Long term arrangements

[West Med]

Intrigued by this... Given the context, I have a strong suspicion it is more along the lines of "Red Pill Woman"

See here:

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2012/08/what-exactly-is-a-red-pill-woman/

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=RPW

 

[EagerBeaver]

I think RPW may actually mean "Role Play World." Since my last post, she granted my request for her private photos and one of them was a screenshot of her instagram or a pic on her instagram. After viewing her instagram I have a feeling she is a pro. I also am not inclined to really find her statements credible. She is racially described as "Native American", but looks to me like she is African American based on her private pics and facial pics. I asked for her private pics because her one profile pic looked good, but private pics were not as good and she carries more weight on her than I prefer.

I am actually seeing a girl regularly whom I met on SA, here in CT. I also have a go to girl in Montreal that I also met on SA. I am just kind of searching for bullpen help, if you know what I mean, and the baseball fans should.

 

[luvdozer]

I am actually seeing a girl regularly whom I met on SA, here in CT. I also have a go to girl in Montreal that I also met on SA. I am just kind of searching for bullpen help, if you know what I mean, and the baseball fans should.

I am curious about seeking arrangement for my boston hobbying, but the monthly fee seems like a large amount to spend every month just for a fishing expedition that may not produce anything. EB, do you use SA for girls in the Connecticut area? Is it really worth the investment? I am interested in your perspective.

 

[maxx99]

I have had a girl on retainer for like a decade. I used to smash at least once or twice a week. I pay a few of her bills and would give her the extra she asked for within reason. As time passed, she started acting like a regular GF, and fucking me less and less. Now I get it once or twice a month. I've learned to say no when she asks for things. I doubt you're going to save any money by sticking with one girl to be honest. The longer she's in your life the more she's going to ask for whether she's fucking you more or not. So there's pros and cons.

My feeling is, the chances these girls are really fucked up psychologically is very high. Getting closer and establishing a longer term arrangement is just inviting their issues into your life. That may be exciting for you if your life is boring. It was for me. But that gets tired.

 

[EagerBeaver]

In my case yes, it is worth the investment. I have used SA successfully to arrange dates in Connecticut, New York and Montreal in the past. Some result in sex (never on the first date in my experience) but after several dates. You have to be willing to play the game. It's easier to play targeting the young and the New to SA, which is what I am attracted to anyway. It's harder for me than for younger guys but I try to make up for it with experience and savvy, like the aging lefthanded pitcher who has lost his fastball but changes speeds really well. I am also inspired by some guys who are even older than me and finding what they need through SA.

You used the expression fishing expedition and that is exactly what it is. It's like fishing. In fishing 200 casts might yield one bite. On SA, 15 messages sent might produce one date, and 4 dates with 4 girls might be needed to find a keeper. Either you have patience for that process or not. Just like some have patience for fishing or standing in a hunting stand, the same kind patience is needed for SA-cultivated pussy. I have it. You may not.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

The monthly fee is non-recurring. I've ponied up 3-4 times over the last few years, only when the need has arisen. The arrangement I've got going right now is probably the best relationship I've ever had with a woman and, as such, I haven't had the need to look at, or pay for, SA in over a year.

Unlike the Beav, I'm not interested in a young plaything. My girl is 31 and the hippie chick of my dreams. I'm gonna keep her.

 

[EagerBeaver]

All of us are looking for something different but Rumples' success aside, my experience with the women over 25 on SA is they tend to be more savvy and have higher expectations financially. I did meet and have sex with a fabulous looking, mixed racial (white, black and Puerto Rican) 29 year old lady in CT. Older than what I usually like but too hot to resist. I had sex with her twice and she tried to change the arrangement on me. She didn't ask for more money, but she asked me to co-sign a condo lease and also asked if she could start sleeping over. I could see where it was headed. I was forced to send her packing. It was unfortunate because the sex was great, and she was amazing in bed but her fucking attitude sucked. She thought she owned me after having sex twice. Fuck her. I told her exactly what the arrangement would be and held up my end. I told her we each go back to our own lives after we meet. She couldn't accept it. This is a good example of why I avoid those over 25. This one was a spectacular looking 29 year old with a great body, I would put her in a class looks wise with Crystal Ivy. But her attitude sucked monkey balls.

I am glad Rumples found a good one over 25 but all I can say is beware. The younger ones don't know what they want or the value of their hot young asses, so you are in some ways their sexual Christopher Columbus when it comes to arrangements. You are making what will be a history for them. And creating the terms if they like you. I am hoping my current girl turns out very long term like Rumples' lady. We shall see. She is a college student and has a great attitude. We are off to a good start.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

Chiming in again on this. Not a hope in hell I would pay for a long term arrangement. There are plenty of single ladies out there and if I need to pay someone to be with me.... well not going to happen.
Pay for a hour or two with an escort fine, after that, not gonna happen.

 

[ourson69]

I'm very happily married, but have been seeing escorts on and off for about 6 years. Wanted to get more involved with one person, so I tried a girl from SA first. Very beautiful and the price was right, but it was a bit of a scam... Then I thought: why not ask my all time fave SP and set up something similar? We have a nice thing right now: four ninety minute meetings a month (on rates that I was grandfathered in on), and handwritten letters four times a month. It's working for me; at times I wish it could go on forever...

 

[EagerBeaver]

An arrangement can be anything two people agree on.......there are a few who simply do not get that concept and as a result, never open their minds up to the possibilities. The vast majority of women on SA will negotiate especially if they have some interest in you..............

 

[ourson69]

An arrangement can be anything two people agree on.......there are a few who simply do not get that concept and as a result, never open their minds up to the possibilities. The vast majority of women on SA will negotiate especially if they have some interest in you..............

People ignore the fact that ANY relationship, girlfriend, wife, lover is in fact some kind of contract or deal, the most common one being marriage, which is a financial arrangement between two people with agreed upon terms. A long term arrangement can be wonderful, and in no way is illegitimate, the way I see it. You ALWAYS end up paying for being in a relationship, whether through money, or time or any other mutually agreed upon terms.

 

[TheDon]

Sounds too good to be true!

It can't be that easy to meet someone.

Usually the girls are more cautious in meeting someone like this for fear of meeting a crazy person on their part more so than yours.

I don't see why she would turn down and coffee or drink before hand. A girl with her intelligence doing an masters can figure out she is better off screening someone before hooking up with them.

 

[moliere]

Sounds too good to be true!

Not necesseraly.
Similar case happened to me on SA. The girl even asked me to pick her up at her appartment and go to my place.
I've been seeing her 4-5 times since. She's university student.

 

[EagerBeaver]

i am skeptical about this, seems fishy, any advice from seasoned veterans on SA would be great...could this be a scam?

I share your skepticism. There are ladies on SA posting fake pics and bio but as has already been said......someone doing a Masters program at McGill would not be foolish enough to see someone without screening them............it seems unlikely to be what it seems.

 

[Mistral]

Sounds like she doesn't want any chance whatsoever of being seen by someone who knows her. Figure out a setting that will put her mind at ease.

 

[Hydargoos]

Ce serait quelque chose que j'aimerais envisager mais je ne sais pas si ce serait possible. Mais peut-être aux 2 sems moi car je ne suis pas millionnaire non plus.

It is something i world like but i dont know if it Will be possible. But maybee aux 2 weeks because i am not millionnaire.

 

[curly]

I share your skepticism. There are ladies on SA posting fake pics and bio but as has already been said......someone doing a Masters program at McGill would not be foolish enough to see someone without screening them............it seems unlikely to be what it seems.

You find everything on SA, from escorts to real sweet girls, seasoned and sometimes bitter veterans and beginners, young barely legal and mature women, high school drop out and postgraduate students, girls looking for a true relationship and girls looking for a quickie, scammers and honnest..... Interestingly enough, some girls are not very interested in spending time with us or being seen in public with an older man but don't bother having quick sex, while other only want the date without any sexual contact, not even holding hands!!!

Just like us, some of us want quickie, others want a dinner date, some of us want an older, younger, smaller, rounder, well behaved, raw, experienced or fresh woman......

Understanding what YOU want out of this is the first step to weeding out those who don't have the same goals. If you're just surfing and trying, it's a good place to be scammed too....

So, to your point juulik, she may be an escort, she may be a scammer or simply looking for a quick way to make money. Yes, it may very well be a scam, or not! I would stake my ground and say I don't do anything with anyone I have not met once and offer coffee. You will quickly see...

All in all guys, some of these girls believe they set the rules are are quite assertive about it. But in the end, we are the ones with the money they want, so set your rules and wait to find the right one. Don't waste your time and money with girls with a bitchy/princess attitude, wait for the gem. And there are many.

 

[EagerBeaver]

You find everything on SA, from escorts to real sweet girls, seasoned and sometimes bitter veterans and beginners, young barely legal and mature women, high school drop out and postgraduate students, girls looking for a true relationship and girls looking for a quickie, scammers and honnest.....

I totally agree with this. The vast majority of girls I have met were very sweet college girls. Only a few were very mercenary (usually the older ones) and I did meet one in particular who was a scammer. She wanted an arrangement in which I would not pay her a sum certain of money for intimacy but instead, she agreed to come back to my place " and whatever happens, happens" in exchange for "you taking care of my bills when I get them." To have the attitude that I would accept being an open checkbook for any debt she incurred scared me. I rejected this proposal of hers and told her sum certain of money or nothing. She did not accept, she wanted it to be open. Then like 2 months later she texted me from a restaurant in Miami where she had gone for spring break and said that she couldn't pay the restaurant bill of about $90 and could I call the manager and give him my credit card number because they had detained her and would not let her leave because her debit card was overdrawn. I told her sorry, no, and to contact her parents to bail her out of that situation. Her attitude was quite shocking. But she was a rare exception, most girls are looking for money and they will accept a sum certain for intimate actions depending on their comfort level. One approach I have used is to offer 3 pricing options:

(1) sensual massage with happy pending;
(2) Mutual Oral;
(3) Full service.

Each one with a different price level. I recently had one girl tell me she was not ready for (2) and (3) but would agree to (1). So if you use this "baby steps approach", as I call it, as opposed to all or nothing, you can ease the girl into intimacy with an older guy she is just getting to know. Too many friends of mine are way too aggressive and blow their chance with a girl by demanding (3) or nothing on a first or second date. You have to have the mindset that these girls are not escorts and do not like to be treated as such. They know, big picture, or most of them anyway, that you want intimacy. So if you take a slower approach and get her to be comfortable with you, you will be able to get long term mileage. The downside of course is that patience and time is required with this "baby steps approach."

 

[believe]

As well the advise I can give with experience on SA .
Dont talk on site of ANY sexual favors or YOU WILL BE BANNED! Use or ask for cell after baby steps.loll
There is a spy team on SA who read ,maybe not all exchanges but most via an algorithme that catches /reads key words .
So be careful what you write as a no reimbousrement policies here is enforced as well. BYE BYE money!
But in general very friendly ladies,.wow but baby steps are important!!