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    Question S.P's and relationships with boyfriends

    I was just wondering how any guy can have a normal relationship with a women who has sex all day long with other men.This just freaks me out,maybe I am just old fashion,can someone really care about his women while she is fucking other guys just for money.I would like to know your opinions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maximus
    I was just wondering how any guy can have a normal relationship with a women who has sex all day long with other men.This just freaks me out
    You dont, you just bang em for a while and see how it goes from there

    Getting into a serious relationship with a stripper/hooker is a bad idea, for the girl as well as the guy.

    I've been with 2 dancers in my life and neither has worked out so well.
    Neither did it work for friends that I knew.

    Sorry mate, thats my best advice

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    In Vegas, getting into a serious relationship with "anybody" is a bad idea, for the girl as well as the guy! HA!

    Serious relationships are difficult for everyone....... not just SP's & strippers.

    If I look at all the relationships that I have had & that of my friends & family, I have to say dating a stripper, isn't much worse than dating a regular girl. Most fail, regardless. Vegas is a very tough town though..... #1 in divorces & single parents, per capita in the U.S.

    SP's & Strippers are first women. They have the same wants, needs & feelings as every other women. Like every other woman, there are some good ones & some bad ones. If you understand yourself well, I think you will choose a woman that compliments your life well, regardless of what she does for a living. The key is, you have to know yourself well & understand your own limitations first.

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    ZoneAlarm good point,I am sure that it can't be easy for the man or the sp but it's fucked up,I had one sp tell me that her boyfreind knows what she does that she is honest with him she told me "he must really love me" in my mind I think he really does'nt care!!!

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    That's so funny! Generalizing and all! One thing you all conveniently forget: free will.

    Some ladies do that type of work because they want to, you know? Even some SP who participate to MERB are in stable relationship, and the guys they are with aren't there to "spounge" the girl's money, they have jobs!

    Forget the "I would get multiple jobs so she could stop doing this." mentality! The girl might not want you to "save" her because she might not need to be rescued!

    Going out with an SP or stripper is only different when somebody DECIDE to see it as different. A singer sell his voice, a mechanic sells his ability, an escort "lease" her body.

    What if society decide signing is no longer seen as "respectable"? Would Céline Dion be considered a whore? Not at all! The stigmates comes from the society, our own jealousy and preconcived ideas we have.

    This is where the "What my friends will say?" (society), the "I don't like you having pleasure with others guys" (jaleousy) and the "If you have fun with them, you just can't really love me." (preconcived idea) comes into play. If a guy can go above this, it becomes a "normal" couple and, imho, it's possible to beat these attitudes.

    As long as somebody is open and can accept the implications of his choices, there's no reason a couple composed of an SP and a regular dude can't work, at least no more than any other "regular" couple.

    Stating that most strippers and SP have issues to resolve and will attach themself to anybody willing to let them do so is probably very far from the truth.

    There's a BIG difference in "not caring" and "respecting". "Not caring" would be "I don't want to know about it, just do whatever the fuck you want." but "respecting" is "I don't like what you do (Or I don't mind what you do!) but it's your choice and I accept it so, I accept you the way you are."

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    Metoo4 this is a very grey area,I still think it is fucked up,you give me the impression you have some experince in this area.
    Last edited by maximus; 10-31-2007 at 05:14 PM.

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    Before I knew what an escort was I had one for a neighbour.
    Her and her husband (I'm sure they were married) fought loudly all the time, and that's how I found out she was an escort. Her choice of jobs seemed to be a big deal with them, although I'm sure the guy didn't mind the money.

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    Maximus, what's the most "fucked-up" way of thinking? Presuming others who don't think like us are fucked-up or accepting others might see things differently?

    It is a grey zone, no doubts about it. But why would those who live these situations would have to be more fucked-up than you and me?

    Do I have some experience into this? Not personally but I know enough ladies in that situation and I'm open-minded enough to believe it's posible to make it work, that's it.

    Hey! Just found-out not long ago one of my fav at Cleo also have a long term boyfriend who hold a high-paying job by himself!

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    moi je pourrais vous dire que c'est un des plus beau métier du monde, quand on choisi avec qui on va... quand on choisi ses clients, quand on peux ce le permettre. Quand on se respecte dans nos limites.

    Des relations à coup de 30 minutes et de une heure pour moi ce n'est pas satisfaisant... J'ai besoin de plus que ça. Une complicité, de partager, des trucs, des activités...

    J'ai déjà sorti avec un client, à force de lui expliquer, il avait compris ce que je cherchais dans notre relation, mais bon comme je n'étais pas en amour avec lui et que j'en avait un autre dans la peau, je l'ai laisser...

    Mais c'est vraiment pénible de mentir tout le temps à notre copain... Le mieux ça serait que je lui disent... mais pour après que je lui dise: ne le dit pas c'est un secret... j'ai déjà assez à dealer avec ça sans avoir à dealer avec sa conscience. Si je veux que ça reste dans l'annonymat, désolée mais pour l'instant j'ai décidé de ne pas lui dire. Même si dès fois je le test pour voir sa réaction. Mais comme il n'a pas passé le test... je me tais. Mais bon c'est un fuck-freind c'est même pas mon chum... Du moins pour l'instant, il ne mérite pas que je lui dise...

    Pis j'ai pas envie d'arrêter en ce moment, j'aime trop ce que je fais, ça rejoint mon côté social, psycho, humanitaire et en plus je fais tripper les gens.

    Peut-être vouloir des enfants me ferais arrêter...
    Last edited by amelie; 11-02-2007 at 05:04 AM.

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    MeToo4 I also know of a girl in a 10yr relationship which her boyfreind earns alot more money then her so it is possible....I just find it is twisted.

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    I would have cared a lot when I was in my 20s. Now, I could give two hoots. Whatever makes my wife happy, that is a good thing. If my wife became an SP, that would be about #87 on my list of things to worry about.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Esco!
    You dont, you just bang em for a while and see how it goes from there

    Getting into a serious relationship with a stripper/hooker is a bad idea, for the girl as well as the guy.

    I've been with 2 dancers in my life and neither has worked out so well.
    Neither did it work for friends that I knew.

    Sorry mate, thats my best advice
    In general how many relationships last forever? How many last longer than a year? How many marriages end in divorce? Why should it be different if your partner is a sex worker?

    Ronnie,
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    They will forget what you said,
    they will forget what you did,
    but they will never forget the way you made them feel.

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    double standards ?

    it is irritating that we have this double standards. I had a friend once told me while we were in Amsterdam that "I love these women, but I couldn't date any of them." That shows me that he is a hypocrite . It goes both ways for everyone who has hobbied. Try this Why not disclosed that you are a hobbyist when you date a girl. I will guarantee you that 80% of the women will not look at it as favorable at all. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. If One chooses to get involve with an S.P One has to realized the potential down fall or such before committing to that relationship. I feel that open and honest communication in the end will result a healthy relationship. One should not judge others before One review what's in front of the mirror.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZoneAlarm
    However the oposite can be said, how can people who are in a relationship or married justify paying SP's to sleep with them.

    Both sides of the question are interesting.
    As long as we are dealing in stereotypes, there is another way of turning the original question on its head. What makes you think an SP would want to marry or go out with a John? After all, he can't get sex the "normal" and so has to pay for it. Alternatively, why would she want to go out with someone for whom sex is just another commodity, that is, something to purchased. Is this type likely to remain faithful?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rexroth
    As long as we are dealing in stereotypes, there is another way of turning the original question on its head. What makes you think an SP would want to marry or go out with a John? After all, he can't get sex the "normal" and so has to pay for it. Alternatively, why would she want to go out with someone for whom sex is just another commodity, that is, something to purchased. Is this type likely to remain faithful?
    O.K.what about a male escort in the same situation how many women would accept a relationship?

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