Does the hobby improve your life or is it just entertainment?

[Antonio Scarpacci]

Does the hobby improve you emotionally, does it improve the situation with your SO? Personally I think it calms me down in several ways. Without the pressure of hunting for and wanting sex I am more at ease. Less pressure on me improves my mental state. Has the hobby improved your life? Or has it put a burden on you.



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[happyhobbist]

Same as you.
Thanks to the hobby, I put less pressure on my wife for sex. It definitely helps relieve tension in day to day.
Moreover, i've met incredible ladies that helped me understand myself better and how to express my needs and preferences better.
It also contributes on raising my sex confidence and being a better sex partner.
Its just funny how my wife doesn't even ask me how I've become a better lover in bed. Maybe she thinks it's because of her? :lol:

 

[gaby]

Getting older and FOR ME it's more than just entertainment .....it's enjoying life....bien profiter de la vie avant qu"il ne soit trop tard...avec ce qu'elle a de plus beau à nous offrir...lollll

 

[hungry101]

How about exercise and diet?
I try to get into or keep in better shape and some of that is hobby driven.

When I get to a hobby local, it is easy to diet or fast because I could give a shit about food and drink.

After my last trip to Toronto, my stomach muscles were sore from fucking. My neck was sore and I think it was due to trying to perform anal-lingus while in a 69 with a few hotties. I think I stretched my neck trying to get my tongue to the anus...but it had to be done! These two were hot!!!

But most underrated is the psychological and emotional lift I experienced upon my return to my mundane tasks back in my own private sex prison. There was a hop in my step!

 

[Fradi]

For me it has been like coming alive again.
After my wife passed away I was not in a good state and really not interested in dating or pretty much anything for many years

Then after stumbling on Merb I started looking at hundreds of escorts and web sights and kept coming back to the same gorgeous SP.
She was the first after a very long break, this lady means way more than an escort to me, she is out of this world gorgeous and kind and I have been seeing her ever since.
I see others from time to time and have met some wonderful women but I know I will always keep coming back to the one that I can never get enough of.

 

[azzaro]

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After having wasted the best years of my life in the USA (for my career -average salary) and not getting laid for years...I returned to Canada and found a very sexy German-Irish-French girl in a Montreal incall (Sophie and Friends ..around 2005). She saved my life !.

I was in poor health (because of lack of sex). She built my confidence and taught me how to do it too..lol. Bianca was her name and she was 5'10" and the perfect figure (curvy, not thin or fat).

I saw her at least 25 times in the next 3 years. She moved to Florida in 2008 and I never saw her again. For the next 10 years, I tried several incalls in Montreal (most of who are closed now except for one). Yes...I am alive and well and in good health because of these incalls. Mostly French and Italian girls, but some real German and English-Irish hotties too sometimes.

Past 2 years have been spent mostly in Europe. Lots of FKKs...a totally different (and much cheaper) option. I travel cheap..and know how to do it too. I like it like that.

 

[jalimon]

The real question for me is how some dude can go trough life working hard, raising kids, loving wife, vacations at ski mountain or by the sea year after year after year... without sex!!!

Its not a hobby or an entertainment a woman’s body is life itself, and i need to be part of it!

 

[curly]

For me it's been coping with the pain of having little to no sex life because I lacked the social skills to get one. Then it became coping with a severely depressive wife. Finally now it's more entertainment, I'm a cuddler and I like sex so the more the better.

I must say that, with a few exceptions, the ladies I've met in the industry most of the time went above and beyond sex for money. And for this I am most grateful to them.

 

[UncleBob]

I strongly think the hobby improved my social skills and makes me more tolerant.
It helps me to put up with the life outside the hobby.
(Challenges at work and I'm more tolerant over people I don't go along with but still have to deal with. etc.)

When I manage to have sex with an escort in the morning, I'm all smile the whole day.
I can handle shitty work or people better after a good sog in great company

 

[jalimon]

You bring a refreshing and intelligent point of view Patron

Cheers,

 

[J.A. Prufrock]

It has saved my life. I don't think I'm overstating that.
When my marriage failed seven years ago, I was devastated and in a state of depression for a few years. It was difficult getting out of bed some days and I began drinking heavily. On my worst day, I went so far as to research suicide methods on the web.
My whole outlook on life changed about three years ago. It started with accessing sites like this one and realizing how much fun life can be if you put your mind to it. I was reminded of the pleasures of female companionship, something I missed during the last few years of a once-blissful marriage turned miserable. My renaissance began with a few massage experiences in GTA and continued with multiple trips to the adult Disneyland that is Tijuana, Mexico, specifically Club Hong Kong. Honestly, it's not even about the sex. Just some mutual caressing with a beautiful woman, the closeness, the warmth, the way she looks and feels naked, how wonderful she smells and the smile on her face reminds me of what I missed for so long while foolishly trying to reconcile a marriage that was broken beyond repair.
I'm 54 and realize my time in the game is limited, and I'm highly motivated to maximize it.
I increased my workout regimen substantially, lost weight and I'm in better shape than many guys half my age. I'm more focused on grooming and have become a hygiene freak. All of this in part to boost my self-esteem and self-confidence, but also to make myself as desirable as possible to young women (or older women).
My life as a monger is my little secret (friends, co-workers and family have no idea I do this) and it will remain that way. Anyone who would look down upon this lifestyle or try to restrict it or eliminate it can go fuck themselves. It has given me a reason to want to live a long and prosperous life.

 

[hungry101]

JA...Glad to hear. You are doing the right thing. Most of us have stories similar to yours. But you see, women withholding sex is a source of power over us. That is why women don't want us to be able to purchase the services of a sex worker. They can't come out and say this, of course. Instead they have to preach the evils of the exploitation of under-aged, trafficked, abused sex workers. All of us involved in this hobby understand that mostly this is a bunch of bull. It is nothing more than a way to control us. Withholding the pleasures of the flesh is a huge power play. The modern day beta male is all too eager to play along. Maybe he will get to sniff a girls panties if he sucks up?

BTW - I too spent an evening in Hong Kong in Tijuana and the place next door. I really enjoyed myself.

 

[Numerati]

This hobby has saved me tons of grief and many possible heartaches. How so? It helped me get that banging hot girls out of my system. Knowing that I can have pussy well shaved clean pussy at my disposal whenever, I don't carry around and radiate that pathetic desperate aura/vibe that women can pick up on. When I do talk to a girl I am interested in it is all about fun and achieving a natural click with her. If it goes it goes. If not cross her out and on to the next. Without constant sex on my mind I go out and improve myself, do stuff and create an interesting life. Learn all the ways to make extra income and execute. At the end of it all I get to reach into my best self learn how to express it outwardly and attract quality people in my life.

Health and Wealth. I realized that focusing on these two items you get a major leg up from the majority. Even if you don't want to meet regular women and stick to the hobby and other pay to play models you will do much better.

 

[donbusch]

Many civilian hotties use the promise of sex to devastating effect especially in the corporate world. It ranges from the cute new executive looking for a career opportunity to sales babes wanting to sell yet another useless financial product. These corporate hotties will ruthlessly manipulate their dumb admirers but never ever letting anyone into their panties.

Paying for sex has allowed me to focus better at work and resist these corporate hotties who will just lead me into bad career & financial decisions.

 

[jalimon]

Donbusch what you wrote is completely true. But for all these hotties using their attractiveness into the corporate world you have 10 times as many dudes using their financial and political power to abuse girl. Thanks to Wainstein this has slowed down these days.

Hungry you are spot on on women withholding sex... Once a past girlfriend told me I would not have sex for a few weeks because she was mad at me... I replied I would get her drunk like the first night we met. Haha bingo she was so fucking mad yet it lead to a wonderful hatefuck night It's when you have kids that everything change. I have no scientific data background on this but I suspect the number of sex act drops easily by 80% once you have kids. When you are like in your 30's... good shape... testosterone filled it gets to you... You love your wife, you love your kids, you love your life... Yet something fucking missing!

Cheers,

 

[Halloween Mike]

Well, if it wasn't for this hobby i would had eventually reach "the 40 years old virgin" probably, so yeah it did help me a lot.

Since its my only way of having sex ... This hobby helped me realize fantasies and not be "jealous" of hot guys in life. I mean sure they don't pay for it and do it MUCH MUCH more often than me lol, but at least i can say i had sex with the same type of hotties they had.

But lately i have been reading a lot about guys seeing pornstars in the US and such, sadly this is something i will probably never be able to do, would cost too much, that would mean a full year without seeing anybody and stretching my belt on everthing else. Also i don't see myself just traveling along to L.A for that. Anyway, i realize how i envy those guys tough and how i would love to do it... But well can't have it all in life, unless your rich...

 

[hungry101]

I don't see porn stars and I couldn't care less about it. Why do you need porn stars when you can be in Heaven, quite literally?

 

[Pvt. Papineau]

There is a guilt phase where you question if you are doing right or is the money you spend justified. Now that I am through that phase I say that it is absolutely beneficial to your mental health and well being. It is satisfying a need. If I had to do it all over again I would not change a thing.

 

[protagoras]

Well, well. well.....:blah:

Honestly, hobbying is just an entertainment .... this is not the real thing. It is only an ersatz of what is supposed to happen between a man and a woman.

How can it improve your life????? Basically, to improve means to achieve something better than another thing. If it is the way you feel when you hobby....then I'm sorry for you because nothing beats real love between a man and a woman. Wht two cents.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

How can it improve your life?????.

For someone who is shy it can improve your life by being able to talk to girls a lot easier, that would be considered an improvement in your life.