EagerBeaver, thanks for your post. However I was not asking of legally it is ok. I was wondering what people thought should be allowed and if law is not such, then change it.
I have difficulty in my mind, maybe because I was never abused, understanding the intent and the redress someone can obtain something like over 40 years later. This is why I may need guidance/explanation from others, I will admit. From where I stand right now, if you've lived all your life with it and it was that painful, why reopen the wound. Because this is what will happen, the lawyers will grill you, forcing you to declare publicly the gory details, hoping you will contradict yourself which is likely to happen given the time distance from the event. And if you've lived all your life with it and you got over it, why again reopen it. You will note here I am not saying at all the events never occurred.
Only one reason comes to my mind: to get even and make the other pay. Because we know that as soon as you mention the word "molest" in any shape or form, the public opinion right now will take your word and crucify your alleged abuser. Is this ok? I don't think so. Like I've explained in other posts, I believe in the presumption of innocence that is the foundation of our legal system. That means it is up to the other to demonstrate you're guilty, rather than you having to defend your innocence when accused. The fact that today's alleged victim are able to get their alleged abuser to be crucified simply by mentioning "sex" somewhere in their declaration is wrong. We've seen cases alleged after the death of the abuser, which is also wrong because there is always to sides to a medal and the dead can't defend themselves. Allowing people to be crucified publicly and their reputation being stained simply by claiming an abuse is wrong. Talk to the NDP MP Christine Moore,
recently accused and eventually cleared of sexual harassment. Interestingly she went through what generally men go through, and she didn't find it funny at all. So it does happen in the real world that people claim to be abused falsely after all. I believe claims of abuse should not be discussed publicly until they went through a thorough and confidential investigation, ensuring both the rights of the complainant and those of the accused are respected and the verdict is given.
So again, should we put a time limit on it or not, given the likelihood of not having exact facts after a long period of time, and the damage the mere accusation will do to the alleged abuser given the current climate of public sympathy for victims and instant tendency to blame and shame the
still not proven guilty alleged abuser?