Hi Maria,
thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. You've asked a few questions and made interesting points that I would absolutely love to explore.
First of all, the girl I was talking about was a very popular and respected provider back in the day (2000-2005-ish) so that means I found her the same place as I found you... on-line
I'm not sure if it was on this board. It might even have been on Canbest (circa 1995). She was quite classy, well educated and quite mature. In fact, I don't even think she had ever received a negative review. But it wasn't long that the word got out.
As for reputational value. Whatever "status" a person might have (or think they have), does it really reflect on the integrity of that person? Donald Trump for instance. He's a billionaire. Do you think this makes him trustable and a good person? Same goes for Tiger Woods, he cheated on his wife with numerous sex workers it was scandalous. So he was a pervert into kinky stuff... does that mean he masturbates at night covered in jello watching kittens explode in a microwave?
Humans, as a species, are extremely fragile. So many things can change a person's state of mind that aren't in their control: natural or artificial chemical imbalance, stress, drama (real or not), people, health, this list is infinite. We are reminded daily as to how fragile we are and how in reality all we're doing is managing chaos on a regular basis. I mean, just turn on your tv, look at TMZ, CNN, Journal De Montreal and you can get your daily fix of tragedies.
I've had my share of relationships with women blaming their drama to "being too sensitive to their emotions", "being passionate", "deep sense of commitment". Personally, I think anyone that has to scream to get their point across, that thinks she can disrespect people I care about, throw stuff at the walls, break things, spread rumours, etc... as simply: bad-shit-crazy-get-your-fucking-meds-and-stay-on-them.
How many guys have you seen first hand be charming and nice for the longest time only to suddenly turn and become some crazy asshole? A guy can see a thousand providers and have raving comments said about him. He can turn on you at any time... does that make you nervous? It should... that feeling is what keeps you alive. Being street smart and perhaps knowing how to defend yourself is what keeps you alive. The fact that you know his name, his real phone number, where he works, how many friends he has on Facebook is really an artificial sense of security. It might however be enough to keep broke ass lurkers away but we all know that its not going to save your life in case of a real threat. I don't think these are much better as an extreme deterrent, but what are your thoughts on services such as: getluxverified, preferred411, purevip, date-check? Any good?
So your business model puts in in direct contact with the scum of the earth wasting your valuable time with stupid/tasteless questions, harassing messages, to me that just sounds like the wonderful world of sales and customer service. Its not for everyone.
Still doesn't justify lynching someone in the public sphere displaying their personal details no matter how much of an creep the guy is. It just seems wrong and immature and probably impacts the "brand" negatively in the long run. All it does is prove to me that that person has a very poor sense of judgement and re-enforces how that can't be trusted. You do not bite the hand that feeds you (or the hand that spanks you depending on who you are).
Finally, to comment on your question about SP serial killers, the only case I know of is Aileen Wuornos. The story that inspired the movie Monster played by Charlize Theron (2003). Surely there are many more cases. But in return I ask you do you know how many men's lives were ruined by a woman who betrayed their agreement (moral or paid) out of spite or greed? Or worst, how many took away a fathers right to see their children out of pure hatred ? Not all men are evil & not all women are saints.
So no. I will not blindly trust an escort or anyone else for that matter with my personal details and I do think its a bad idea. I don't say that out of paranoia. But simply out of experience. Most of the girls I've been with have told me intimate details about their customers. Stuff I clearly shouldn't know which makes it probably that they would tell others about me... from that very moment, any trust I had in them is gone.
Thanks for reading.
-nb
PS. My initial motivation for this discussion came from a blog post (which I will not disclose) where an SP spilled the beans about one of her customers with pictures, full legal names. But the internet are full of such cases.