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Providers: Reference vs ID

Gazoo64

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I understand everybody’s point but what are you afraid of? What do you think will happen if someone sees your ID?

I think my colleagues will tell you that you can hide reference numbers, personal numbers and home addresses
I fully understand your point of view and that SPs require references or ID for safety.

@Fradi, I share your viewpoint. I’ll provide most info that the SP needs, but NOT my ID for a first time encounter. Before people call me paranoid, I am not.

I am sure that 99.99% of the time it will be ok. But what if I come across a lady that gets her phone or laptop hacked after I’ve just given my ID, and someone uses it for nefarious means. Or what if the lady (that I haven’t met yet) decides to blackmail me (again, very unlikely).

I have nothing to hide and the SPs I see regularly have told me that I am a good client.

To each their own, but discretion is important to me, so I will not reveal my ID for a first time encounter (maybe stubbornly so).

But AGAIN, I understand why ladies ask for it. But each person is free to provide ID or not.
 
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Check out some of the LL reviews with the threatening text messages and harassment after just one phone text.
Yeah I know I will see that you should be going with an established and reputable SP with good reviews blah blah blah.
I have done that and those are the only ladies I see and the ones I have been seeing for over 6 years and they have never asked me for a government ID.
That reputable SP can get pissed for whatever reason or turn to drugs so I don’t need someone that can link me to an activity that is illegal for me but not acted upon for her ( C-36).
Apart from that I have been burned with paying up front simply because I was kind and tried to help someone out who said she was in trouble ( and she was a well known Indy on this board with great reviews) so no, I only get sucked in once.
 

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I do not agree with either option. My Merb handle should be more then enough especially considering how long I have been a member on this board and the amount of posts I have, I will only book escorts that advertise on this board.

References do not work for me as I got my regulars and I book every now and then an escort from this board for variety. I will not provide any government ID, I do not want her to know my real name or where I live. With Bill C-36 that is a liability (as per the law, the clients are the predators and the escorts are victims), I dunno what the escort will do with this information (Is she saving all of this on her computer and has a database of all the clients she saw?)... It can be used against me (not saying that she will just saying it can be. It is a risk). Also as the above post suggests, what if her laptop gets hacked now all my info is on the loose? I do not know her real name either and she most probably provided a text app number. Just not my cup of tea. With an agency, all this is irrelevant. A simple text message is all I need to book an escort and that is how I like it.
 

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I do not agree with either option. My Merb handle should be more then enough especially considering how long I have been a member on this board and the amount of posts I have, I will only book escorts that advertise on this board.

References do not work for me as I got my regulars and I book every now and then an escort from this board for variety. I will not provide any government ID, I do not want her to know my real name or where I live. With Bill C-36 that is a liability (as per the law, the clients are the predators and the escorts are victims), I dunno what the escort will do with this information (Is she saving all of this on her computer and has a database of all the clients she saw?)... It can be used against me (not saying that she will just saying it can be. It is a risk). Also as the above post suggests, what if her laptop gets hacked now all my info is on the loose? I do not know her real name either and she most probably provided a text app number. Just not my cup of tea. With an agency, all this is irrelevant. A simple text message is all I need to book an escort and that is how I like it.
Whole heartily agreed with your writing. well said.
 

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If an indy really wanted to get you caught, wouldn't just your phone number and a record of your text messages be enough? She could just as well have LE hidden in the bathroom waiting to cuff you on arrival.

Anyway, this is getting out of hand. This thread wasn't about whether or not you want to give out your ID, it was supposed to be about whether or not SPs would mind taking it in lieu of a reference when a reference is available.
 

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If an indy really wanted to get you caught, wouldn't just your phone number and a record of your text messages be enough? She could just as well have LE hidden in the bathroom waiting to cuff you on arrival.
Your phone and record of text messages is not enough to get you caught if you are careful in what you text or say.
There is no law against hiring an escort for companionship or for a dinner date or a guided tour of Montreal or to play chess lol.
LE hiding in the bathroom is a stretch
I have no problem providing a reference as I have said before, both my ATF and the other lady I see often know me well and are not the jealous type and know I will not stop seeing them just because I see someone new occasionally they will even recommend some of their friends if I ask.
 
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When it comes to ID i seen peoples mention at times its not different than showing it to a clerk for buying alcohol or a doorman. I disagree. The clerk and doorman will only look fast at the date of birth and if the picture match, they will likely have forget about me at the end of their shift due to the excess of customers they get and they obviously do not keep a record of it.

Sending a picture of it (or a scan if you are old school lol) is a different thing, even if you actually blur out some infos.

I heard some peoples on the US boards receiving scam messages and threatening ones (sometimes including pictures of beheaded bodies etc) after texting a number on a classify ads. Of course this is not a reputed indy with a twitter, website etc, but that still show this business has a long way to go to assure safety for both parties.

As for the murder of Marilyn, its thanksfully a VERY rare case (still 1 too much of course) but there was multiple red flags all around. The guy was litteraly blacklist from the salon she was working at. He offerred her crazy money to meet him outcall and was litteraly obsessed with her. It was a "passion murder". It was not a random joe who selected someone randomly to murder on a first meet.

In the 70s and 80s there was a lot of prostitute murders in the US especially due to the way the work was done (often being picked up on a street by a random guy taking them home very secretely) but in our current era with all the technology, i think an escort would be one of the worst target for a psycho. Everybody is connected, cameras are everywhere. With just a bit of carefullness its easy to make it safe without having to resort to full "screening".
 

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When it comes to ID i seen peoples mention at times its not different than showing it to a clerk for buying alcohol or a doorman. I disagree. The clerk and doorman will only look fast at the date of birth and if the picture match, they will likely have forget about me at the end of their shift due to the excess of customers they get and they obviously do not keep a record of it.

Sending a picture of it (or a scan if you are old school lol) is a different thing, even if you actually blur out some infos.

I heard some peoples on the US boards receiving scam messages and threatening ones (sometimes including pictures of beheaded bodies etc) after texting a number on a classify ads. Of course this is not a reputed indy with a twitter, website etc, but that still show this business has a long way to go to assure safety for both parties.

As for the murder of Marilyn, its thanksfully a VERY rare case (still 1 too much of course) but there was multiple red flags all around. The guy was litteraly blacklist from the salon she was working at. He offerred her crazy money to meet him outcall and was litteraly obsessed with her. It was a "passion murder". It was not a random joe who selected someone randomly to murder on a first meet.

In the 70s and 80s there was a lot of prostitute murders in the US especially due to the way the work was done (often being picked up on a street by a random guy taking them home very secretely) but in our current era with all the technology, i think an escort would be one of the worst target for a psycho. Everybody is connected, cameras are everywhere. With just a bit of carefullness its easy to make it safe without having to resort to full "screening".
The thing is for the USA it is very different because the anti-prostitution law applies to both escort and client so screening a client is necessary to weed out undercover cops. An undercover cops will not provide his ID or ask for screening info.. In Canada the issue is Bill C-36, a feminist sexist law that makes the client as the criminal and escort as all victims. It gives all the power to the escort, it is a risk to provide ID as the escort has nothing to loose all the risk is on the client. You just never know how that information can be used. I would be more at ease providing screening info in the US then in Canada because of Bill C-36. I believe the politicians were sneaky in doing it this way, it was done like this by design. The game changed since Bill C-36.
 

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I understand the SPs need for safety, but there is no way I'm giving my real name, especially not right away. Too much at stakes here. Some of us have sensitive jobs and professions.

I also feel like knowing someone's name would mostly give you a false feeling of security.
 
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I don’t think we will ever find a just in the middle solution where everybody actually say yes to a safe method for both clients and SP.
The important jobs and profession is always the best argument when a client don’t want to actually make the SP feel safe meeting. It automatically sends the message to the brain (my brain) that SP safety ( human beings like you) isn’t that important compared to a job. I understand privacy is important but anonymity is not okay. Clients have full picture of us with fake information or not doesn’t matter; they know more about our persona then we know about them. And all we got is a text from a random guy who wants to book us without any further information. Had a lot of people inquiring saying « I have a big job i require privacy » but don’t want to give anything: no reference; no deposit; no screening. And what hurts the most is that those same people tells you they follow you on social media and see your reviews or are even a board member but doesn’t want to give you even the member handle so you can double check.

I may repeat myself but i am a bit lazy to go reread all the previous pages (its a conversation that has been expending to multiple months). I know its just MY opinion and opinions are personal but i just can't see how any type of "conventional screening" can really make any providers that safer. Maybe for "thiefs" and/or clients refusing to pay for services to a degree, but beside that? Technology has advanced so much that there is cameras everywhere, including in streets, appartement buildings, halls and so on. The truth is there is a a ton of ways for providers to have our "picture" in SOME way and feel protected. Our faces are more than enough for the police to identify the person if he does something very bad. But if all goes well, its just a face on a porch or in a corridor, Its not incriminating per say and i don't feel anyone would really bother wasting their time to watch security footage to do screencaps and share them. When an SP has the litteral governement issued IDs of someone, it looks suspicious. Some says its ok to blur the "infos" but you still get a name attached to a face.

The real safety IMO does not come from gathering a lot of sensitive infos about someone but rather everything related to how you actually meet. For instance choosing incall only until you feel safe with someone (or even always incall), equiping your incall with the proper equipement or staff or host in a classy hotel (or visit there can be an option).

In the very rare cases of SPs being murdered or severly injured, when you analyze the situation just a little bit you see that there was a lot of issues regarding security of the environement where it happened. I think this is the key step to take before anything else. And if some psychopath just wake up and decide "today im murdering a sex worker" well i don't think he is gonna pick the high end indies at big prices and inquire by email or whatever. Likely these peoples have lost control with reality and/or are desperate and they know they will end up in jail (or dead). You can't really be safe anywhere no matter what. Look at these random attacks with "ram vehicules". Totally random, just some nutjob who wanted to murder peoples, knew he was gotta be caught, didn't care.

What im trying to say is you could do all the screening in the world and still get that guy that decided "today is the day" and know he is gotta be caught and just don't care. Unless you have an acces to police database and said person has registered offense, you won't even know he could be dangerous.

You mention we have your pictures etc. Lots of SPs advertise with blurred faces and we don't have real names either.

To quote Rosie,

Clients are afraid for their reputation.
Providers are afraid for their lives.

First clients also risk their litteral physical lives. How many stories of clients getting threaten with weapons or by multiple big guys. Secondly, its not my case, but for someone their career is their litteral life. As long as prostitution will be illegal and seen as "bad" in society, if someone get exposed, he will loose it all and for him that could mean his life is ruined. I said it in the past, i don't condone seeing escorts when you married or have a girlfriend. I know guys have all their reasons that they feel are valid to them and again, opinions...personal, so im not really refering to this specific side, but their lives could be impacted so hard... And sure in general for an SP to "expose" a client, he need to do something bad, but look at what happened not that long ago with a specific SPs that doxxed a client just because he didn't understand what she wanted and she lost patience. Sure she got called on all side (both clients and SPs) and likely had to rebrand to get clients again, but just to say these can happen.

Im not as old as some other members, i only meet since 2009, but internet (and this board) been around since the start of the 2000s (i seen some members with 2003 registering dates) and really this extensive screening at least to my knowledge only been a thing since a few years. At least in Canada. I imagine it was borrowed from the neighbor in the south. I remember a few "things" like reference or board handles or only 4 stars hotel meeting, but ID screening was NOT a thing and deposit either. I get its likely as technology became more present (easier to take a cellphone pic, and everybody has them pretty much now, than needing a scanner at home to scan an ID to send by email)

But when it comes to deposit i understand more, because i know there is a ton of time wasters, trolls and such. This make more sense to me. BUT i feel if deposit has to be done, it should be allowed to be done in an anonymous way, like an Amazon gift card or something. Unless im just not aware of it, it seem internet transfers do include names.

Anyway this is an endless debate and i don't think any side will change their POV on it, no matter how much we debate. I do agree tough that giving a board handle (if you been around for a while and have been active, so your handle actually mean something) should be fine for any clients that want to book an indy. Personally this is the alternative i can offer. If they want to verify its really me, we can exchange DM and that way they will know they are safe with me. I know im far from being perfect, i do have my opinions and sometimes i express them badly, too directly, (i never been someone with lots of social skills) but when it comes to actual meetings you can't be safer than with me ;).

I honestly just want this business to be fair, safe and enjoyable for both providers and clients. And i DO care about providers a lot. Im very thankfull for all the good times i had since i started and i could never had without them.
 
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I agree with basically most of what you're saying. My position is kinda selfish, but it is what it is.

edit : meant to be a reply to Alisha
 
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For this I will suggest as LC18 said to ask your sp via text or email if she is okay to be the reference if somebody reach out. If she is okay with that you can thank her with a small gift for the reference ( it’s not require but just for sympathy ). Most of us know that our clients are someone else client even if he says we are the only one he sees. At the end of the day as long as you are respectful and you don’t use the same SP for different references over and over it should be okay. I will suggest max 2 or also try to see her once in a while if you don’t want her to tell you one day she is no longer interested to be your reference or to see you again. Even though we know it’s business we are humans and we exchange energy so for sure it will feel weird if you ask for references and then stop seeing her. But you know we are not attached so you can like a bee. Just be mindful and respectful.
Or ask the other SP if she have other way to screen her client. She may propose to you something else ( I personally don’t ask for reference unless the person is not ready to send any information or a deposit and my gut feeling is okay ).
I think you misunderstood my post. I would prefer giving my ID and avoid the awkwardness of asking for references. I don't have much to hide and anyone you could tell that I reached out to a SW wouldn't care. I'm asking if references make you feel safer than IDs. I also understand that saying that I have seen other SWs and prefer not to ask for references could make it sound like I don't expect positive ones.
 
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Providers that ask for a reference or an ID, does it matter which?

I haven't seen anyone except my favorite SP in the past year or more. I'm sure she'd give me a recommendation I couldn't even live up to, but I'd rather not. I feel like asking her for a reference to see someone else might break the magic.

Indies, do you care? Would you find out if you're both indycompanion girls?
OK. I don't want to be an ass but you know she sees other clients right?

Its a financial-pleasure transaction.


I'm pretty sure she won't mind sharing....
 

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I understand the discomfort in asking a girl for a reference, I feel it too, but never, EVER send picture of your ID to a stranger you don't know. Don't even send it to a friend or close colleague. And people shouldn't have to explain to you why that is a terrible idea.
 

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I don't ever share ID to make appointments, but for argument's sake - what would be the reason to give ID if the client is hosting (outcall) in a reputable 4 or 5-star hotel?
 
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The threat for the guys is blackmail. If that happens, then C-36 no longer applies as they become blackmailers and not SWs. Get a lawyer and go to the cops. You wont be charged. If you dont understand the risk equation between the two parties then move on to someone who doesn't require screening and stop fretting that the ones you do want to see require it.
 
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