just signed up to SA...flooded with messages!! How do I filter
SugarBear,
If you go into SA profile settings, you can hide your profile and activity if you wish. If you don't you will get blitzed and spammed with messages. The ones I often would get were from girls in the Philippines. There was one who was really hot and got my attention and we messaged each other. Ultimately, after exchanging messages, she offered a webcam show in exchange for a PayPal donation. I told her I wanted an in person arrangement. She said to me, "but the Internet brings people together." And I said "yeah but it doesn't bring people together in the way that I want."
In some cases getting spammed leads to an interesting offer. Two different girls at UConn have offered me nude pics and masturbation videos of themselves for under $50. Although I am not one of these guys that gets super-jacked off by webcam masturbation shows, I did take up the two UConn girls on these offers, mainly because they were smoking hot. We did the monetary transfer on PayPal.
Generally however, I keep all my pics in the private area and only share them with targets. So the targets know what I look like but nobody else does.
I have a problem now in that I am dating 3 girls, all of whom have agreed to some level of intimacy, and I am trying to decide whether I juggle all 3 or see who is the best fit in the bedroom. Here are the 3:
Jasmine (not her real name) - 19 year old, yoga instructor, half Argentinian half Italian, brunette, long hair, 5'1" 95-100 pound spinner. Despite the age difference I actually think I pair well with this one. She is sophisticated, is a foodie.VERY nice girl, very cute, kind of shy and old-fashioned, has a endearing shy smile. Has agreed to a nude massage but she is on vacation overseas with her family at the moment. I dated her platonically (except for kissing), and did not pay for dates except for dinner costs last summer, she then left the State and now is back and texted me last week and we went on a dinner date at which she agreed to do a nude massage when she comes back from her overseas vacation (she will not be back until second week of September). My offer to get her to do a nude sensual massage was a bit high ($300), but she said yes. She said she was not ready for sex yet, kind of suggesting it might be available down the road, presumably for more $$$. This girl is very hot and would be considered a star at any Montreal massage parlor or escort agency. If she moved to Montreal for college and I sent her to Patrick of Adagio, he would probably offer me minority partnership. However that isn't happening LOL.
Nelly (not hear real name) 23 year old African American college student, 5'7", 125 pounds, accounting/finance major, works at some accounting firm, extremely well dressed lady. I have been on around 6 dates with her, have not paid her except for dinner and drinks and she agreed to full service for $300 but this has not happened yet. She came to my condo with me after one dinner but all that happened was kissing.Nice girl who goes to Church twice a week. This girl has a great body, a cute face but probably the least pretty of the 3. Very above average though in all other respects especially personality. And super classy looking which means a lot to me.
Jennifer (not her real name) 21 year old college student, 5'8", 120-125 pounds, brunette, Caucasian with possibly some latina blood, this one agreed to send me specified nude photos and a masturbation video for $50 and said if I did, she would then agree to meet me on a date. I verified her through Facebook and her Facebook pics are what she has put on SA. I want to see what happens with her before I make any decision because she looks like she could possibly have the best body of the 3, although all 3 have really nice bodies.
This is the first time in my life actually I am trying to manage 3 arrangements/flings with women at one time. I am a single guy and am permitted to do this, but just because I am permitted to does not necessarily mean I can pull it off. I find it mentally draining and exhausting to juggle different women and I am thinking that 2 might be more manageable but I don't know which one doesn't make the cut at this point. I like all 3. What should I do Sugar Bear? Like I said in the past it was always one at a time and through sheer coincidences it has happened. Jasmine has suddenly returned to the State after being absent since last summer when I had invested a lot of time in dating her (she had a BF out of state in the interim), and Jennifer and I just connected recently. Nelly has been in the picture since June, and I have been on 6 dates with her and around 7 with Jasmine including last summer when we had around 6 dates. One of my friends who is on SA and has experience in juggling a wife with mistresses has urged me to continue with all 3 and see what happens. However the real problem I am having is Nelly who has been very persistent the last two weeks in wanting to pursue an arrangement as outlined above and we did two platonic, no charge dinners during which I put her off by saying I had dated some other people and wasn't sure yet if I was ready for a commitment to one person. We are supposed to have another dinner tomorrow to further discuss this. This Nelly has a fondness for chicken wings and through her I found some new restaurants that make fantastic chicken wings. She is a really, really nice girl and I don't want to lose her but also want to pursue sex with the other 2. So I am very confused and drained. It's a very unique situation which I never would have expected to be in, but now I am in it and have to deal with it.