Do you "hobby" while in a relationship (With a non SP partner... Married or not) ?

[hungry101]

Come on...that's what the hobby is for. How can you have sex with the same person for the rest of your life? Have you ever tried a different flavor at Baskin-Robbins? I realize that there are many things that drive us towards this common goal of seeing escorts. For example, some of us never could and never will be able to get laid without paying for it. These are the haughty bunch that say they would never cheat if they were in a relationship. Well of course you would not because there wouldn't be any temptation to cheat because at no point in your life no one would ever have sex with you if it weren't for the exchange of money. The other extreme is the married guy who has on and off affairs that visits Montreal because even this is not enough for him. He supplements his sexual experiences by paying for some on the side such as the ultra young 18-25 year old pussy that has been out of reach that past decade or so.

There are all kinds of hobbyists out there. The beautiful thing to me is that this hobby and Merb is a great equalizer. We are all brothers in arms here. We can all experience the same 8's, 9's and 10's that were at one time out of reach. All you have to do is be respectful, hygienic, and have the money. MERB brings us all together and doesn't judge.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

To all that think it is fine to cheat on your partner, great if it is what suits you. That means you also must be ok with her getting her ass pounded by others on a regular basis, if that is true I envy you, something I will not have happen in a relationship I am in.

 

[Anong]

So this morning "YES" side is leading. Some of us start peeping outside of closet.

 

[pat98]

So this morning "YES" side is leading. Some of us start peeping outside of closet.

And it was about time... ound:

 

[Wwb]

So I have been married for over 3 decades, love and respect my wife. I never cheated on her until after she went through menopause and we were clearly on very different sexual levels. She is not interested I am, so hobbying allows me an outlet to satisfy my sexual fantasies and needs. I choose not to enter into an affair as I know it would destroy my marriage. I know I'm walking a tenuous line but hopefully I can manage this activity until my testosterone levels become low enough so that I stop seeing SP's in the future. Maybe I'm unrealistic but having the money I find that pornography, strip joints do not fulfill my sexual needs as they once did when I was sexually active with my wife

It would be interesting to get some of the SPs view on this. I wonder how many men are in my predicament.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

So this morning "YES" side is leading. .

All the yes guys were too busy having sex during the week with escorts to read the polls, weekend is MERB catch up time.

 

[Anong]

Wwb, I mostly agree with your remarks, similar reasons or something a bit difference. Though we, guys always find some reasons to justify or console ourselves.
I m thinking different, when I become too old and cant perform anymore, still I will hire SPs and aske her to laydown nacked and caress her kittey with both hands and then rub both hands on my eyes to get some brightness. lol

 

[Maria Divina]

Wwb:

I have seen gentlemen who exactly live/lived what you are living presently.

I hope this won't be a surprise here but, the very large majority, almost the entirety of my encounters are with gentlemen who have someone regular in their lives.
Often it is because it is missing something at home... but others times, not. I don't judge, because that part is really not my own business, everybody is having their own stories, but let's say that I am a strong believer that each people are entitle to do whatever they want with their bodies in life, mind you, starting for me, so if I am giving myself this non-questionnable freedom as everybody will easily agree with, why for others it won't be good then? I even found it some what more faithful someone who is seeing Sw's and want to stay in his relationship keeping things in perspective than to have a real mistress/lover on the side. There's a lot less bullshit also to start. But this is for me, I see a very clear separation between this 2 situations.

And for my part on the other side of the fence, why I had date "civilians" outside my activities, it is because all my personal needs aren't feeds in my encounters.
So, at final, we are all the same: we are having personal needs that aren't all satisfy, and for my part, it is not the sex part ;-)

 

[Maria Divina]

Lily: if I had a "like button" I would have like your post, all the ways possible! xox

 

[Maria Divina]

We should, that's too long we met last time! That was in 2016! hahahaha xox

Maybe a "souper de sacoches" pour bientôt?

 

[Maria Divina]

I think all "mature" who would like to join is welcomed also. I don't discriminate, it is just that "souper de sacoches" is related more about "our category" no? ound:

 

[Wwb]

Thanks kindly Maria & Lily. I choose not to tell her as she is a black & white person. My excuse is that my testosterone levels are low as well. Our marriage has never been better and we have become closer friends.

 

[Passionné]

You are such a door mat and cherry picking and manipulating my words indicate lots of girly man bullshit has taken over you.

I don't put anyone on a pedestal. I never need to make anyone my door mat either. Treating the opposite sex as an equal has nothing to do with being a girly man. Being afraid of becoming one is the weakness. Having confidence in oneself to treat women equally is the strength.

 

[Numerati]

I don't put anyone on a pedestal. I never need to make anyone my door mat either. Treating the opposite sex as an equal has nothing to do with being a girly man. Being afraid of becoming one is the weakness. Having confidence in oneself to treat women equally is the strength.

Korbie the White Knight comes to the rescue!!!

Surprise you are still alive.

 

[hungry101]

So I have been married for over 3 decades, love and respect my wife. I never cheated on her until after she went through menopause and we were clearly on very different sexual levels. She is not interested I am, so hobbying allows me an outlet to satisfy my sexual fantasies and needs. I choose not to enter into an affair as I know it would destroy my marriage. I know I'm walking a tenuous line but hopefully I can manage this activity until my testosterone levels become low enough so that I stop seeing SP's in the future. Maybe I'm unrealistic but having the money I find that pornography, strip joints do not fulfill my sexual needs as they once did when I was sexually active with my wife

It would be interesting to get some of the SPs view on this. I wonder how many men are in my predicament.

I am glad you added this. I can't believe some of the posts in this thread. I thought I was reading post from a bunch of High School girls and newlyweds with the ohhhhhh...cheating is so bad and if you cheat your a cheater and you shouldn't cheat because!!!!!!!

And then there is reality. Sex with the same person for 30 years is fucking terrible and then it stops completely. Ohhhhhhhhhh You should go to some faggot counseler to help repair and get you in touch with your feelings. And then you hear that music Feelllings nothing more than feellllinnnggs Feelings that I never met you girl....

No, fuck that. I want to fuck some strange pussy every once in awhile....strange young pussy. When the wife loses interest and even if she doesn't most men need a little strange. When the wife is not willing to spice things up you may need a little strange pussy. And no it is stupid to think that you need to divorce to justify a couple of hobby trips every year.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Nothing wrong with not cheating, no need to make someone look like they are doing something wrong by not cheating. The only reason I am seeing escorts now is the dating hassle is not worth it and not looking for a relationship. My ex was into new stuff and was willing until she started fucking up and once it wffected the kids I called it quits. If a woman wanted to she could fuck around on men constantly and would not have to pay for it, probably get dinner and drinks for free also.

 

[hungry101]

Nothing wrong with not cheating, no need to make someone look like they are doing something wrong by not cheating. The only reason I am seeing escorts now is the dating hassle is not worth it and not looking for a relationship. My ex was into new stuff and was willing until she started fucking up and once it wffected the kids I called it quits. If a woman wanted to she could fuck around on men constantly and would not have to pay for it, probably get dinner and drinks for free also.

...and when a man sets out on a Friday night to get laid, 99.9% of the time he will end up shit-faced drunk at Denny's restaurant ordering the Grand Slam Breakfast at 2am. No pussy for you.

 

[Passionné]

White Knight comes to the rescue!!!

It wasn't criticism of anyone, but a point of view. A mature man confident and secure with himself has no need to worry about "girlymen" or fear becoming one. The man in control of himself can adore a woman and enjoy his feelings for her. It's the man who is not secure within himself who fears.

To paraphrase someone, there's no need to put down a man happy with one woman just because you aren't and prefer otherwise.

BIG CHEERS!

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

...and when a man sets out on a Friday night to get laid, 99.9% of the time he will end up shit-faced drunk at Denny's restaurant ordering the Grand Slam Breakfast at 2am. No pussy for you.

Completely agree, if someone goes out to get laid the only one to see is an escort.

 

[hungry101]

Completely agree, if someone goes out to get laid the only one to see is an escort.

And that is why this hobby is so great!