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One thing that seems to help control urges
Part of my habit/pattern/problem has always been a cycle which goes something like this:
1) jerk off looking at internet porn, sometimes for hours
2) the internet porn kicks off all kinds of fantasies/urges to get with a real woman
3) in some cases, this leads me to make a call to an SP that I shouldn't be making
Usually if I come during masturbation, all urges go away completely for a while (a good thing). However there are two problems doing this with internet porn. The first is that I seem to fall into a time warp, where hours can go by (hours that I can't afford to spend this way). The second is that this is usually how my ill-advised SP escapades start.
Recently I've been trying to go back to masturbating away from the computer (and other other "visual aids") and just using the good old-fashioned imagination. I find this is quite enjoyable, and also leads to much shorter "sessions" (maybe 10 minutes instead of two hours - seemed like the absolute minimum time I'd ever spend with internet porn was about half an hour). It also quenches my low-level urges, without dangling the possibility of an SP in front of my nose, which is good. Finally it seems like when I go this route I can manage my urges with less ongoing sexual thoughts (for hours after an internet porn binge I just seem to have vivid fantasies popping into my head, no matter how inappropriate the setting).
Another benefit is that, while the internet porn wank sessions are really kind of exhausting, the short imagination-fueled sessions are more refreshing.
I am hoping this insight will be helpful to someone else! Kind of like the nicotine patch for sex addicts...
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Part of my habit/pattern/problem has always been a cycle which goes something like this:
1) jerk off looking at internet porn, sometimes for hours
2) the internet porn kicks off all kinds of fantasies/urges to get with a real woman
3) in some cases, this leads me to make a call to an SP that I shouldn't be making
Usually if I come during masturbation, all urges go away completely for a while (a good thing). However there are two problems doing this with internet porn. The first is that I seem to fall into a time warp, where hours can go by (hours that I can't afford to spend this way). The second is that this is usually how my ill-advised SP escapades start.
Recently I've been trying to go back to masturbating away from the computer (and other other "visual aids") and just using the good old-fashioned imagination. I find this is quite enjoyable, and also leads to much shorter "sessions" (maybe 10 minutes instead of two hours - seemed like the absolute minimum time I'd ever spend with internet porn was about half an hour). It also quenches my low-level urges, without dangling the possibility of an SP in front of my nose, which is good. Finally it seems like when I go this route I can manage my urges with less ongoing sexual thoughts (for hours after an internet porn binge I just seem to have vivid fantasies popping into my head, no matter how inappropriate the setting).
Another benefit is that, while the internet porn wank sessions are really kind of exhausting, the short imagination-fueled sessions are more refreshing.
I am hoping this insight will be helpful to someone else! Kind of like the nicotine patch for sex addicts...
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