Providers: Reference vs ID

[Gabars]

Providers that ask for a reference or an ID, does it matter which?

I haven't seen anyone except my favorite SP in the past year or more. I'm sure she'd give me a recommendation I couldn't even live up to, but I'd rather not. I feel like asking her for a reference to see someone else might break the magic.

Indies, do you care? Would you find out if you're both indycompanion girls?

 

[LC18]

You guys aren’t married, you’re free to see another companion if you want to and it shouldn’t change anything to the connection you guys have.

It can be a little awkward if you ask for a reference, see someone else and never go back to the reference but c’est la vie, c’est le jeu.

 

[Gabars]

I know, but just as she doesn't mention other clients, I don't feel like mentioning other SPs. It's not about seeing someone else, it's about talking about it.

 

[LC18]

You don’t have to ask in person if that makes you uncomfortable

Edited to correct typo

 

[Anong]

I know, but just as she doesn't mention other clients,

Because she likes to give you feeling that you are very special. Of course she is in business and see the other clients as well.
That is always good part of her. You are not there to discuss other SPs or she should discuss other clients. Both feel good!

 

[cpp433]

Use an agency in that case and u can skip all that bullshit

 

[Anong]

You guys aren’t married, you’re free to see another companion

You are very right but again we are human beings and like you mentioned that I would be bit uncomfortable to ask for reference to whom I am seeing regularly.

 

[LC18]

You are very right but again we are human beings and like you mentioned that I would be bit uncomfortable to ask for reference to whom I am seeing regularly.

Ask by email or text message so that you don’t have to see their reaction.

To us providers, it only sucks when you’ve been seeing someone regularly, they ask for a reference and never come back. It makes you wonder “did I do something bad?”

 

[LC18]

Something bad happen to me because of the «reference id» shit.

1. I Met 2 girls from indycompanion last year
2. I met one girl from merb last year

I won't name the user. It useless anyway.

Then I wanted to meet a new indycompanion girl this year. A future gem I would have made a review but will never do because of the reference shit.

I give her 3 references.

They never answered back.

So what happens next ? The new girl won't be seeing me.

Very shitty this whole process.

Maybe the people you gave as references never answered the emails from the new girl, maybe they did and it wasn’t so positive for the new girl.

That’s why I never ask/provide references. Everyone has their own boundaries, red flags etc. What’s ok for me might not be ok for the next girl and vice versa.

 

[Shantie_mtl]

Use an agency in that case and u can skip all that bullshit

My good bullshit lol

 

[Gabars]

Agencies have their own bullshit. It's all last minute and the girls are booked before the schedule even comes out.

 

[cpp433]

Agencies have their own bullshit. It's all last minute and the girls are booked before the schedule even comes out.

Ok, but this thread isnt about all that, plus the only agency i know thats last minute is euphoria, all the other ones usually have their schedules up a few days in advance

 

[Rookie0022]

I know I shouldn't but I just feel weird asking someone I've seen many times for a reference. I wouldn't mind asking someone I've seen once or twice but I was told that it's rude lol. Now I just send an ID with some info blurred out.

 

[Fradi]

I rarely see other ladies than my ATF and one other young lady.
I have been seeing both for close to 6 years but I never have a problem asking them for a reference in fact they actually recommend some of their collègues and even encourage me to occasionally see someone new. Perhaps it is because we are friends also and she knows that I will always keep seeing her as long as she will be active.
i would not provide an ID to an SP I have never seen no matter how good her reputation. Yes I realize they want to be safe and their risk is greater than mine but I am not that trusting. If a reference or Merb handle is not enough then I simply move on I don’t bother trying to book, no use wasting their time or mine,, they can ask for whatever they need I understand that and won’t argue, at the same time I will provide only what I feel comfortable with.

 

[Gabars]

If a girl is on indycompanion or tryst, I'm not worried at all about sending a picture of my ID. So many companies all around North America have a photocopy of my driver's license I consider it basically public information.

Idk how you guys can have a good time with a girl you trust so little.

 

[believe]

Do you think if we asked the WG her ID proof references from their clients etc that she would agree..i doubt it.LO

 

[Fradi]

If a girl is on indycompanion or tryst, I'm not worried at all about sending a picture of my ID. So many companies all around North America have a photocopy of my driver's license I consider it basically public information.

Idk how you guys can have a good time with a girl you trust so little.

The same way they can have a good time with guys they trust so little lol, but I get your point you are showing your drivers license all over the place as proof of your identity. Sometimes the teller at the bank asks for it, last time I asked her why, you know me I have been coming here for years, she said sorry it has become a habit.

For me it makes no difference where she is on and how many stellar reviews she has, if we have never met and I don’t know her for a long time. no government ID or link to my real name.
References no problem or Merb handle either.

 

[LC18]

I understand everybody’s point but what are you afraid of? What do you think will happen if someone sees your ID?

I think my colleagues will tell you that you can hide reference numbers, personal numbers and home addresses

 

[Fradi]

I understand everybody’s point but what are you afraid of? What do you think will happen if someone sees your ID?

I think my colleagues will tell you that you can hide reference numbers, personal numbers and home addresses

I could reverse that exact question to you so it is strange that you would be asking me.
I am sure all your shown information is made up and none of it is real.
It is the exact same reasoning privacy and safety

 

[Zabei Bolt]

I understand everybody’s point but what are you afraid of?

Legal liability for one. Ever heard of Bill C-36?