Ever date an SP ??

[BlueBird]

Hi everybody i got this questions...

Did you ever date an SP ?
I mean i met this girl last year ( i did'nt know she was an SP at the time)
and it turn out that she told me but she keeps some thing secret ...
Now i know everything it does'nt affect me no more but at the time a was shocked... we're really in love and i know she feel guilty sometime but i always told her as long as it stay professional its cool with me like an open relationship...
I know i can live with that and she seem to be surprise ...
She's really serious about are relation and i feel she love me for who i am ...
I really love her but sometime i feel like to harm her in her job ??
What should i do ???

 

[Regular Guy]

It was only a matter of time I guess...................sigh!

 

[ocean]

Salut Bluebird, je vais repondre en francais
car je pense que ca c'est votre langue maternelle je crois
( si ca n'est pas le cas, dites moi et je vais repondre en anglais).

Monsieu, en premier, si votre relation avec cette femme est serieuse,
et vous avez des enfants avec cette femme, qu'est ce tu va faire
apportez vos enfants au garderie tant que mama puisse etre une "femme
d'affaire" en utilisant votre lit comme un bureau?

Pas de desrespecte au fournisseurs de service (SP's), mais un SP doit choissir, avoir une ralation serieuse avec un homme vers long terme/
marriage etc ou le business pas les deux. En anglais il y a un dictom:
"You cannot have your cake and eat it too." (Je ne sait pas la traduction francais pour le dictom)

Au dela de ca, un jour vos enfants va demander qu'est-ce que mama faire
pour travaille papa , qu'est ce que vous dites monsieur, mama baisse
votre professeur ?

 

[hairdeficient]

For a relatively short period of time ( a few months) I did have a girlfriend relationship with an sp.

Her work did not bother me but economics came into play.

She had so much more available income than me and was a big spender that i was unable to keep up with her plans and i ended the relationship.

 

[BlueBird]

mais elle prend environ 1 a 2 clients semaines car elle a aussi un autre emplois de jour et je crois quelle songe a arrêter d'ici quelque mois ...

 

[YouVantOption]

For a relatively short period of time ( a few months) I did have a girlfriend relationship with an sp.

Her work did not bother me but economics came into play.

She had so much more available income than me and was a big spender that i was unable to keep up with her plans and i ended the relationship.

Yeah, people with "ill gotten" gains tend not to have a realistic view of money, how difficult it is to make, or how long their scam will last and leave them broke. I used to know a guy who was into the telemarketing scams, invariably, the day before our respective paydays, with me making maybe 20% of what he was, gross, he'd come to me for a loan.

 

[YouVantOption]

mais elle prend environ 1 a 2 clients semaines car elle a aussi un autre emplois de jour et je crois quelle songe a arrêter d'ici quelque mois ...

"Je crois" being the operative part of the phrase here.

 

[Mike Mercury]

I dated two. A few times each. Nothing serious.

 

[UHGL]

Hi everybody i got this questions...

Did you ever date an SP ?
I mean i met this girl last year ( i did'nt know she was an SP at the time)
and it turn out that she told me but she keeps some thing secret ...
Now i know everything it does'nt affect me no more but at the time a was shocked... we're really in love and i know she feel guilty sometime but i always told her as long as it stay professional its cool with me like an open relationship...
I know i can live with that and she seem to be surprise ...
She's really serious about are relation and i feel she love me for who i am ...
I really love her but sometime i feel like to harm her in her job ??
What should i do ???

Why not ask yourself what you really want in your relationship with her? No one is you & no one else is her......... we will not be living your life or really understand your very individual relationship with her. In Vegas over 2/3rds of all relationships fail, so why listen to anyone who tells you that your relationship is doomed? They are just playing the odds. Make your own choice and be true to yourself. Good luck with your choice.

 

[THEHITMAN]

The only thing that will come out of dating is a few weeks of fun followed by a wholebunch of bullshit and money loss.Theres so many other girls you can date.

 

[BlueBird]

thank uhgl thats exacly what im doing

 

[Sexy_BBW_Véro]

The only thing that will come out of dating is a few weeks of fun followed by a wholebunch of bullshit and money loss.Theres so many other girls you can date.

We are not allow to be in love now because we are sp??? Love can be feel by everyone in every kind of work you know !!!

I already have fall in Love during the last year and I'm still with the same person and I still love him so much ! I never had to pay for him and He never spent anything for me ( outside of the first rdv we had 1 year ago ) Even ... we gonna give each other christmas gift for the first time this year .

Bluebird ... everything is possible in love ... trust yourself and go ahead ! We have only 1 life to leave and love is the power of this Life! Enjoy every moment without thinking about tomorrow!

 

[BlueBird]

thank you sexy_bbw_vero.
We are so happy together ...

 

[ocean]

Monsieur Bluebird, je ne dit pas qu'un SP est un non personne. Mais, d'apres moi, madame doit choisir.

 

[ExoticSpirit]

I think the relationship is certainly possible but it would have to be a real unique pair of individuals who certainly do not have the mainstream attitudes. Most of us think such a relationship is cool but sooner or later, some type of jealousy will kick in - usually with the guy who starts to feel uncomfortable with his lady getting it from so many others. So this is not a relationship for most of us. But if you have what it takes, then it could work but you are a rare bird then.

If you are dating an SP just because nobody else is around, then you might have to rethink if you really have what it takes. If it's really okay for your lady to have somebody else's dick in her, then you are off to the races. But if it bothers you in any way, then the relationship is doomed for failure. Hate to be direct and graphic but that's the way it is.

 

[BlueBird]

Totally agree. Actually, I think a relationship like this is far more likely to survive if it hasn't started in the business to begin with.

Some of us (escorts) have considered going out with clients. I went out with one a long time ago - big mistake. I stopped working; he didn't stop seeing escorts But the main problem I see with dating in this business, is it seems (in my experience) that the men willing to date escorts are somehow predisposed to wanting to date them in the first place. A lot of men, let's not kid ourselves, see escorts out of lonelyness; aren't investing as much time in the regular dating scene as they spend money on this side. Many out of that bunch are on the look out for 'the one', the one to save and live happily ever after with. They're easy to fall for because they lavish you with gifts and compliments. But these are dysfunctional people - and don't accuse me of labelling people, I consider myself to be dysfunctional in many ways as well. The issues that brought the guy to the escort will inevitably come back to haunt the couple. I don't see how such a relationship can survive the test of time. He's seeing her because she paid attention to him. The moment that attention wanes, as it inevitably does in any normal relationship, the issues will turn back up, usually in the form of jealousy and manipulation. Then it's the end.

I don't know a single escort who's had a successful relationship with a client. I do know escorts who are in successful relationships, but their boyfriends weren't clients. These boyfriends were the kind of people ExoticSpirit describes above. Her: 'By the way, I do this for a living'. Him: 'I accept you for who you are.' Some couples have very libertine, free-thinking lifestyles. I don't see why some boyfriends couldn't deal with having a girlfriend escort if they can accept one that wants an open relationship, or is into swinging or the like. In some cases, it's surely a turn-on for both Then again, we're probably not talking about couples in their early twenties. It takes maturity to accept such a lifestyle and indeed, the girls I know in this business who also have a lifetime partner, are in their 30s and 40s.

JAG

JAG !!
i wasnt a client i mean we know each other since high school and we were friend back then its not like i dont know her ...
When we first dating she told me she was an escort and knew it back then too ... and we are both in 30s...

 

[Sexy_BBW_Véro]

Qui n'essaie rien, n'a rien ... comme ma maman a toujours dit!

 

[BlueBird]

i know i say i met her last year ... we were friend back then but we did not see each other for about 3 - 4 years because she moved in toronto and got back to mtl .

 

[Tracy]

Blue Bird, anyone that is going to tell you that dating an SP is a waste of time and can never work out and that a girl has to chose about "having her cake and eating it too"...

I have been ina loving relationship for almost 5 years, got married on the 6th and we are happy with a beautiful little girl and a big dog... Perfect family.

And again guys.. please don't tell me I am a freak of nature and that for the life I have to be impossible for anyone esle.

Yes, we have our rough spots LIKE any othe couple, we fight about finances and works, and cleaning, LIKE ANY OTHER NORMAL COUPLE. Its great.

He did no know what I did at the beginning, it hurt him when I told him, but we have worked through it.

nd he was never a client, never associated withthe buisness before me.

 

[gamelessdork]

Blue Bird, anyone that is going to tell you that dating an SP is a waste of time and can never work out and that a girl has to chose about "having her cake and eating it too"...

I have been ina loving relationship for almost 5 years, got married on the 6th and we are happy with a beautiful little girl and a big dog... Perfect family.

And again guys.. please don't tell me I am a freak of nature and that for the life I have to be impossible for anyone esle.

Yes, we have our rough spots LIKE any othe couple, we fight about finances and works, and cleaning, LIKE ANY OTHER NORMAL COUPLE. Its great.

He did no know what I did at the beginning, it hurt him when I told him, but we have worked through it.

nd he was never a client, never associated withthe buisness before me.

You could see how the wedding vows might get in the way, right?

I think the point it, no offense at all, but I think a normal guy wouldn't want to share his woman. What is the reality? There's tons of infidelity. I've been cheated on by every woman I've ever dated. At least an SP is honest about it, but it's still like being cuckoled or however you spell it.