How to quit the Hobby/Addiction?

[Fly88]

wanna stop?
delete your merb account and stop reading this forum.
asking how to stop hobbying on this site is like asking your crack dealer how to stop doing drugs

 

[dickemdown]

sylvain

Even with a gf you won't stop, ppl have wives and be fucking mad chicks. You need to learn discipline

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOqbNKao4jw

his name is brian tracy gives great advice on self discipline and on the subject of life

 

[kossko]

Raids by LE and listen to Coderre..lol would help,,I have retired ..for now..lol

 

[simonpaul]

how to quiet the hobby,i don't know ,we all live like merb members in an artificial world and we don't see after that the reel wold.

 

[Raditra]

it's easy to quit if you really want to, if you really love your GF or your wife the fear of losing her can help you to quit, also if you don't have a GF the only way you could do to quit is to masturbate if you wanna see an escort, sure if you are tired or after getting off yourself you don't wanna pay for sex anymore, right. The other way is sport, self control and spiritual way such as yoga, gym, relaxation, even religion to help you control your sexual drive. We chose this hobby because it's an easy way to have beautiful girls just by taking the phone, very tempting though but for married man it's the safest way to meet another women without having a real affair

 

[malboro_man]

I haven't been hobbying since early Feb, so have been "clean" for 3 months. I am limiting how much I am spending this year, and my budget would not last long if I spent too much in Q1 and Q2. I need to pace myself. I am probably going to play in late Q3 and Q4. Watch your budget; that's the best way to quit. Easier said than done; I failed last year.

 

[Jerking]

If I have a fuck freind I keep going and going to see girls like now If I have a girlfreind or find a girl that mite be one I take tme off to see how it goes. If I ever get married I will stop for sure, out of respect for my wife, she better give it up enough though lol.

 

[panthere]

Girlfriend=i quit...SIMPLE for my case

 

[blkone]

Well it's never been an addiction for me... I just do it until I find a GF when I have a GF there is no need for an SP.

I also do not visit SP's when I have a gf because of the simple consent idea. If I catch something on my time, that's my problem. But, I do not want to spread something to someone else without them knowing.

 

[jarhead]

When did it stop being a hobby, how do you control your addiction?

I’m a lucky man because I’ve found two absolutely perfect providers that bring me to an absolute euphoric state each time I visit (separately).

I’m an unlucky man because I’m so bloody addicted to them that I need to book every possible free-time I have with them. I can’t think of anything else then being in their warm embrace, how did this go from a diversion (hobby) to an obsession?

Are you addicted or can you quit at any time?

How do you control your habit?

If you can’t control it, are you going broke or are you using illegal means (ex., B&E) to support your habit?

I need some creative ideas from my peers other than a lobotomy or other surgery!:lol:

Cheers
Jarhead

 

[johnybird]

What helps me control the urge to see these special women, is I make plans with family or friends when free time pops up so I won't have the free time anymore lol!

I would rather have a bit of time between meeting the same lady, just builds up the anticipation more. I do cave occasionally though

 

[Handi]

Here is how I work; At the beginning of each month I decide a maximum of meetings a should have in the next month, taking into accounts my other expenses. And if I go over that number, ill punish myself by taking a month off from the hobby loll.
I don't think ill ever get addicted, but if I keep getting over my limit, ill question myself and maybe stop.

 

[jarhead]

What helps me control the urge to see these special women, is I make plans with family or friends when free time pops up so I won't have the free time anymore lol!

Dam! I do the opposite, I constantly try to free up time...

Here is how I work; At the beginning of each month I decide a maximum of meetings a should have in the next month, taking into accounts my other expenses. And if I go over that number, ill punish myself by taking a month off from the hobby loll.
I don't think ill ever get addicted, but if I keep getting over my limit, ill question myself and maybe stop.

Methodical and accountant like, are you perchance a CFO.

So far some great ideas from Handi and Johnybird, but maybe I need to hit rock bottom before I can consider such rational solutions.

 

[Handi]

Methodical and accountant like, are you perchance a CFO.

If I was a CFO, I wouldnt have a limited budget

 

[clark_larson]

I think it is about how busy you are. If you keep coming to the forum multiple times a day checking on the newest reviews and if you don't meet new people outside of this microcosm you will only nourish the need of more paid sex. This becomes a problem if you're not capable of supporting this habit financially, if you're late on your payments and if you can't put money aside.

 

[Stroman]

There is already a thread about this topic in the health section, Mods , please merge.

mod note: merged

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

For myself when I first started 5 - 6 years ago I was recently divorced and thought wow ( never see an escort before, early 50's ) and was seeing 3-5 a month for the 5 months a year I was in Quebec, after 3 years it died down ( I don't know.... The thrill is gone? ). Now it is once or twice a month. This year I am redoing the complete inside of my house plus my daughter is marathon running now, contemplating on doing some more work on my car since my son finally finished his 3 yr project and get my garage back so very busy and do not really have the time ( total drive time for me is 3 hrs for a meeting ). Now if a good escort or agency would open up in Drummondville that may change.

 

[snoodle]

For me its not just a hobby. It's a way of life.
I'm single so the hobby still costs less than having a wife lol

Usually in a relationship after a few years it all turns to shit and you barely have sex anymore with your partner.
So you are paying to NOT have sex.

Does not make any sense in my books. Stick with the hobby

 

[jarhead]

I think it is about how busy you are. If you keep coming to the forum multiple times a day checking on the newest reviews...

Are you looking over my shoulders...

For myself when I first started 5 - 6 years ago I was recently divorced and thought wow ( never see an escort before, early 50's ) and was seeing 3-5 a month for the 5 months a year I was in Quebec, after 3 years it died down ( I don't know.... The thrill is gone? ). Now it is once or twice a month...

Wow, like this answer! There is light, just stick with it and it'll come under control... as I cool off.

For me its not just a hobby. It's a way of life.
I'm single so the hobby still costs less than having a wife lol

Usually in a relationship after a few years it all turns to shit and you barely have sex anymore with your partner.
So you are paying to NOT have sex...

I have it all and don't want to change a thing, love my life partner just don't get the passion I need.

 

[Numerati]

We might think of the sex scene as a form of entertainment or hobby, but nothing good comes of it. If we play tennis, we develop our body and social skills. If we play chess or read, we develop our minds. What do we develop in this hobby? Nothing but lust, loss of self-control, shame, depression, loneliness, loss of social skills, separation from family and friends, loss of time and MONEY!

How can I stop?

Share thoughts

In my younger days and sometimes now even not as prevalent as my younger years but it does show up once in a blue moon.

Oh there is something good that comes out of this hobby. Well for me at least since I take this in moderation.

This hobby has helped me many many times in various instances through out these years when I was active and needed a jolt back to reality. One of the most important cure to my biggest personal predicament, ONEITIS. I have to admit at certain times I am my own biggest/worst enemy when I emotionally trap myself due that one girl. Worst of it all I see this as some grand honorable gesture which really is a form of self induced torture. It is not the girl that I am interested in and I can never blame her. I am to blame and take full responsibility where there are times I don't fall the girl per se but what I imagine her to be. Most annoying shit ever and I really hate it when it happens which in most instances out of the damn blue. This is what makes this so annoying.

Seeing an SP or a few remedy my own personal trappings. Then I stop to put whatever girl I am interested in at the time onto some pedestal. When this shit dies down I can channel this crazy emotion and turn this into something productive where I can go and create something.

Do I get the girl? Sometimes. In many instances she is an absolute letdown once I get to truly know her. Even if she is a great girl because of how my mind put her in some imaginary pedestal and she doesn't meet what my mind set her to be. That is also why it is better when I meet a great civilian girl when I am in the hobby. I don't have this Oneitis non-sense plaguing my psyche.

This hobby helped me develop an emotional and mental teflon. Once I realized I have options I stop stabbing myself emotionally and keep things rational where I can become pragmatic once again.

How to stop? By looking at my bank account lol. And/or when I get the civie girl. This hobby is not an addiction but more of a tool to deal with my critical flaws.