You are average size”
That hurt my feelings
Or “your abs are ok”
That hurt my feelings
Or “your abs are ok”
Tbh, I think it’s all about how you perceived her question. Perhaps you haven’t come to terms about paying for an escort, felt judged and you needed her « approval » by saying there’s a lot of young men your age so you can feel better.
If you asked me that question, I would tell you that « USUALLY », clients are older, married men who are unsatisfied in their relationship due to the lack of sex. The word USUALLY doesn’t mean we don’t get younger clients, it just means that most of our customers are in that age range. It wasn’t meant to offend you at all I find . I just see this as you taking a crash course so you can satisfy all your future encounters
“You are average size”
That hurt my feelings
Or “your abs are ok”
I'd be ecstatic if I heard that, glowing for a week :
I also got this comment once. “You look too young. I expected you to be older.” I was caught off-guard at her look of disappointment when she saw me. “Is that a bad thing?”, i asked her. “Yes it is. I’ve always been with older clients.” I thought she may leave. “I’m probably at least 10 years older than you are”, i replied. Silence. She couldn’t look at me & looked like she was about to leave. “You can leave if you want. I’m not gonna force you to stay if you’re too uncomfortable.” Silence. Then a few seconds later she said “No i’ll stay. I’ve wanted to meet you for some time. In our correspondence i always was under the impression that you were much older than you are. But i’m okay now.” Whew! I had wanted to see this girl for months! Lol
That night she ended up staying for two extra hours free of charge. We got along great. Two days later she called me from her residence a couple of hours away & asked me if i’d be interested in meeting her for lunch the next day since she’d be in town for some personal business. I accepted. We met at Chez Alexandre. It was the beginning of a beautiful friendship/love affair which lasted about 7-8 months. This was the first time i really fell for an sp. And to think she nearly left after first meeting me because she felt i looked too young for her (as a client) when i was actually considerably older! Lol
(Sorry for the long post)
For my first five or so years in the hobby, I only did one-hour visits. On a trip to Chicago, many years ago now, I decided to splurge and try two hours. It changed my life. The lady was a pro in the best sense and we spent the two hours in non-stop pleasurable abandon, wet and wild; we went North, East, South, and West. When that was done, she stuck around for another 45 minutes (admittedly not Doc's two bonus hours) and we chatted. We even showed each other pictures of our kids. Finally the phone rang (in the room; this was before cell phones); it was her agency checking in, telling her it was time to call it a night. Before she left, I asked if her booker checked on each client after a date and she said, "oh yes. I will tell them you were nice." Nice? NICE? Harrumph. I thought I was an animal. Since then I've had at least two other SPs sum me up with "nice." I won't say my feelings were hurt ... but I might have preferred something a bit more descriptive!
I did once have a Las Vegas SP give me a reference to another provider by calling me "super cool." I cling to that rather than "nice." That Las Vegas provider became national news a few years later, but that's another story.
BTW, since that night in Chicago I've never booked another one-hour meeting, only 2+ hours. Straighten up and fly right....
I did once have a Las Vegas SP give me a reference to another provider by calling me "super cool." I cling to that rather than "nice." That Las Vegas provider became national news a few years later, but that's another story.
BTW, since that night in Chicago I've never booked another one-hour meeting, only 2+ hours. Straighten up and fly right....
I am sorry if it came out all wrong adding a few people to the ignore list helped too, anyways won't get back to this. I know i am pretty vocal but this comes from being bulled when younger by men and women, being called ugly and more. One time a girl who was cute had insulted me when i was a teen, she saw me again at 21 but this time i was fit no more acne etc, she was like wow you change you are now hot so now she wanted me. I just laugh and walked away.
The situation that happen with that SP i swear i said nothing to her, did not insult her, we were talking before she left for 15 minutes she was waiting for the driver, she told me that one of her friend was my age and for what he looked like he was shooting for the stars and wanted a women that looked like Penelope Cruz she told him for what he looked like he was daydreaming, I said yes I understand, then she said looking at you its the same thing you can't expect to have something hot when you look like that.
But like i said some people are frustrated and need to make others feel inferior, like the women at my job that gained a lot of weight after she quit smoking, she used to put me down saying i look like a fat raccoon, and i would never lose the weight, last week she approach me and asked me how i lost the weight, i started laughing and told her with a lot of prayer to Jesus every night. But after she insulted me I am not going to help her.
Or the women who took my picture at the SAAQ I was on medication during that time that made my face puffy she told me mister you changed and for the worse. Now i am sorry but people insult and yet fail to look at themselves in the mirror. And when you tell them they say no I don't look at myself in the mirror because I know what I look like.
I don't go around insulting people freely but reading comments I see there are a lot of men who get insulted by either men or women and do nothing, sorry but i rather say something then go home and get mad for doing nothing.
Now back in 2013 after the ex cheated and left me I met an SP, after the session once again we talked and I told her that before I used to be fit, she said well you sure don't look like it with that big gut. This did not frustrate me it open my eyes, and I lost a huge amount of weight.
But this time around I did it for health reasons and after the doctor scared me due to my high blood pressure. Not sure how much i dropped but my 40 inches are slack and i love it I feel a lot better since i cleaned up my diet etc.
I hope this kind of explains my attitude and frustrations i guess. I also went online dating with good intentions for 4y on and off and go insulted many times, a hair dresser said in your dreams honey she was 41 but with pro pics and filters, 3 weeks later she posted real selfies for her no makeup and you can guess wrinkles and more (staying polite) i message her and said thanks honey.
No one like to be insulted its not fun and as you get older and realize that you are a ghost and also a hard blow to take but that is life i guess.
Honestly, thanks for sharing your story, Jonmon ♥️
It’s totally normal to feel a bit awkward when you’re starting out with something new. But honestly, it’s great that you’re aware of how words and moments can shape the experience—it means you care, and that makes a big difference.
You shouldn't feel "defunct" at all! Everyone's journey is unique, and you’re definitely not alone in figuring things out. It’s all about finding comfort in yourself, and it sounds like you’re already doing a good job at that.
The fact that you can laugh about it and reflect shows a lot of maturity. So keep enjoying the moments, and don’t be too hard on yourself. Every experience brings something valuable, right?
Take care xxx Julia
It’s totally normal to feel a bit awkward when you’re starting out with something new. But honestly, it’s great that you’re aware of how words and moments can shape the experience—it means you care, and that makes a big difference.
You shouldn't feel "defunct" at all! Everyone's journey is unique, and you’re definitely not alone in figuring things out. It’s all about finding comfort in yourself, and it sounds like you’re already doing a good job at that.
The fact that you can laugh about it and reflect shows a lot of maturity. So keep enjoying the moments, and don’t be too hard on yourself. Every experience brings something valuable, right?
Take care xxx Julia
@vanhamm glad to see you back. I was enjoying our conversations on your success for your health venture. And have been rooting for you.
And fully understand how past actions done against us, form who we are today. I just wish you healing over the past offenses against you, and that you are able to let go of the horrible things of the past. You are in control of how you feel about others, and how they see you today and moving forward.
And fully understand how past actions done against us, form who we are today. I just wish you healing over the past offenses against you, and that you are able to let go of the horrible things of the past. You are in control of how you feel about others, and how they see you today and moving forward.
It's not acceptable for someone to insult you on your physical appearance or even comment on it, and I'm really sorry you experienced this.
First time seeing a woman in Mtl during GP week-she had great pictures and even better reviews, so I was super excited. Arranged 2 hours, and we hit it off as soon as the door opened. 20 minutes of talking and laughibg, we get to it, and it feels like a first date, mutual chemistry and excitement.
Eventually we're naked and I move down to go down on her, and she says "if you do that its an extra $50." Ouch. Made me snap out of it and realize that its just business for her.
Eventually we're naked and I move down to go down on her, and she says "if you do that its an extra $50." Ouch. Made me snap out of it and realize that its just business for her.
Ways to kill the mood. I would communicate the extras PRIOR to meeting so that situations like these don’t happen
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