What is the obsession?

[metoo4]

To the attention of Canada Post: Please mark all such packages "return to sender".

Forget the "return to sender"! Just ignore the return address and destroy the package...

So now, peoples who don't see everything in black are the ones who are wrong since it just can't be anything good in this hobby because General Guru isn't able to control his addiction and he's ashamed of it. If only General Guru could stop one person from falling in the trap he fell into, his soul will gain redemption from eternal flames...

Now, who's going to sacrifice himself and thanks General Guru for saving him?

 

[hormone]

I am not knocking relationships (I mean seeing the same provider over and over) but I think we have read enough about how "deceptive" SPs are - WAKE-UP call - YOU PAY US FOR A FANTASY!

I think I am missing fantasy these days - so I apologize for my rant - lol! Take in tongue'n'cheek - will ya! And BTW - this is a call for more of you to write reviews - I need some entertainment!
Anik

Well summarized, Anik! We pay... the ladies are a fantasy. Fair enough. I think that is the most important part to remember. Of course, some tend to forget it until they feel they need to remind everyone else about it and ruin threads with their TV preacher style comments... I thought we would be spared more of him, but seems like the mods wanted to inflict some "passion" (jesus style version) on us...

And the most interesting reviews to read are the ones that delve into the fantasy. The Harlequin novel type, sometimes? Why not. I prefer it to the "complete almanach of acronyms"... But it is interesting that usually only few SPs also "provoke" such fantasy reviews... Usually the better ones? The ones who ... live up to the fantasy more.

 

[Lion Heart]

So now, peoples who don't see everything in black are the ones who are wrong since it just can't be anything good in this hobby because General Guru isn't able to control his addiction and he's ashamed of it. If only General Guru could stop one person from falling in the trap he fell into, his soul will gain redemption from eternal flames...

Good one!

Until GG realize that he's the one with a problem, I guess we'll unfortunately have to suffer his annoying preaching...that's until his fuses blow up again and he gets banned yet another time...

LH

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

It's amazing how guys with experience won't admit that this whole hobby is full of crap.

I'm going to agree with GG here, in a limited way. It really depends on HOW you experience the "hobby." If the hobby becomes the center of your existence, if you see 3-4-5 SPs and MPs a week, if you're more interested in "deep" conversation with them than in the erotic fantasy, if you spend your weekends scouring the web for "interesting" topics so as to initiate lengthy, time and life consuming and, usually, heated discussions about the "hobby," if you spend more time talking about how the hobby is ruining your life than you do enjoying the fantasy, then, yes, the hobby is probably full of crap.

If, on the other hand, you do as I and most of my "hobbying" friends do, visit Montreal a few times a year for the pleasure of enjoying a little romp with a young woman who a) would never dream of getting in the sack with the likes of you or b) might very well have jumped in the sack with you 25 years ago but, alas, no more, then the hobby is exactly as Anik describes.

 

[korbel]

I'm going to agree with GG here, in a limited way. It really depends on HOW you experience the "hobby." If the hobby becomes the center of your existence, if you see 3-4-5 SPs and MPs a week, if you're more interested in "deep" conversation with them than in the erotic fantasy, if you spend your weekends scouring the web for "interesting" topics so as to initiate lengthy, time and life consuming and, usually, heated discussions about the "hobby," if you spend more time talking about how the hobby is ruining your life than you do enjoying the fantasy, then, yes, the hobby is probably full of crap.

If, on the other hand, you do as I and most of my "hobbying" friends do, visit Montreal a few times a year for the pleasure of enjoying a little romp with a young woman who a) would never dream of getting in the sack with the likes of you or b) might very well have jumped in the sack with you 25 years ago but, alas, no more, then the hobby is exactly as Anik describes.

Well Rumples,

I thought hell had frozen over with that first line.

Good Post,

Korbel

 

[General Gonad]

I'm going to agree with GG here, in a limited way. It really depends on HOW you experience the "hobby." If the hobby becomes the center of your existence, if you see 3-4-5 SPs and MPs a week, if you're more interested in "deep" conversation with them than in the erotic fantasy, if you spend your weekends scouring the web for "interesting" topics so as to initiate lengthy, time and life consuming and, usually, heated discussions about the "hobby," if you spend more time talking about how the hobby is ruining your life than you do enjoying the fantasy, then, yes, the hobby is probably full of crap.

Perception and reality are disconnected in this post of yours. At my peak, I'd see 2 SPs a week, interspersed with a few erotic massages once in a while. The only deep conversations I ever had in Hobbyland were with someone who agrees with me about the nature of this biz. It is corrupt to its very core and it corrupts all the players too, albeit some more than others.

I am spending less and less time on Merb because I just find it boring. I am good at finding interesting articles that are relevant to the boards and the hobby. So what is your problem with that? Just stick to the Yankees thread if I annoy you.

If, on the other hand, you do as I and most of my "hobbying" friends do, visit Montreal a few times a year for the pleasure of enjoying a little romp with a young woman who a) would never dream of getting in the sack with the likes of you or b) might very well have jumped in the sack with you 25 years ago but, alas, no more, then the hobby is exactly as Anik describes.

If on the other hand we did as you do and committed an insane amount of financial and emotional resources to fool ourselves into believing we can develop special relationships with SPs???Come on Reggie, sell that crap to the ignorant fools on this board, not to me.

While it is true that reckless hobbying can be interpreted as self-destructive behavior, it can also accelerate your disgust with the whole hobby scene. I also do not buy the myth of people hobbying once in a while. Once you taste the honey, you're hooked and you're screwed.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

I have no interest in committing to anyone & love being single, mostly because i'm independent & stubborn, but also because i'm a solitary person who enjoys time spent alone. So is it so bad that once in a while i'll pay someone to fullfill some of my fantasies & also keep me company? I don't see anything wrong if it's done between two consenting adults where each gets something out of the transaction. No one gets hurt, and both parties get something out of it.

Doc,

Do you really prefer being single and alone? You don't have to spew your guts out here but I find this hard to believe and I've read this comment from many guys on this board. I find it hard to believe that you prefer a life of solitude. Which man does not yearn for something more meaningful than an ephemeral moment of sexual pleasure?

Finally, in regards to what the business does to people. Yes, there are many bad sides to it. It does affect many women in this business negatively, but it also counts johns among its victims. But people seem to forget that when it comes to the women in this business, most of them had destructive lifestyles & a lot of sorrow in their lives before becoming escorts. Their lives were a mess! For some of these people, the escort business wasn't always necessarily bad. They took the positives out of this life & became better persons & for many, they enjoyed a better life because of it. Many, myself included, have often blamed the escort business for corrupting the people involved with it. But we forget that in many cases, these individuals were already corrupted before they discovered the business & its likely that is why they discovered it in the first place. Sure, it's not all rosy & pretty. But isn't that the case with many of our jobs? Most people i speak to hate their jobs, wish they'd be doing something else......their job is often always negative....but heck, it pays the bills & it's better than starving & working the 6 to 2 shift at McDonald's. And i'm not even talking about the escort business when i say this. I'm simply stating the facts as i see them. Am i correct in my analysis? Who knows. I'm not an egocentric or narcissistic person, so i'm willing to admit that i may be totally wrong & might have a total different opinion in the future.

I agree with you that most escorts had serious issues before entering this line of work, but they only get worse once they escort. If they had self-esteem issues, they will get worse. I have seen it with my eyes.

I disagree with your other comments. Does escorting really beat a job at McDonald's? You are only looking at it from the myopic financial perspective and not looking at it from a wider angle. Sure they make lots of money escorting but if they never learn to manage or value that money, what good does it do for them? If they get accustomed to a lifestyle where they wake up at 3 or 4 p.m. and head out to "work" between 8 p.m. and 4 a.m., what good does it do to them? If each time they spread their legs a part of their soul is destroyed, what good does it do to them?

There are plenty of people working at mediocre jobs who set goals to better themselves. No they are not making as much money as escorts but so what? They are learning the value of hard work and they are not giving up their dignity for the almighty buck.

GG

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

I am spending less and less time on Merb because I just find it boring.

So we've noticed. Only 125 posts in the last week.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

Do you really prefer being single and alone? You don't have to spew your guts out here but I find this hard to believe and I've read this comment from many guys on this board. I find it hard to believe that you prefer a life of solitude.

Actually, while I don't prefer being single, I know many guys who hobby that do. In addition, being single, hardly means being alone.

I'm single at the moment, though dating and, consequently, not hobbying. Even when not dating, however, I hardly live a life of solitude and know that most of my single friends who hobby also live active social lives.

 

[La Femme]

If each time they spread their legs a part of their soul is destroyed, what good does it do to them?

GG

Obviously, it does no good at all. But the key word in your phrase is IF. Not every escort feels that way. I wish you could accept that.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

What can i say? I love my life. I prefer being single than in some crappy relationship like too many married people i know. I'm my own boss & don't have to answer to anyone. I've lived both sides of the spectrum & the last thing i want now is to be stuck in a relationship. Of course, if i'd know in advance that the relationship would be great, i might feel different.

And I love mine as well. I'd prefer to be in a relationship and may be soon; we'll see how this develops. The best part of hobbying is that it helps maintain an equilibrium that, at least in my case, keeps me from jumping into an unwise relationship simply to fulfill my hormonal needs. In that sense, hobbying, I've found, to be quite therapeutic.

 

[General Gonad]

But the hobby is likely the cause of my becoming polygamous & i doubt i'd be able to have only 1 sex partner for the rest of my life if i'd commit to someone. As i said already, i'm not the type who'll screw around (i'm too remorseful, what can i say) nor would i want to. I enjoy solitude & my space. I don't want to ever have children. I live life fully & on my terms & don't have to answer to anyone. My work can often be very stressful & i need time for myself to unwind. I love travelling & this likely wouldn't be possible if i'd have a family to support & take care of. So the bottom line is that i'm at the point of my life where i want to be at. I'm happy & love my life. Of course, who knows what the future has in store for me? I could very well feel totally the opposite 5 years from now.

Doc,

I am not sure that the hobby "caused" you to change your views on monogamy. The problem with hobbying is that it is inherently shallow. Sex is just sex...big f'king deal...But a real relationship with someone you love has a lot more to offer you. Of course, you have to be willing to risk it and you both have to want the same things out of it. If you're not willing to share your life with someone, don't bother trying.

No decent person is the 'type' to screw around. I certainly wasn't and that is the part that ate away at my soul. Fantasy sucks compared to the real thing.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

I'd prefer to be in a relationship and may be soon; we'll see how this develops. The best part of hobbying is that it helps maintain an equilibrium that, at least in my case, keeps me from jumping into an unwise relationship simply to fulfill my hormonal needs. In that sense, hobbying, I've found, to be quite therapeutic.

LMAO! This has to be the funniest thing I ever read on these boards!!!

GG

P.S. Please keep us up-to-date on your new found love.

 

[La Femme]

No decent person is the 'type' to screw around. I certainly wasn't and that is the part that ate away at my soul. Fantasy sucks compared to the real thing.

GG

Of course, in an ideal world, we would all be madly in love and have mind blowing sex with the person we cherish. But reality is different.

What if you are married to a woman you love but do not have a satisfying sexual relationship with her?

Emotionnal needs and sexual needs are important. People do what they can to fullfil both.

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

Sex is just sex.

My sentiments exactly.

 

[General Gonad]

One former very popular high end escort once told me that the business actually increased her self-esteem. Never before had anyone told her how beautiful & intelligent she was....she was never complimented & often was stuck with people who constantly put her down. Other women were stuck with abusive boyfriends who abused them & supplied them with drugs, etc. The business changed the nightmarish path their lives were heading to.

Doc,

These are the exceptions. For the vast majority of ladies, their nightmare begins once they enter this biz. Also, I don't believe everything I ear from SPs who claim to be better off after SPing. Most of it is just horse shit.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

I write this from the perspective of someone who can't stand watching people suffer.

GG, get help! Please. You DESERVE to leave this business once and for all. What (I suspect) you consider your sins will NOT be expiated by your sacrifice (your time for other hobbies, your family and friends) here. You've got nothing to feel guilty about. You only have your life to LIVE.

t76,

You are consumed with me, trying to discredit me with everything I've written in the past. Darling, I am much stronger than you'll ever be. You are the weak one. You are the one lying to herself, not me. Look in the mirror and don't you worry about me. I know this biz is destructive, full of shit, and intrinsically hopeless. I watch others like you hanging around escort review boards, claiming to be retired and I find you sad...very sad.

GG

P.S. Enjoy your day!

 

[rumpleforeskiin]

For the vast majority of ladies, their nightmare begins once they enter this biz.

Can you provide some documentation of this claim. Surely with the amount of time you've spent researching this industry, you can give us links to the numerous research studies you've read, no?

 

[General Gonad]

That's exactly it. I'm not willing to risk it. Everytime i have, it turned sour after a few years & when the relationship ended, i felt like i had wasted years of my life. Also dealing with a failed relationship & the stress it brought along wasn't something i wanted to repeat. A failed relationship, i've determined, is too hard on me emotionally & too draining.

So you give up? Come on Doc, never give up! I bet you if you really sat down and thought about why your relationships failed, you'd take your share of the responsibility and become a better person for it. A real, loving relationship can recharge you emotionally and make life so much more meaningful.

GG

 

[General Gonad]

Can you provide some documentation of this claim?

Sure, where is that San Francisco trip report?

GG