On a slightly different but related note.
It would be great if there was a trusted service for holding deposits until both parties have fulfilled their part of the agreement.
It sucks having to ask for a deposit but in most cases it is not to scam but rather to protect oneself from getting scammed. There is a risk of wasting not only time but also money when accepting an outcall engagement. It's not unreasonable to ask for the travel cost to be covered up front. On the other end, it's not always a risk a gentleman is willing to take by sending a deposit beforehand.
One solution is to have the gentleman order the Uber, or if they still allow it, to arrange payment with the taxi company ahead of time.
The fact is that we ladies get screwed and you gentleman also get scammed. Always takes assholes to ruin it for everyone.
Sorry for the long message but it brings me to something I was thinking about the other day after listening to a story of a girl totally scamming a good guy who had sent a deposit.
There should be a group of people who run a service for holding these deposits until the conditions agreed upon prior by both parties have been met.
Lady requires a deposit for an outcall appointment. Gentleman pays the deposit to the service. If the lady never shows, gentleman gets his deposit back. Lady is flagged for the incident. And after a certain number of issues, she is blacklisted. If gentleman does not respect the agreement, he forfeits the deposit and it is sent to the lady.
Is this completely impossible? I love the idea. Less wasting of people's time.
It would make my life so much easier.