Do people here have issues seeing escorts when they have a larger-than-average penis? I’m relatively inexperienced and have had some difficult encounters with providers. One woman completely refused penetration, saying I was too big. Two others didn’t want to do doggy style. There was also one Asian woman who seemed to be in pain. Of course, that’s not always the case. Some women comment on it, but they are still able to take me without problems. However, I’ve had enough situations go wrong for me to be concerned. I don’t want to cause any pain to women, so it’s a big issue for me. I understand that foreplay is important and that the woman needs to be aroused, but it seems challenging to get an escort aroused, especially since they’re just doing their job and likely want you to finish quickly. How do you deal with this? I’m very new to this, and all my sexual education comes from porn. I never considered myself particularly big, for reference, I’m 7.25 inches long with a 5.5-inch girth.
The Struggles of Men with Large Penises
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Let me offer some advice.
Sources:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis_size
citing data from this widely-cited study: https://bjui-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/bju.13010
You are actually in the top 1% (approx.) of penis sizes with regards to length and top 3% with regards to girth. Basically very big!
Sources:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis_size
citing data from this widely-cited study: https://bjui-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/bju.13010
First, as you say foreplay is important. It is as much psychological as physical for women. Take your time to have a quick chat with her, to share some pleasantries, etc. Kissing and oral sex are also part of foreplay. If your partner agrees to penetration (consent) I strongly recommend to start with slow and shallow thrusting motions, with the help of a personal lubricant (lube) applied to the condom. After a couple of minutes, you may want to slowly increase the rhythm/depth, if that's what you both enjoy. The fact that you say your education comes from porn leads me to believe that you think that penetration always occurs in "jackhammer" style, which is not true. This particularly applies to someone with a very large penis, in real life. Some women may love it, some may not, as you have observed. Listen to what she is saying, go slow, check for her level of comfort, use lube, and always respect consent. Cheers!
From the title i was expecting something a bit different, too bad, it would have made an interesting discussion
I think it’s either because there’s a lack of guys with big penises in the hobby or people posting about their penis size would be looked upon as bragging. One guy i knew years ago who kept mentioning the size if his giant penis in his reviews attracted a lot of animosity because of this & a lot of it was from the girls themselves who read the boards. One guy i knew who saw his erect penis had said that he wasn’t exaggerating & that it was the largest penis he had ever seen in person! I replied “No doubt but people are annoyed because he refers to it constantly!” Lol
Thank you ! I may have to lay off the porn because it is unrealistic sometimes
I met a WG who said she checked the door to make sure it wasn't a client she had who had a giant penis and got off on hurting her. Perils of the job, I guess.
i guess as a comparison i am just over 7" length and i just checked.. 6.25" girth at the base but probably 5.75 more in the middle.
i have seen a lot of girls over the last year and yes a lot of them have mentioned i am bigger than the average but i have not really ever been refused a service because of it. i enjoy DATY a lot. so maybe that helps?
i have had two things arise though. one was after seeing an outcall girl twice and i thought everything went well.. i tried to book a third time and she said no. stating because of the size of me. i guess that’s a good reason to be blocked by someone at least lol.
and second was i booked a… rather expensive indy let’s say. more than my usual budget. and she refused doggy. “your penis is kind of big you know?” which is pretty upsetting because from all the girls i’ve been with doggy has never been an issue. but whatever.
also as one guy stated. it’s not porn and you don’t need to pile drive. i prefer slower sex so maybe that’s why i haven’t had an issue. and reapply lube often.
hope that helps.
i have seen a lot of girls over the last year and yes a lot of them have mentioned i am bigger than the average but i have not really ever been refused a service because of it. i enjoy DATY a lot. so maybe that helps?
i have had two things arise though. one was after seeing an outcall girl twice and i thought everything went well.. i tried to book a third time and she said no. stating because of the size of me. i guess that’s a good reason to be blocked by someone at least lol.
and second was i booked a… rather expensive indy let’s say. more than my usual budget. and she refused doggy. “your penis is kind of big you know?” which is pretty upsetting because from all the girls i’ve been with doggy has never been an issue. but whatever.
also as one guy stated. it’s not porn and you don’t need to pile drive. i prefer slower sex so maybe that’s why i haven’t had an issue. and reapply lube often.
hope that helps.
It is helpfull. It seems like my problem is my '' motion '' and going to hard to fast. Personally , i like DATY but i am to shy to perform this on someone i just met so it doesn't help. It feels like it's going to be an issue for fast hookups and rushed things. It comes with the territory i guess. Thank you for your response
It can be quite frustrating, especially with Asians. I had one try to charge me $100 more because of the size. I respectfully declined and left. Sometimes, people are just not sexually compatible.
I've had this issue with some ladies. Some of them asked me not to go too far, only one girl asked me to go all the way in. Some refused to get on top because of that but yes, doggy is usually the most problematic.
On that topic, few months ago I enquired about an agency girl but the booker told me that I was too large for her. I'm still wondering how they know that. I asked them but of course they didn't clearly answer, I should have known better. My first guess is that some of the girls I had seen before told them (I'm just surprised that they would just randomly tell the bookers about it). They assured me that none of the girls had asked not to see me again though.
But part of me can't help but worry about them having cameras or voice recorders in the condos...
On that topic, few months ago I enquired about an agency girl but the booker told me that I was too large for her. I'm still wondering how they know that. I asked them but of course they didn't clearly answer, I should have known better. My first guess is that some of the girls I had seen before told them (I'm just surprised that they would just randomly tell the bookers about it). They assured me that none of the girls had asked not to see me again though.
But part of me can't help but worry about them having cameras or voice recorders in the condos...
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no no. it has nothing to do with cameras or voice recorders. the bookers/owner will ask the girls just how it went with clients especially when they are new. kind of a safety measure but also just for their own information type thing. it’s common.
I have also had my share of size compatibility problems, almost all the time with Asian ladies. My D is larger than average, but it's not that big, certainly not as big as op's.
This sometimes led to some difficult situations with providers. The tips others mentioned, such as taking it slow, going shallow at first, are good points. But I would also say I try to not be too upset over the situation and mostly laugh about it, which lightens up the mood and sometimes makes it easier for the girl to be more patient.
Imagine her getting ploughed by big D several times per day and unhappy customers. That's pretty tough. Although I cannot change anything about my physical characteristics, I can change my mood and make things a bit easier on her.
Having said that, sometimes that doesn't work either. Here's a recent review from a session I have with a Chinese provider:
On the bed, she started some nipple licking while she had my junior in her hands. "It's big" she declared, as I was still soft. I felt a bit flattered, but this didn't last too long, as you will soon see. A few moments later, while I was at half mast, "it's so big", she asserted, looking a bit worried. She soon put the connie on me, lubed herself up, and got on top. All the while, she continued to reaffirm her initial findings, but she seemed to enjoy herself a bit, losing some of her worries, as did I! But alas, this did not carry on, as she declared again "you big, me small", pointing to her down there.
However, she was a good trooper and she soldiered on. She lied down on the bed and we started a second position in missionary. After a short while, she ordered, "Babyyy, I want you to OPEN!". She probably detected my confusion, as she reiterated herself, this time making a motion with her hand that looks like the International Sign Language for "outside": 5 fingers joined at the tips, then opening up the finger to form an open palm. After a few more minutes, she repeated herself, while I was still doing my movements into her. Since this was getting in the way of things, I feigned my understanding, and I nodded affirmatively, while going on about my business.
Whatever she was asking, I did not understand, but there was no time to ask Google to translate. Unfortunately, I can often be the kind of guy who doesn't get what women want, which explains the ill-considered eureka! moment that came next. Ah, okay I got it!, I said to myself. Still in missionary, I OPENED her legs wider while I plunged myself in. It's OPEN now, is it not? But this did not elicit her agreement.
- "Babyyyy, whyyyy you no OPEN! You tell me you OPEN, why you no OPENNN?!?".
Using her knees and legs from above me, she pushed me down into her forcefully and repeatedly, and I finally I caught on that she wanted me to come fast (my eureka #2 moment!). I asked her to change to prone bone, which usually makes me come fast, and I just went at it! No more than 2 minutes later, I was done and done... She had a look of relief on her face, as if she had just finished a marathon, despite that the whole episode lasted no more than 10 minutes. Pointing at the stain in the middle of the bed, she exclaimed, "no good...". I would realize later on, after the lights came up, that the stain was pink and red. The connie on my flaccid dong was also a shade of brownish red. Sorry baby, now I know what you wanted me to "OPEN" fast...
A quick after-fuck shower later, I was done and out. I asked her if she was okay and I apologized for what happened, and she said she was fine.
This sometimes led to some difficult situations with providers. The tips others mentioned, such as taking it slow, going shallow at first, are good points. But I would also say I try to not be too upset over the situation and mostly laugh about it, which lightens up the mood and sometimes makes it easier for the girl to be more patient.
Imagine her getting ploughed by big D several times per day and unhappy customers. That's pretty tough. Although I cannot change anything about my physical characteristics, I can change my mood and make things a bit easier on her.
Having said that, sometimes that doesn't work either. Here's a recent review from a session I have with a Chinese provider:
On the bed, she started some nipple licking while she had my junior in her hands. "It's big" she declared, as I was still soft. I felt a bit flattered, but this didn't last too long, as you will soon see. A few moments later, while I was at half mast, "it's so big", she asserted, looking a bit worried. She soon put the connie on me, lubed herself up, and got on top. All the while, she continued to reaffirm her initial findings, but she seemed to enjoy herself a bit, losing some of her worries, as did I! But alas, this did not carry on, as she declared again "you big, me small", pointing to her down there.
However, she was a good trooper and she soldiered on. She lied down on the bed and we started a second position in missionary. After a short while, she ordered, "Babyyy, I want you to OPEN!". She probably detected my confusion, as she reiterated herself, this time making a motion with her hand that looks like the International Sign Language for "outside": 5 fingers joined at the tips, then opening up the finger to form an open palm. After a few more minutes, she repeated herself, while I was still doing my movements into her. Since this was getting in the way of things, I feigned my understanding, and I nodded affirmatively, while going on about my business.
Whatever she was asking, I did not understand, but there was no time to ask Google to translate. Unfortunately, I can often be the kind of guy who doesn't get what women want, which explains the ill-considered eureka! moment that came next. Ah, okay I got it!, I said to myself. Still in missionary, I OPENED her legs wider while I plunged myself in. It's OPEN now, is it not? But this did not elicit her agreement.
- "Babyyyy, whyyyy you no OPEN! You tell me you OPEN, why you no OPENNN?!?".
Using her knees and legs from above me, she pushed me down into her forcefully and repeatedly, and I finally I caught on that she wanted me to come fast (my eureka #2 moment!). I asked her to change to prone bone, which usually makes me come fast, and I just went at it! No more than 2 minutes later, I was done and done... She had a look of relief on her face, as if she had just finished a marathon, despite that the whole episode lasted no more than 10 minutes. Pointing at the stain in the middle of the bed, she exclaimed, "no good...". I would realize later on, after the lights came up, that the stain was pink and red. The connie on my flaccid dong was also a shade of brownish red. Sorry baby, now I know what you wanted me to "OPEN" fast...
A quick after-fuck shower later, I was done and out. I asked her if she was okay and I apologized for what happened, and she said she was fine.
This thread should be renamed The Struggles of Men with Large Penises
yeah , i am a point in my life where i don't even bother to look at her ads if she is asian. It's sad but i just know it won't be a good fit. I don't know if you heard of it but there is a thing called ohnut. It's like a cock ring that act as bumper and prevent you from inserting your whole penis in her vagina. I might get it if i get issues in long term relationships.
Heh, I needed to look up "penis ohnut" and this thing really exists.
The marketing sounds like this product is almost going to end wars and poverty: "Ohnut is changing the conversation about discomfort during sex, with a mission-driven wearable that customizes penetration depth"
It looks like the suspension boot on the front suspension of my car. I like the subtle detail of the skin color of the guy. Just so we know which ethnic group this is marketed towards...
I'm right there with you, had to read the original title a few times. Once I remembered that I was reading the merb forum, I figured it out.
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