My thought : anyone having a problem with the thought of their daughter becoming an escort should not be seeing escorts in the first place. If you think there’s anything wrong with escorting, or you feel like your daughter is "better than that" you don’t respect sex workers enough to be a client. Move along.
I understand how you can see it that way but it's not as simple as that. The argument you presented is a logical fallacy called Appeal to hypocrisy, also known as
Tu quoque which is an attempt to discredit someone's argument because their actions might not consistent with said argument.
Example:
Daughter is seen smoking a cigarette
Dad: Daughter, You shouldn't be smoking cigarettes because it's unhealthy
Daughter: You are not in a position to tell me to stop smoking because you are also a smoker
This is a weak argument because it focuses on the perceived hypocrisy of the father rather than the merits of his argument. In this case, the daughter completely dismissed her father's argument that smoking is unhealthy, that he wants what's best for her. She rather justified her continuing smoking because he does it also, which is very unfortunate and apathetic to say the least. The reality of the matter is that the father loves his daughter more than he loves himself (let's assume so anyways) and that he doesn't want his precious daughter to engage in unhealthy behavior just because he does it. We are not perfect, and as parents, or future parents in my case, we always want to make sure that your children have a better life than ours. I personally believe that this is human nature. Good parents look at their mistakes and will try their best to avoid having their children making those same mistakes (assuming that everyone agrees that smoking is bad).
Personally, I don't subscribe to the idea that "If she's happy doing it, all the best to her". Although I do not have children yet, I do have parents who did their very best in raising me to be the best version of myself that I am today. In doing so they "imposed" (I use this word in quotation marks to emphasize that I am using it
positively rather than negatively) strong values, wisdom, beliefs, discipline, knowledge, culture, tradition, standards, principles, ethics, code of behavior, etc. I cherish all of them even though they were "imposed" on me and I feel that we are lacking more of this in 2019. Our current western society is pushing the idea that "as long as it makes you happy, do what you want. Fuck how anyone feels". I personally find this dangerous because often enough, teens do not know what truly makes them happy. They think they do, but in fact they don't. Look at what social media is doing to them and they're completely oblivious and blind to it. Teens here are suffering from depressions, suicide, eating disorders, etc. and they don't even know why. For me this is obvious but not to someone who is born and submerged to it. I personally do not blame the teens. I mostly blame the parents because they are the ones providing their children with those tools. This is obviously debatable, but the point that I'm making is that we should not always accept the idea that "As long as they're happy, all is well", because they might actually be unhappy and not know it.
Going back to the topic. If we are to approach this question honestly and holistically, we have to recognize and agree that there is no right or wrong answer here. A lot of it depends on culture, values, ethnic backgrounds, etc.
I can assure you that if you ask a 100 random parents from different ethnicities in Montreal if they would be okay with their daughter being an escort, I'd bet you that at least 90% would answer ''NO!'' instantly. It's not just for religious purposes it's also simply because most people are not comfortable with the idea their baby girl (Yes, in most parent's eyes, their children will always be their babies and nothing will ever change that) had their tongue shoved in another person's mouth day in and day out and then coming home like nothing happened. How is it not understandable that this can be totally repulsive and unacceptable to most people? I certainly do not agree that ''escorting is a job like any other job''. I mean by definition, sure it's a ''job'' and there is a very high income associated with it... But let's not hide the fact that the nature of the job is very different than most jobs... Again, I totally respect those who have no issues with their daughter being an escort, however I ask that this respect be returned to those who are not okay with the idea. I do not understand how certain people here simply cannot understand how parents would NOT want their daughters to fuck other men for a living. I personally could never do it because in my family and in my culture this is not accepted. But more importantly I fully agree with those reasons of why it is not accepted. Again, for others who have not been subjected to my culture or upbringing I can totally see how they don't see it the same way, which is why it's important to establish that there is no absolute right answer here. It's a matter of life experiences, upbringing that shape you into a person with beliefs, values, ideologies, opinions, etc. Some people have a hedonistic approach, whereas others take a more virtuous approach. The key is for you to understand and accept why a person might not accept or approve their daughter being an escort the same way that this same person accepts that you are an escort because you don't share the same view on this practice.
I am one of those guys by the way. Am I a hypocrite? If it makes people feel better that I say it out loud... SURE I am. I am fucking someone else’s daughter and therefore my actions are not in line with my morals, values. However this doesn't change a thing regarding my own daughter. Does this make me selfish? SURE if that's what you want to hear, but it also makes me a human being who wants the absolute best for his children and based on my upbringing and strong values I am convinced that this line of business is not a healthy choice for my children.
I have also noticed westerners, Caucasians, white people... whatever term you like are much much more open to open to the idea of their daughter pursuing a career as an escort or doing porn. I can assure you that even young people like me, but who are Middle Eastern, Asian, African, etc are culturally strongly opposed to this. They consider it a huge disgrace to oneself and their families. Prostitution to this day is still considered very degrading by the majority of people and we need to respect understand that even if we don't feel that way.
Again, when both parents and children are okay with that, my hat goes off to you! For those that have no issues with having children pursuing this line of business, I respect your open-mindedness. But at the same time, if you're that open minded, try and understand why most people would not approve of this especially with all of the valid reasons that exist out there.
Being open minded does goes both ways and an appeal to hypocrisy is not a valid argument to such a deep and complex topic.
Please do not take my post as SW bashing. As all the other members, I am thankful for every encounter that I have had so far and have always shown great respect to every girl I have ever met. Note that i know some some escorts on this very board that would not want their children to be an escort. Hypocritical, but understandable...
