Would starting this thread be a good idea?

[2fast2slow]

Reading all the abolitionist bullshit about our hobby really drives me crazy. Because of the social stigma, very few people want to defend publicly sex work as legitimate. More frustrating are those abolitionist who pretend to be speaking in best interest of the women who willingly and very consciencesly take on this work, when they really are not.

Anyways I tought it would be a good idea to have a thread here where providers express how they feel about their sex work, why they chose to do it, when they started, how they feel about the legal situation, etc.

I figure on merb there must be at least a couple of hundred of active members that are providers. If all these providers express their opinion on sex work, we could accumulate quite an expansive blog over time. I dont know, to me this seems like a good idea in theory, but not sure if it would work in practice.

Do other members think this is a good idea?

 

[hungry101]

It wouldn't hurt but the problem is that they would be preaching to the choir. This is what is known as an echo chamber.

I really think that some of the things that Reverdy and Gugu used to post were pretty good at times. There would be some talking points that you could repeat to trusted confidants that live on the fringe of this hobby. Those talking points were good to educate others. The problem is that this information needs to get out to the mainstream. We are not the mainstream. We already know the girl that bought a condo cash. We know the girl that owns a sports car you couldn't afford and they bought it cash. These are stories that the abolitionist does not want to get out to the public. How do we get these stories out there? This echo chamber is not very effective.

 

[EagerBeaver]

I was not aware that there was a lot of abolitionists at work in Montreal. What are you referring to exactly and why should MERB local providers be concerned about it?

 

[2fast2slow]

once a good number of posts are accumulated, someone could re-post outside of this forum. The idea is to log a bunch of 'témoignages' here, what we do with the info later we'll see later.

 

[2fast2slow]

I was not aware that there was a lot of abolitionists at work in Montreal. What are you referring to exactly and why should MERB local providers be concerned about it?

not really. there is a commission at work right now looking into juvenile prostitution, that some people think could eventually be expanded to all prostitution...

But my idea to start a thread of personnal testimonies is not specific to monntreal.

I regularly see in the media totally false myths about the profession. I thought merb could be a good place where we could accumulate 'data' that tells the other side of the story. Maybe Stella could use the testimonies.

 

[Julia Sky]

We do it all day every day. At least those of us who have an online presence. We fight every day to tell our stories to people, we try to explain that we love out jobs and that it’s valid. Nobody listens. If the general population on Twitter won’t listen to us I don’t think there is any use doing it here on merb.

 

[kkrack]

fight? Please...
I think it should be legal because prohibiting will only make this activity accessible to an elite. I'm talking Epstein kind of elite. I would legalize it just for the sake of being democratic.
There is one escort whose behaviour I really found sound recently. Sonia Von S, was promoting her services with disabled people and I really thought it was a good idea. I know a lot of those people suffer from isolation and the need of sexuality must be incredible. Focusing in alleviating the needs of that slice of the population is really sensitive and is a good enough reason for sex workers to operate. However, not all girls have the guts work with those constraints. I have never met her probably never will, but I salute her.

 

[Julia Sky]

You’ve never heard the word fight in a sentence like this? What’s wrong? Lol

 

[jalimon]

You nailed it Kkrack. Having sex is very high on the pyramid of must have in life. I suspect many of those fighting against prostitution are frustrated women/men who aren't getting any.

Ho by the way Sonia is one of a kind. You can go extremely kinky with her and 15 minutes later you'r sharing a beer with her talking about her life just like she's been your wonderful gilfriend for the last 2 years

 

[kkrack]

It was high on my priority, for 15 years at least twice a week. Last time I fucked was about 4 months ago, I previously thought it was impossible but seems it is. I'm going to try to go a year perhaps more. It really put things into perspective.
I don't look for that kind of intimacy the one you pay for and you feel good cause she listens and girlfriend kind of behaviour. It feels weird to me. But if she can make a disabled or rejected man feel desired and in some ways perhaps even loved, it's worth millions. Every year we do charity work at my company, lately we've been dealing with homeless people my employees tell me crazy stories when they come back of how men end up in the streets, heck I'd pay them an hour with an escort so they would feel the warmth of a woman's breast. They would be escorted out of loneliness. I would have the outermost respect for any woman doing that kind of prostitution.

 

[hungry101]

There was a hobbyist that was wheelchair bound who used to come on here. I remember at one of the parties he showed up and the girls were really kind to him. I remember Kiki doing a private little dance for him. I thought very highly of her. She seems to me to be a caring and kind person. Yeah, everyone needs some intimacy. I think that's what the Unicorn Healers believed.

 

[Handi]

That’s me
I have been an hobbyist for around 5 years and had amazing times. I wished more disabled people would try this. I am grateful for all the girls i met.

And also, magical things can happen in this world. 2 years ago I met someone amazing from the industry and we are now moving together as friends++

This industry should definitely be decriminalized

 

[CLOUD 500]

Johns and Janes in involved in prostitution are a small minority of the population. The general public really does not care much about it. Religion still has a strong presence in society especially American society. As long as the Bible has a strong presence laws against it will always exist. Now we got a new problem and it is feminists and the #MeToo who are trying to castrate men and turn them into feminine men. This industry will never be decriminalized at least in our lifetime and especially in the US. The US is the most hostile environment to prostitution. Best option is to move to another country that does not have ties to the Bible. Best to enjoy it on the low as much as possible. Canada has also moved towards social conservatism and Conservative Prime Minister Stephen Harper initiated this with his Bill C-36.

 

[Jame]

not really. there is a commission at work right now looking into juvenile prostitution, that some people think could eventually be expanded to all prostitution...

But my idea to start a thread of personnal testimonies is not specific to monntreal.

I regularly see in the media totally false myths about the profession. I thought merb could be a good place where we could accumulate 'data' that tells the other side of the story. Maybe Stella could use the testimonies.

Wait, did something happen to Stella? Which Stella are you referring to?

 

[Julia Sky]

Wait, did something happen to Stella? Which Stella are you referring to?

http://www.chezstella.org/

 

[CLOUD 500]

I just don’t see it that way, Cloud500.

Here is an excerpt from today’s story about the Iowa Supreme Court judge who died.

Iowa is in the heartland and has plenty of conservative, religious folk. But it set the tone on gay marriage and is something of a surprising leader in the current abortion rights fight.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/iowa-supreme-court-chief-justice-143505863.html

He is an exception and as per the news he shocked social conservatives. People in that state do not support this kind of thing.

“Cady led a 5-2 majority of justices who concluded that a law requiring women to wait 72 hours before a doctor could perform an abortion was unconstitutional because "autonomy and dominion over one's body go to the very heart of what it means to be free."

Courts have been asked time and time again as to why autonomy and dominion over one’s body doesn’t apply to prostitution, and the answer is consistent. It is because of Commerce, and the government’s incredible ability to make laws and regulations regarding Commerce.

And to summon the spirit of Scalia, Commerce is a Bitch.

That is what they say but if you look at the history of the US prostitution laws go back to the early 20th century. It started with the fear of spread of venereal diseases to the army and it was the rise of social conservatism. But you see feminism is what is helping those women have legalized abortion. You got feminists going head to head against religious fanatics and social conservatives. But no one cares much about prostitution though.

 

[2fast2slow]

Are any of the Montreal escorts, agencies, or the Johns here on merb who see them, really in need of further legislation in Montreal for protection after c-36 and the local police prioritization policy?

The current CAQ government worries me a lot...they are pushing ideology more and more, while seemingly remaining quite popular with the quebec electorate. After their stupid religion law, and now their stupid canabis law, i would not put it pass them to encourage the cities and provincial police to enforce c-36, or find a way to make our lives miserable.

This thread has gone off on a tangent (no surprise). My question remains: should there be a dedicated thread here for providers only where they can give first hand accounts of their situation so that we can build up an inventory of providers giving their stories? Someone would have to break the ice though...Julia? Would you be comfortable doing this?

 

[Valcazar]

This thread has gone off on a tangent (no surprise). My question remains: should there be a dedicated thread here for providers only where they can give first hand accounts of their situation so that we can build up an inventory of providers giving their stories? Someone would have to break the ice though...Julia? Would you be comfortable doing this?

Why?
Julia already pointed out that sex workers tell their stories all the time. What purpose would a MERB thread serve?

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

^^^^^ Agree, the percentage of Johns or those opposed to prostitution that read merb is extremely low, guessing below 0.01%.
Now if you could get those three ultra left women on The Social TV show to go along, well then.

 

[hungry101]

^^^ I agree with you and Merlot. But it can't hurt I guess.