I haven't read the whole thread yet....I'll do it straight after this post (while replying to my PMs lol)...As a mother of 2 daughters and as a daughter myself (and as a SP!)....I write quickly so please, do not mind about my mistakes...there will be many!! lol
My mother always have a very pejorative vision of the sex industry... My father owned strip clubs and my mother saw wayyy too much things in this period... I always lied to my mother, told her I was barmaid at l'Axe when in fact, I was stripping there...I even brought her once and the doormen confirmed my life with her when they introduced themself to her....she was dealing with cancer and IMHO back then, telling her the truth wouldn't have changed anything but stressing her out for absolutely no reason..so I was stripping from wednesday to sunday, 7 pm to 3 am....and she knew everything..I was just changing some words when telling her what happened lately...if someone was pissing me off in the booths, with her this same "someone" was pissing me off but at my bar...Having to do a thumb down to the real barmaid when I was having issues with clients inside the booths to let her know I want the doorman to come over? Then on the phone with my mom, I was doing the thumb down to as stripper/dj/shooter girl etc...
Why? Because no matter if she didn't have serious health issues, she wouldn't accept it at all, most probably she would have tried to get me out from there, thought I was abused by a pimp, a boyfriend etc...and having to argue with her constantly about something thats not real...I favored having to deal with her phobias than ending up lying to her just to make her stop with her paranoia...but no matter how worried she would have been, that would not make me ending up quitting...
As a mother, I do not normalize this kind of job, I do not demonize it either...I just do not point any job to my daughters at all (except if they ask about it...like a job where a vet would not have to kill any animal at all...one a;ready asked me that...)...I just encourage them to do what they want to do of their life...They do not know my secret life and it is not their business either...even when they will be over 18...If they ask, I won't lie at them like I did with my mother (it will depends on their personality when they ask it though...), but I just want to encourage them to do what they want and not what they have been told to do...trying to please everyone but them is a key to failure...
I also do know, as I am doing it right now, they can work and see clients from time to time meanwhile going to school or working in a real career... I do work and study...and do not need this job to earn my living...but to me, the money is the safest boundaries in order to respond to my carnal needs, without risking to introduce a man in my privacy (their privacy as well) and regret it afterward..so it keeps my parallel lives separates and set it both straight...there are so many way of doing it the way they want, with the boundaries they want, that's another reason why I encourage them in following their own judgement...if they end up working as SP, hopefully, their judgement will lead them to keep their self-respect and set their boundaries to enjoy their experience...I rather have their trust and make sure they will open up to me if this happens, then they might know what they are passing through...and guide them to avoid the sharks around..than starting to bitch about it and embarrass them to confess what they are living in their secret life....sometime this job can make SPs feel very lonely, afraid of being judge...and this is the last thing on earth I wish for them...No matter what they do, their mother will always be there for them both and that's the only thing that really matter...
There is no scientific data about it but many psychologists and studies say that the #1 predictor to see how a kid will get along in life is not the parents job, religion, not if they are still together or not...not their income...the really reliable predictor on our kid's futue is to let them run, experiment, try and fail but getting back up.,..live their life and no matter what happen in the day, there will always be a neck to wrap their arms around when comes the evening (or when needed! lol)...and their parent's voice in their ear telling them:"I'm here"