How to quit the Hobby/Addiction?

[2458p]

Phase #3: The Manic Phase

This is the most dangerous phase. You become completely engrossed by this activity. It consumes every fiber of your living being.

You start writing glowing reviews on every single lady you meet. You experience a whirlwind of emotions and an adrenaline rush as you move from one masseuse to another escort, always trying to get another "fix" to surpass your last "fix".

You deny that you've become a full fledged addict but your actions, your finances and your thoughts all point to a different direction.

Wow. I'm at phase #3 right now. Good thing is that I am aware that I am addicted and it doesn't have that much of an impact on my finances. But yeah, I think about my next escort everyday and I can't wait to add another name to my list. I don't drink, I don't do drugs and I'm a hard working guy....but to say that I am addicted to escorts would be the biggest understatement of all time. :lol:

 

[Numerati]

The so called Phase #3 there is nothing manic about it or even dangerous. It should really be called the Candy Store Phase. This is when you first arrived at the hobby and absolutely engrossed by the selection and number of hot SPs that are available to you whenever. Yet after so many encounters you hit a plateau and things really taper off. This may last weeks, months, a year or two max. That constant chase and craving are not going to last for sure. Only thing that I see would take a serious hit is your bank account!

When I lived in Montreal I wasn't hobbying mad like I thought I would. The hobby became something like what a native New Yorker would treat the Statue of Liberty, Empire State Building or the Twin Towers when they were around. You know it is there but you have no screaming urge to visit because you have all the time in the world to visit them. Same applies to the hobby for me. When I did have the urge it was for the long term with a selected few when I wasn't seeing any civie girl.

 

[randolph]

I agree that there is a huge connection between porn and seeing escorts. Some might say that porn can act as surrogate for escorts but I don't think it is that simple... It's about limiting (not eliminating!) one thoughts from straying to sex generally...

 

[Notme123]

Getting MTS STD from one ..then you will quit!!

 

[Numerati]

Getting MTS STD from one ..then you will quit!!

On that will definitely do it for sure!

 

[niceguy-A1]

What about this citation: ``REAL MEN don't need to see escorts, they can simply have a REAL WOMAN!``... OUCCCHH!!

 

[2458p]

What about this citation: ``REAL MEN don't need to see escorts, they can simply have a REAL WOMAN!``... OUCCCHH!!

Whoever said that clearly didn't live life to the fullest and was probably wearing brown socks.

 

[anon_vlad]

What about this citation: ``REAL MEN don't need to see escorts, they can simply have a REAL WOMAN!``... OUCCCHH!!

Reciting an aphorism doesn't make it true.

Real men age; Real men are always going to be attracted to young women => They have to pay for it eventually.

 

[niceguy-A1]

That's a fact, we are aging.
That's the sad part... And to have to pay, sad, sad, sad for me.
Maybe I am not made for this!

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

A dampner on my activities is being transfered to Ft.MacMurray on a 3 year contract, my 5-6 months off will change to 1-2 months off. I checked Ft.Mac backpage and see that I have missed Heidi Van Horny by a couple of weeks ( if by chance any SP's will tour through Ft.Mac it will be appreciated ). The only plus is that I can retire in 3 years and continue if I decide to stay in Canada.

 

[ledoux]

Hobbying in Fort McMoney must be very very depressing, and very very expensive...(I have never been further than Edmonton myself) .I suggest you retire as soon as possible and return to the real world!
But if you really want to get rid of the hobby addiction, I suggest you retire in Yellowknife!

 

[Numerati]

Sex is like appetite... more you eat, more you are hungry.... same with sex...

Ha ha. I see this hobby/sex like an itch. You scratch and you scratch hard. Everything dissipates and you move on. Get that out of your system you head back to your projects/hobbies with even more creative passion. After a few months or so that scratch comes back.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Fort McMoney must be very very depressing, and very very expensive...

Checked backpage out and from what I found IMO a good one but $250 HH and $400 Hr. There are some $160 HH but looks like B&S material. On a side note there are many great looking older ladies in the pubs out here.

 

[ledoux]

On a side note there are many great looking older ladies in the pubs out here.

My respect to the older ladies and have fun in the pubs, We'll take care of all our beauties here in Québec while you are away...and don't get too depressed on october 19! Things are going to change for the better allover!

 

[Melyssa]

Quand le sexe prend toute la place

Je suis tombée là-dessus.

«Ils utilisent le sexe pour se détendre, se calmer, surmonter le stress, se confirmer qu'ils sont à la hauteur, mais jamais pour la bonne raison. Chez les dépendants sexuels, il n'y a pas de satiété, ils ne sont jamais satisfaits parce que ce n'est pas un besoin sexuel qui est en cause. C'est comme une pulsion, et ça finit par prendre toute la place dans leur vie»

http://www.lapresse.ca/le-soleil/ac...925720-quand-le-sexe-prend-toute-la-place.php

 

[ShyMan]

Perfectly stated, Melyssa. Parfaitement indiqué, Melyssa.Like everything in life, no money, no honey. No female (GF, wife, or family member) wants a broke-ass dude. Once the money runs out, the addition may subside or vanish, if not then . . .

 

[Leche]

guys, relax about the guilt, it's just a release! On a la chance de baiser des filles que l'on ne pourrait sans doute pas séduire régulièrement, c'est très bien.

 

[jalimon]

WHO classifies compulsive sexual behavior as mental health condition

So it's official folks we are all sick

As with gaming addiction disorder that was added in June or prior gambling addiction, both of which no substance is consume, sexual addiction is now recognized by WHO as a mental health condition.

Being an atheist and pragmatic person I particularly like this quote:

"It allows us to better articulate who has a problem and who doesn't, and it takes it out of the hands of the client or the culture or the church and puts it squarely on the science"

Cheers,

 

[blkone]

ound:

Saying sexual addition is a thing is the same as saying food addiction is a thing. They're not. Reproduction is a strong, very strong impulse in the human organism, same with eating and caloric survival.

As long as you're not hurting anyone, having a strong libido is a good thing and a sign of health.

Come on people... don't let religious bull take shape again, in a modern, repackaged form.

 

[Red Paul]

ound:

Saying sexual addition is a thing is the same as saying food addiction is a thing.

There's compulsive overeating and there's compulsive undereating. If I notice that somebody can't stop eating, that doesn't mean I'm against food. If I notice that somebody's anorexic, that doesn't mean I'm against being thin.

Humans have plenty of strong impulses and these don't always lead to good.