Yeah fellow hobbiers, I need to ask you something and am wondering if anyone else feels the same way I do about this. I have probably seen, well over 100 ladies in the 15 years of this hobby. I lost count sometime after 30 I think. In my days of this I can honestly say there isn't a hand full of those sessions I really enjoyed. The other 95+ I couldn't wait to get the F out of there. Many of the time I'm thinking "oh shit I actually have to talk to this girl after this". I have a cute girlfriend, but for some reason I keep thinking I'm going to go out and have an absolutely amazing encounter. BUT I never do..all I keep doing is wasting money but I keep going back? Any thoughts...I'm really open on this one. Thanks
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Sounds like you need to cut back or even go on sabbatical. Maybe you should walk away altogether. I recently had a few encounters that I would have been thrilled with a few years ago that were just so-so. The next day I get up and I do it again anyway. I am at a crossroads. I myself am going to cut back a bit. Montreal girls are special though. Too many gems I will save some room for the special ones.
its why i stopped 8/9 years ago it became mechanical and i met someone !
But i think moderation its the best way to keep flame burning ! The ones I wanted to get the f out where the ones i got past 1ham or 2am in sketchy hotels !
But i think moderation its the best way to keep flame burning ! The ones I wanted to get the f out where the ones i got past 1ham or 2am in sketchy hotels !
I've had mostly good encounters to be honest... I've had some weird encounters (explained in another thread) but I've only had a two really bad encounters where I felt like I wasted my money.
You visit SP's while you have a GF? Why? I've never done that. Sex with that connection is the ultimate imo. That's the whole reason I'm back here because I could not give her (my-ex of 3 years) enough time, she wasn't exaggerating either... in a week we'd be together for maybe 4-9 hours.
Yup.
You visit SP's while you have a GF? Why? I've never done that. Sex with that connection is the ultimate imo. That's the whole reason I'm back here because I could not give her (my-ex of 3 years) enough time, she wasn't exaggerating either... in a week we'd be together for maybe 4-9 hours.
Yup.
Life isn't just sex, bro. Go take your girlfriend out for an amazing experience. Push the limits, live life together and share something you both will never forget, something that gets that adrenaline going.
For me it's always fun, because that's what I want to do. Like blkone says, you should ask yourself why do you see escorts? The problem is that you keep making a decision you don't like, and you should try to identify the reason for that. Some people would claim that you have sex addiction, but don't listen to that bullshit.
http://sexualintelligence.wordpress.com/2010/04/01/an-epidemic-of-sex-addiction/
http://sexualintelligence.wordpress.com/2010/04/01/an-epidemic-of-sex-addiction/
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Lily from Montreal
The point is not the money,the point is he is meeting when it doesn't bring him pleasure...it kind of defeat the purpose?
it is time to stop...
it is time to stop...
Actually it's both...he's spending the money and not getting a good experience. I've been feeling the same way as the OP in the last 2-3 years. I've vowed to cut spending on the hobby last year but did not succeed. This year, I'll try again. What's the point of spending the money and not getting a good experience?
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Lily from Montreal
It doesn't matter if it is hobbying or a real life activity,if you do not enjoy it,stop...adjust or change but never settle...
Oh wow ok thanks for the input. I see others feeling the same way. To be brief in answering some of the question about cheating, well it's complicated relationship. I'm in my 30's and she is 10 year younger than me. That's not the complicated part mostly but age does affect us sometimes. My whole issue with starting this thread is mainly wanting to know if there's others out there who keep doing this, I've definately cut down in the last couple years. Maybe once every 2-3 months now, I try a big build up of looking for the perfect girl and just like that, soon as it starts I can't wait for it to end. Lol...I know sounds stupid. I know now that others feel the same. To put an amount I've spent on this? Easy 25k in 15 years. And I know that's nothing to a lot of others out there.
I've been hobbying about the same time as you, but I've spent 5X as what you have. Lucky you that you have a GF in her 20s.
Have you met the ones who are highly reviewed here and still sucked according to you? Have not seen a review yet to compare.
