I have a few married friends on SA who juggle SBs/mistresses. Their main complaint is finding the time to do the requisite messaging to set up dates. As I previously explained SA is a time investment and you need to send out 10-15 messages which ultimately might yield one date. There is also the messaging/flirting process before the date. All a game. But that game requires time that many married, busy professional men don’t have.
The discretion part of it is easy, if you have brains and these guys do. These guys have explained 5 guy trips to Montreal in order to visit with investors and also to stay at EB’s condo in Montreal (which does not now nor never existed). Tell good stories and they get believed. Tell bad ones and they don’t get believed. It’s prety simple and this is where the smart guys win and the dumb guys lose. It does require a certain level of deviousness as well. The ability to tell and embellish stories is essential. I do believe it is a talent. I didn’t like being part of the story/lie, but I had to admit it was novel, admirable, fiendish and on point. Admiration somewhat, although not completely, tempered my anger over being used in a lie to the friend’s wife, whom I like. But I understood that he did what he believed he had to do to get her to buy his story.
The discretion part of it is easy, if you have brains and these guys do. These guys have explained 5 guy trips to Montreal in order to visit with investors and also to stay at EB’s condo in Montreal (which does not now nor never existed). Tell good stories and they get believed. Tell bad ones and they don’t get believed. It’s prety simple and this is where the smart guys win and the dumb guys lose. It does require a certain level of deviousness as well. The ability to tell and embellish stories is essential. I do believe it is a talent. I didn’t like being part of the story/lie, but I had to admit it was novel, admirable, fiendish and on point. Admiration somewhat, although not completely, tempered my anger over being used in a lie to the friend’s wife, whom I like. But I understood that he did what he believed he had to do to get her to buy his story.