You do realize the way you used SA to find someone (and I'm very happy for you!) is probably VERY different from the majority of people here, right?
Oh sure. Our affair has all the positives of having a wife, and only one of the negatives. And the negative, the rather generous wealth redistribution I share with her each month is not really a negative as I'm quite happy to share my good fortune with her.
That said, we are not tied to each other. We meet two or three times a week, have sex on about 70% of those meetings. We are in some contact when we're not together, though it's not obligatory.
Her profile did specify that she's polyamorous so we're both free to do as we please when we're not together. I have no idea what kind of erotic life she might have when we're not together. It's never been discussed. I do know that she has no other arrangement for lack of need, for lack of interest, and certainly for lack of time. She's also told me she has no interest in guys her own age. Whatever she's doing on the outside, if anything at all, is most likely with other females or trans friends.
We certainly don't live together, have never discussed such a thing, and almost certainly never will. So far we've been to New York, Nova Scotia, Toronto, London, New Orleans, Hawaii, Berlin/Prague. We're spending 10 days in Ireland next month.
I give her about 3/4 of my social security check. That's what it's for, n'est pas? The exchange rate smiles down on me every month.
On the other side, we never do laundry together, she never tells me to take out the trash, she never asks me where I've been or what I've been doing. (Well, ok, she always asks what I'm doing, but never in a "checking up" way.) We don't fight about money or kids. In fact, we don't fight about anything. She doesn't care if I see escorts, though the only time that's ever been discussed is when I brought up the idea of inviting a particularly bisexual escort I'm still in contact with. She's totally up for it, though I haven't done it yet.
She's told me more than once that she considers herself the luckiest girl in the world. She acknowledges my generosity. She was probably born about 30 years too late. She's the hippie chick of my dreams.
Oh, she's also got a professional practice that she's developing that does provide her some income. My assistance also allows her to treat people who need, but can't afford her services.