I used Lavalife and never paid for it. I found the following observation interesting. Out of the 100 women whom I sent a wink I think only one responded to me. On the other hand I got a few emails from the women to whom I didn't send a wink.
Also I sent maybe about 10 winks to the men. Not a single one responded to me. Again, some sent me emails but I never responded.
So the conclusion is if you want the best results, don't pay anything. Just post your picture and wait. Those who will spend money on you are clearly interested! Choose the sexiest picture of you and never use a blurry one or a full size. Women need to see the face!
Orallover you have to let go with your looks. I didn't see nothing wrong with you. You are not overweight, have a nice haircut, have some kind of charisma. Women don't judge men's looks the same way as you do ours, especially those horny women on the websites..
Carla