Has a disgusting experience with a Service Provider Made You Consider Taking a Break from the Hobby?
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I think it's much more common that SPs have a disgusting experience with clients than vice versa, and a few have posted about it.
This reminds me of an amusing episode on this board around 15 years ago. A MERB member at that time had posted a really bad review of an SP who worked for Eleganza. Up until that time, that SP had mostly racked up pretty good reviews. This review, however, was highly critical of the SP's service. No hygiene issues were mentioned, but the MERB member just hammered the SP for poor service.
I was one of the few who saw the SP's scathing and hilarious rebuttal posts before the Mods at that time took them down. The SP, rather than allowing Eleganza to respond (which at the time I think board policy was to allow agency owners to respond rather than SPs) had registered a handle and took it upon herself to provide context to the bad review. She destroyed the MERB member, in a scathing review/critique, giving graphic descriptions of his poor hygiene, bad manners and hideously ugly features. Mentioning things like armpit odor and excessively hairy genitals. Before her posts were taken down, the MERB member whom the SP had taken to task for his bad review actually replied to some of her posts. His replies were meek and somewhat shocked in tone, but seemed to validate much of what the SP had reported.
The SPs' posts were quickly taken down and Mods posted a reminder to Agency SPs to let the agency respond to bad reviews.
The MERB member never posted again after that, at least not under that handle. I believe he likely switched handles due to the harsh review he had received from the SP.
Anyway it was a dramatic lesson on there being two sides to every review experience.
This reminds me of an amusing episode on this board around 15 years ago. A MERB member at that time had posted a really bad review of an SP who worked for Eleganza. Up until that time, that SP had mostly racked up pretty good reviews. This review, however, was highly critical of the SP's service. No hygiene issues were mentioned, but the MERB member just hammered the SP for poor service.
I was one of the few who saw the SP's scathing and hilarious rebuttal posts before the Mods at that time took them down. The SP, rather than allowing Eleganza to respond (which at the time I think board policy was to allow agency owners to respond rather than SPs) had registered a handle and took it upon herself to provide context to the bad review. She destroyed the MERB member, in a scathing review/critique, giving graphic descriptions of his poor hygiene, bad manners and hideously ugly features. Mentioning things like armpit odor and excessively hairy genitals. Before her posts were taken down, the MERB member whom the SP had taken to task for his bad review actually replied to some of her posts. His replies were meek and somewhat shocked in tone, but seemed to validate much of what the SP had reported.
The SPs' posts were quickly taken down and Mods posted a reminder to Agency SPs to let the agency respond to bad reviews.
The MERB member never posted again after that, at least not under that handle. I believe he likely switched handles due to the harsh review he had received from the SP.
Anyway it was a dramatic lesson on there being two sides to every review experience.
007 and I will likely never see eye to eye on a many number of things
But since one person’s 10 is another person’s 1 and vice versa in looks. The same applies to tolerance for hygiene and definition of cleanliness.
He did not ask anyone if he was over reacting or not. He asked how to deal with what he considered uncleanliness.
A few years ago, I was seeing an SP who was truly my atf. Weekly meetings
I made the mistake of asking about details from a review she had where she said the guy asked her to perform scat. She told me what the client wanted and what she did.
The girl was SUPER FUCKING CLEAN, perfect hygiene and a mad crazy fuck
I lost my boner and never called her again just because of a story she told me.
We ALL have our limits
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This hobby (and perhaps real sex) is not made for the ultra squeamish germophobes.
Even with rigorous hygiene, accidents happen.
Women frequently spot off cycle or are irregular.
Shit happens during Greek and sometimes even vigorous regular sex.
Each time something like this has come up for me in a session with an sp or with a gf, we just clean up, usually laugh a little bit, take a quick breather and get back to it.
That being said, I have never been shy about asking respectfully and without judgment for a quick rinse from an sp if there is a hygiene issue. I think that is probably what I would have done in this scenario.
Not a mood killer for me, but certainly something to be addressed before getting into the action.
Even with rigorous hygiene, accidents happen.
Women frequently spot off cycle or are irregular.
Shit happens during Greek and sometimes even vigorous regular sex.
Each time something like this has come up for me in a session with an sp or with a gf, we just clean up, usually laugh a little bit, take a quick breather and get back to it.
That being said, I have never been shy about asking respectfully and without judgment for a quick rinse from an sp if there is a hygiene issue. I think that is probably what I would have done in this scenario.
Not a mood killer for me, but certainly something to be addressed before getting into the action.
I usually never pay that much attention to the underwear if it’s white. If it’s a sexy color like red or pink I do more but never got something like you. What I had though is 2 girls where the condom came with a bit of blood. Not a fan of it but there are far worse stuff that happen and it’s not her fault most of the time.
For example vagina that smells really bad (not a natural smell). I’m talking the kind that you have to smell upwards to avoid it. That to me is worse
But the worst for me that really made me consider cutting my hobby is shit attitude entitlement, soulless service and being overly shy (not in a cute way). I’m talking about girls that charge 260+ not about being cheap. It doesn’t happen a lot but 2 times a year for 2 years adds up you know. Over 1000 bucks even if you are rich is still not 10 bucks
For example vagina that smells really bad (not a natural smell). I’m talking the kind that you have to smell upwards to avoid it. That to me is worse
But the worst for me that really made me consider cutting my hobby is shit attitude entitlement, soulless service and being overly shy (not in a cute way). I’m talking about girls that charge 260+ not about being cheap. It doesn’t happen a lot but 2 times a year for 2 years adds up you know. Over 1000 bucks even if you are rich is still not 10 bucks
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Saw a provider who took a dump and she still smelled during my session. Never saw her again. Had seen her many times before too
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I don't target you because its you. I'm discussing on a topic that you happen to have started. You weren't exactly clear on a few things which you can tell by some of the replies. Perhaps you're just too fragile on certain aspects? This is a public thread, what do you expect? The whole point is discussing and sharing opinions, some might not agree, who cares?
Also dunno where you think you read me needing to save a few bucks... weird angle. Sure there are limits to what I'm willing to pay on a regular basis based on what I THINK its worth TO ME because I have many times, and often can't say it was justifiable TO ME, you do you man. I don't bash HDH girls for their rates, I just don't go without even batting an eye or losing any sleep over it ... And its not animosity towards you specifically, I don't think about you at all. But if I happen to often reply against your own opinion... well, then that's what it is. Perhaps your general topics of discussion just often hit weird imho. But back on topic.
Just a really strange topic. And as you can see a few of us share the same opinion on the situation. It is what it is dude.
Not saying I crave it and hope for it. Just that, I don't go looking at girls panties once they're off.... probably in part because I know what I might see. Was it it poor choice on her part? Obivo-usly. Perhaps there was no choice for her? I don't have a panty fetish myself, perhaps that's your thing and believe that women fart roses and rainbows? Perhaps you weren't really turned off? Like a priest bashing pedos.. who knows. Did you at least inform the receptionist? Or do you think the suggestion will magically reach them via the board?
So ya, unless there was a fresh spray of blood or a fresh turd... I think its safe to say that most of us have seen that in real life. Hell, you should see my hockey briefs. Even when clean my favorite pair might look like someone decomposed in them. Sometimes there's no access to OXYclean... And no I don't wear them on dates.
Regardless, shit happens.
No, that's not what he asked at all. His experience was with uncleanliness. He had a reaction to it, and asked if others had had similar reactions to anything, not necessarily uncleanliness, that turned them off. and turned them off to the hobby. He asked specifically about having a reaction and then overcoming that reaction to resume hobbying.
Agreed, and that's why I said very clearly that everyone is different and it is what it is as far as reactions go.
Now, the meat of this is that if your bar is low for whatever it is that bothers you then you either need to severely refine what you do or go do something else. If climbing a stepladder makes you dizzy and queasy then perhaps skydiving isn't for you. If a clown at a kids birthday party frightens you then perhaps you should avoid the circus. You see where I'm going with this. If the sight of a pair of dirty underpants is enough to kill the urge to monger in you then you either need to refine your experiences to minimize the chance of it ever happening again or you need to quit, as the OP were tempted to do. An obvious solution is one you already suggested: Go see someone you already know is great. Of course, in time everyone you like will retire or disappear and you will be left looking again. You can also forget mongering in anything except the most sanitary conditions in sterile environments, which quite frankly is a much less enjoyable way to approach the hobby and will cheat you of many great adventures (and admittedly some bad ones). They all become good stories. lol. It would also absolutely preclude you from engaging with almost the entire world market. As you say, everyone's tolerance is different, and everyone has every right to have their preferences and to exercise their prerogatives with respect to those preferences, but if my bar for tolerance was that low I'd just quit and be done with it. YMMV
Not gonna argue with your interpretation
But the question was
1st: Had this happened to you? Yes or no answer
2nd. If YES. How did you deal with it
And finally 3rd: how have you dealt with this type of situation. The situation being feeling disgusted
So if anyone answer to question 1 is NO. Then technically. They can’t really help other than criticize
But then you did, immediately afterwards. So, whatever. I'm not going to worry about it, and it's certainly not worth having an extended argument about. We'll each interpret it as we will, and the discussion will go where it goes, as it does in all threads on MERB. There's nothing that anyone has said here so far that really invalidates anything anyone else has said, so let's just roll with it and see where it takes us.
Happened a few times i had disapointing experiences that made me think "why did i just wasted 400$ for this" (including travel/hotel etc) but "disgusting" not really.
Once there was a bit of red on the condom but hey its life... Whatever.
Once an SP brough red lube... She said she didn't realize when buying. Dunno if this was created for some vamp fetishes but during cowgirl it was all over me and that was weird. I feared it could stain the bed (my hotel room) so we stopped and clean.
Once an SP had gum but tasted residues of smoking but she was so hot physically i kinda brush it off lol
But i never been grossed per say.
But yeah when a meeting was subpar it did made me think "about how much money i wasted that day" but thanksfully it happened very very few times.
Once there was a bit of red on the condom but hey its life... Whatever.
Once an SP brough red lube... She said she didn't realize when buying. Dunno if this was created for some vamp fetishes but during cowgirl it was all over me and that was weird. I feared it could stain the bed (my hotel room) so we stopped and clean.
Once an SP had gum but tasted residues of smoking but she was so hot physically i kinda brush it off lol
But i never been grossed per say.
But yeah when a meeting was subpar it did made me think "about how much money i wasted that day" but thanksfully it happened very very few times.
These are much harder problems to address.
The latter of which does seem to be on the rise unfortunately...
After seeing a new provider with whom i got a terrible experience it didn't made me consider taking a break, it just reminded me why I keep seeing the same girl since 4 years nows.
I totally agree. It's been getting worse and it's just annoying to be honest. Whenever I come across a girl like that, especially the entitled attitude type, I just leave immediately. Over the years, I've become quite good at detecting it immediately.
While there are never guarantees, I found that if you avoid this kind of girl, chances are high that you're also avoiding poor hygiene and smelly pussies.
You lower your chances of bad hygiene and smelly pussies but not a guarantee. I met nice girls in attitude and had some smells.
As for attitude, some do it on purpose for sure. But the new gen z girls that started I actually don’t think they are like that on purpose. When you spend to much time on your phone, go to school from home, go work from home, had a Covid lockdown and stayed at home you lose your social skills. It can sometimes come of as bad attitude. I for example went to buy donuts the cashier looked in her early 20s she was extremely anxious while dealing with the clients.
So it’s not necessarily voluntary but regardless I still prefer to go for someone in their late twenties or earliest 30s.
A 22 year old of today is not the same as 6-10 years ago. They were more social before which makes a better experience.
My two cents
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I don’t know if what I say is pertinent to this thread, but I just wonder when people posts about their bad experience whether it was bad service or scam or bad hygiene, why do people still ask for rates and location? Makes no sense to me that after a bad review, why would someone actually want to know about their whereabouts? I would take note and turn away
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