Further reflections
Ronnie,
We appreciate your insightful comments as well as the the ones from other SPs. I started this thread because of a special lady I know that is struggling with the profession. I also wanted to explore the psychological dimensions of the business since most of what we post on these review boards reduces encounters to the physical acts. But as Phnine mentions in his excellent post, there is so much more to this industry than sex.
Now, I recognize that most men are not interested in more than a physical connection with a woman. This is not necessarily a bad thing. Some men, as Ronnie pointed out, lack the confidence or social skills to engage in a meaningful conversation. By the way, I could also say the same thing about some SPs. I tend to appreciate the maturity of an older SP and most of the times I also appreciate the fact that they are more aware of their bodies. Of course, there are young women in the business who are equally mature and have a lot more to offer than just sex but I think that they are rare gems.
A few men on the board have experienced what I call true magic - the ability to connect with an SP on all levels. If it happens, it leaves a deep impression on you and her. Often, my favorite moment of an encounter is the honest discussion that takes place after an intimate moment. The facade breaks down and you are physically and emotionally naked. This is when the element of surprise often kicks in for me.
Today I was eating lunch alone, as I often like to do, to relax and reflect. I was thinking about what I despise of the business. I hate the way many of the women are exploited by either the agencies or the clients. There are, however, many exceptions to this exploitation but even one rotten apple pisses me off. I was thinking how I hate running around trying to find a place for a secret encounter. That part stresses me out. My ideal would be an incall with an independent SP who feels comfortable receiving at her place. She would enjoy all aspects of our encounter, not just the initmate moments. She would connect with me in ways she did not think were possible.
But, alas, this is understandably very rare. And even if she does receive, will I connect with her at all levels? Will I enjoy our conversations, our intimate moments and sharing our secrets? Do I risk getting too involved with this person?
As I hinted in my last post, I am beginning to get mixed feelings about this hobby. It is not just that the novelty has worn off. It is more than that. Maybe it is just that I have not found exactly what I am looking for. Maybe I will not find it in these secret encounters. It still excites me to meet someone and share a great time with a special person but if I become too selective, I think I should reconsider whether or not I should continue. Perhaps I should just relax and enjoy each moment as it comes.
Your reflective hobbyist,
GG
