question from a newbie

[plkt]

Hi i'm 23 im still virgin and i never got a girlfriend and my life. I would like to call an escort for getting confidence in life because im shy with the girls so What im looking for is almost a professor lolll but i dont know where to go . is there any girls in the business that you think will enjoy the moment as much as i would enjoy it even if im beginner. Im looking for a girl between 20 and 35 not shy at all that will find funny to take the virginity of a young guy and will give his 100%. If there any agencies or girl you know just pm please . Thanks EDIT : its not trolling and i know its my first post but english isnt my first language

 

[neverbored]

I'm totally against this, but this is your your life and decision.
My personal opinion, If you choose to move forward, I'd go with an older woman (30+). They tend to be more confident and well versed in the arts of pleasure. The confidence of the woman is key here, as this is what you're trying to build in yourself.

But I repeat, I'm totally against this. Learn to go out and get shit for yourself first. You're young, dumb and full of cum! Go out and get turned down, get back up and go again.

Its not how many times you fall, but how fast you get back up! This is what builds confidence and character you're looking for.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[plkt]

I'm totally against this, but this is your your life and decision.
My personal opinion, If you choose to move forward, I'd go with an older woman (30+). They tend to be more confident and well versed in the arts of pleasure. The confidence of the woman is key here, as this is what you're trying to build in yourself.

But I repeat, I'm totally against this. Learn to go out and get shit for yourself first. You're young, dumb and full of cum! Go out and get turned down, get back up and go again.

Its not how many times you fall, but how fast you get back up! This is what builds confidence and character you're looking for.

Just my 2 cents.

I go out often man and im pretty sure i should have attacked some girls because couples of girls looked at me and im pretty sure it was the time to Talk to them but Theres something that fear and it is that i dont Want to be rejected... also i dont have the skilz i dont know What to say...

 

[johnybird]

I'm totally against this, but this is your your life and decision.
My personal opinion, If you choose to move forward, I'd go with an older woman (30+). They tend to be more confident and well versed in the arts of pleasure. The confidence of the woman is key here, as this is what you're trying to build in yourself.

But I repeat, I'm totally against this. Learn to go out and get shit for yourself first. You're young, dumb and full of cum! Go out and get turned down, get back up and go again.

Its not how many times you fall, but how fast you get back up! This is what builds confidence and character you're looking for.

Just my 2 cents.

I agree with Neverbored.

Going to an escort might build your sexual confidence and a bit of your confidence overall, but if you don't know what to say to a woman now you won't later either. The worse a woman can say is no or Get the F*ck out of my face (which I doubt will happen), just be yourself with a woman. Believe me I know it's not easy to walk up to a woman you don't even know but if they are looking and flirting with you that alone should be a huge confidence booster, it's half the battle.

Good Luck!

 

[Nycfisherman8]

I totally agree with my MERB colleagues, I am totally against your idea to loose your virgunitybwith an escort. The art and pleasure of the seduction are completely compromised with an escort by the enveloppe you provide them, no matter before of after the meeting. I started escorting at 41 after more than 20 years of regular sexuality in regular social and seductive context and games. Escorting answer to my high libido needs. In your case, go out in a bar, establish conversations, be smart and intriguing, and try to connect ... Connections are essential for finding a partner. This will remain for life.
Having said that, and being a man, if your lubido and cum cannot resist, and needs are urgent, contact Amelie courtesan, well advertised in independent section. Explain your self clearly and be honest, if you absolutely needs two hours of great sex, with romantism and sexuality you have to experience the first time, Amelie can be the one. But never forget that the envelope with $$$ you will provide her will inject artefacts into the relation, and that the true life is not like that....

 

[protagoras]

Even if I'm partially against plkt idea, it must observed that in certain cultures - the medieterranean one for instance - it is a a way to have a first hand knowledge of sex with women. Fathers bring their sons - when they are between 16 and 18 - to brothels in order to receive a sexual education.

In the mid-80's- when I was very active in the strip clubs industry (doorman, fuckfriend of a hord of dancers) - a friend of me (Romanian, not exactly mediterranean culture but where this kind of sexual initiation was in force) asked me to find for his virgin son (19 years old and shy) a woman that could teach him how to make sex with a woman. I declined for the same reason presented above by the others posters.

Having paid sex with a woman will not give you confidence in life. I agree with Nycfisherman8, habitually men begin to see escorts around 40 years old...after years of regular sexual activities.

 

[hungry101]

I think we sometimes place to much importance on our "first time." Picking up girls in a bar is better than procuring the services of a provider? Sometimes there is no difference (except for the fact you will find yourself alone, and shitfaced at Denny's restaurant at 2am ordering the Grandslam 9 of 10 times).

You want seduction? Pay her for it. Pick a well seasoned Indy. Or explain to Mike, Martin , Jimmy what you are looking for. I have had girlfriends, wives. Fiancés, affairs, one night stands with many many non-pros. No one has done it any better than my top 10 or 20 encounters with SPs I'm Montreal or SA.

Just don't give up on civilian girls yet. Limit yourself to say 2-3 year. Apply your experience and newfound skills to the girls you meet.
My opinion.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I am of two mind here, I think it is ok for a first but only if it is a last pro for a long while,not if the pro are the only sex you get.
I would see it more as a ''how-to'' and then you can go on in real life with a idea of how to do the deed but be very careful,the meeting with a sp is not the usual sex experience,it is a condensed of all the good without the reciprocation,her job is to please you,in real life it is not the rule that you will have all the devotion,albeit artificial in the sp case of your lady friend...
If you really go for it I disagree about the older sp choice,go for an indy close to your age,I suggest Camille Haring who would be is perfect to guide you and do book a 2hrs so you are not rushed...

 

[randolph]

I would agree with hungry101 with respect to the skills of SPs. Sex in my private life (wives, girlfriends etc) has never been as good as with pros. Maybe I've been seeing the wrong people in that respect. Based on my experience I've always thought the expression GFE is pretty odd: my girlfriends have been timid, unadventurous, and limited sex-wise. So if you start out with a pro you may get the wrong impression. That said, there's more to life than sex, so its great to go ahead and try to build up intimacy with someone. Think about connecting on an emotional level first.

 

[johnybird]

I would agree with hungry101 with respect to the skills of SPs. Sex in my private life (wives, girlfriends etc) has never been as good as with pros. Maybe I've been seeing the wrong people in that respect. Based on my experience I've always thought the expression GFE is pretty odd: my girlfriends have been timid, unadventurous, and limited sex-wise. So if you start out with a pro you may get the wrong impression. That said, there's more to life than sex, so its great to go ahead and try to build up intimacy with someone. Think about connecting on an emotional level first.

I would have to disagree randolph, I might have been lucky but I was married for 17 years and even though I was her first it felt just as satisfying as the pros. There was also an emotional attachment so that adds to the whole experience.

There is one thing you should be careful which Lily mentioned is that the SP is there to please you and seeing that you have never had a girlfriend be careful that you don't fall for her or start getting obssessed with her, these women are really great at what they do and I love them for it they will make you feel great (i'm not talking about physically) and give you a big ego boost. You have to make sure you are in the right mindset when you see them and that you don't get emotionally attached.

I also agree that if you are going to do it you should go with someone similar to your age and a longer booking, you definitely feel less rushed. And as H101 said don't give up on the civilian girls, there is a lot of thrill in the chase as well

 

[hungry101]

Lots of good info here. The problem is the hobby is expensive and addicting. I see nothing wrong with a young guy seeing an escort once in awhile. I feel the same way about strip clubs. There are young guys on this board that I have met that occasion lament how they wish they had a SO. I feel they use the hobby maybe too much as a crutch. They take themselves out of circulation from the dating scene. All things in moderation.

Now, for your first escort. A well reviewed agency girl is fine. I love the young ones. However, when I was a teenager and in my late teens and early 20s I used to have a kinky type of lust for 30-40 year old MILFs. Maybe get someone like Tianna to role play. How about she is your best friends mom. You come over to see if Johnny is home but he is gone with his father for the evening or weekend. She is dressed in a tight micro dress with heals and showing cleavage. She invites you in and pours you wine. She asks if you can help with something in the bedroom and you follow her in and she seduces you like Mrs Robinson.
You are worried about her husband but she confesses to have a thing for you. You have lustfull sex and she leads the way.

Sounds like a good first date to me.

 

[panthere]

For your first time as a virgin...dont do it...Find a women that you love and that she love you!!!..Cause you will remember this night and your first time forever!!!..And i mean it...seriously...even if sp are great.....TRUST ME .

 

[hungry101]

I am trying to figure out who was my first. I think it was my first real GF but I am not sure. This is no big fucking deal. Why do we place so much importance on this? I can tell you about the 3sum I had in BA Argentina or maybe it was my first time to visit a FKK in Europe. Man that was a special day.

Come to think of it your first time at a FKK is really more important. Make sure you go to a good one with a big roster of Eastern Europeans! This was a much more special day to me. I was a 4 Year old in a Toys R'Us. It was so special but the FKK thread was deleted. Darn!

 

[Maria Divina]

Hello Plkt,

You got some nice advices in this thread.

For my part, I really did give a entire course to a nice gentleman who was still virgin near his thirties, and he choose to have 3 separate times with me to learn differents aspects he would like to know, to learn some skills, discover the female body and some secrets, what the ladies are liking and we talk about how to contact and meet girls, and we had then some theoric and practic classes, if I may say it like that, and at the last time we met, I told him he was ready and, he was a good student, he was following my advices. Lots of fun.

His goal was exactly to be more at ease and be able to seduce a girl eventually, and he did I had the pleasures to meet him, several years after, and he had personnal affairs & other escorts encoutners and he was very confident and he even show me what he had learned elsewhere.....

So, I might suggest you to contact an independant to be able to exchange with the lady you will choose directly. Here on Merb, there is a majority of people who are seeing girls from agencies, so that's clear they will suggest an agencie's girl, but if you want a more personalized exchange, you will prefer much more to contact an Indy. I am too old, I am not in the range of age your are looking, but there are a lots of valuable ladies, by examples, at Indy Companion. I am sure you will find one to your taste and be more satisfied after.

 

[tiannas]

Ah, first times...I remember mine, drunk in a basement at a house party, with my friend's brother who I had the biggest crush on. He just wanted to get laid, and he never spoke to me again afterward. It was devastating.
I think it would be far preferable to share a first experience with a sp than with some random bar pickup...

I tend to agree with Maria that it would be nice to contact an independent to have a more personalized service. What type of experience you wish to have will be up to you, but with an indy you can communicate your desires ahead of time and plan accordingly.

 

[themonk83]

question: have you ever date before? if the answer is no then, do not cross that thin line! it'll screw you up forever.

its one thing to be a virgin and having dated people, its a whole complex situation to have neither. if you are able to separate paid fantasy from reality then, sure, pay for one but trust me, to have been single for the better part of my life, it is infinitely better to have at least date someone prior to paying for sex because emotionally, you'll be in better control aka not falling for the SP which can totally destroy you (as some can take advantage of you)

 

[plkt]

Thank you for all the advices boys and girls it's really appreciated! I think it's definitely still worth some times to think about my final decision on if i call an escort or not.

If i ever call one and do it i will bump this thread and do a nice review for you.

 

[cimgrk]

Just go for it man. I lost my virginity to a non-pro but looking back I couldn't care less.

 

[Clemieux66]

I would recommend seeing Nayda, tell her your story and she will guide you and take care of you. Being your age and a virgin, I'm sure she will take great care of you and it will be something to remember that your first will be a busty older woman.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

And whatever you do do not ever meet an escort with marital goal in mind? That is the weirdest comment I've read I think...Who does that?
Just having a client wanting me to be more than Lily is enough to make me flee,imagine a marriage proposal?
Guys,this is fantasy not real life...Practice on a escort? Sure, but eventually you have to step into the real world...
At 23 I would prefer plkt still try the real girl even for a first,it is not that old to be a virgin...