Ask us anything part 3
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That's so true. I only take selfies for my work socials but I rarely do it in my personal life. Filters are also very upsetting.. however I think self portraits can be used in a positive and healing way.
Do you set personal/professional boundaries like no professional email/checking during certain periods? Like with a defined schedule or when you are spending personal time?
I tell myself that I don't look at my phone between midnight and noon, but I don't always respect that rule.
I'm a workaholic at my other job, so rarely do I even think to take my phone out while there, so messages can go unanswered from 8am-4pm on the days I am there, unless I am takeing a bathroom break or it is a slow enough day at work I have a moment to check. My boss knows I have my own business, and doesn't actually restrict my phone use, I just don't think of it.
I don't answer while I am sleeping at night, but most days start responding back as soon as I wake up.
When I am camping or off for the week I am unavailable, I can forget to check my phone for hours as well.
I check emails when I remember, like once a day, or a few days can pass before I think to check.
When I am in the company of others I don't tend to check my phone either. Only once I get back to my vehicle after the visit.
As for other social media, I give it like 10 minutes a week if I remember to check it that week.
Text really is the only way I am likely to respond regularly and quickly, when I get around to it.
Yes. I have 3 cats, couldn't tell you the breed, as far as I am concerned they are cats, and that's all the breed I care to pay attention to. 1 black one, and 2 with stripes that look the same as many other striped cats. My striped ones were born under my roof from previous cats owned.
Though I am more of a dog lover, cats are easier, they care for themselves. Dogs need a lot more attention than I have to give to an animal. I can barely keep up with myself and kids.
Have any of you read or listened to audiobooks of the diaries of women who were famous in their lifetime? I've been learning about the diaries of Marilyn Monroe and Princess Daisy of Pless. They both were famous and had money but to some extent felt depressed due to being admired rather than loved during their lives. The diaries of women who were famous in part for their appearance and in part for who they dated are really fascinating. The difference between admiration and love makes me think of this industry as well as how with the modern social media landscape plenty of civilian women I know in real life have a public account where they post things.
People in general tend to live more publicly now than in the time of Marilyn Monroe and Princess Daisy. In life we judge ourselves by our intentions but typically we never know who some people (for example celebrities) due to the levels of obfuscation inherent when it comes to people who have a reputation to keep. The sword of Damocles in a sense hung over the head of those famous women as simply existing was definitely a significant effort. I would have definitely felt anxiety about so many things if I were them.
Also I oversimplified both of their diaries. Both have positive lighthearted times though I would say Princess Daisy's diary is the most lighthearted though still at times sad. I would say neither is sad enough to be difficult to get into.
People in general tend to live more publicly now than in the time of Marilyn Monroe and Princess Daisy. In life we judge ourselves by our intentions but typically we never know who some people (for example celebrities) due to the levels of obfuscation inherent when it comes to people who have a reputation to keep. The sword of Damocles in a sense hung over the head of those famous women as simply existing was definitely a significant effort. I would have definitely felt anxiety about so many things if I were them.
Also I oversimplified both of their diaries. Both have positive lighthearted times though I would say Princess Daisy's diary is the most lighthearted though still at times sad. I would say neither is sad enough to be difficult to get into.
I would definately need to have met them beforehand. And even then the liklihood is slim for an all nighter. I sleep at night. So they may enjoy more an all day, than all night.
I probably should, but I don't.
I don't often get requests for overnights and sometimes I get last minute inquiries for them.. I only accepted 2 overnights before, one was with a client I knew very well and one was with a client I talked to extensively who stayed in Montreal just for one weekend. For me to feel comfortable doing an overnight I need to know the client beforehand.. I need to know he's going to make the experience worthwhile for me and that I'll be safe. I like long bookings, but I like sleeping at home lol.. I also need to know I'll be able to sleep.
I have a few times and didn’t find it weird because we always start with dinner. This gives us time to warm up to each other.
A few times I’ve had dinner dates and the man wished I could have stayed the night…unfortunately I cannot accommodate last minute overnight requests
I also wonder how many people just carry that much extra cash on them at a dinner date.
They don't have to carry the money on them, just to have it with them in the room, in the safe or else, where we return together after dinner. Overnights are always outcall for me so extending is not hard to accommodate (if my schedule permits).
I just mean if they are asking for an overnight without advanced notice it seems weird that they'd have the money right there with them. It would be better for the client to say "For this dinner date I plan to bring an extra donation of $______. What is the level of flexibility on extending the dinner date to being an overnight?"
I imagine the only reason for having the extra cash was because they already had an interest in an overnight.
It makes sense if it starts with a dinner date for sure. This is just my personal preference but I feel like I need to have seen a client a couple times in order to accept a request like that. I know more experienced providers may feel differently.
A lot of people request that an overnight starts with a dinner date or at least a meal. I made the mistake of not requesting that the first time and spent a whole evening and night in a tiny motel room without food.. It was my mistake because I didn't try to make sure I would be comfortable with the client in that setting, it was my first overnight. It was his first as well so I don't think he knew the etiquette..
Lena talked about extending after or during the dinner date which is a spontaneous decision because the chemistry is so good, not something planned and shared with us. But we read a lot of clients here talking about their weekend or week in Montreal listing their line-up of 10 girls they planned to see; not that unusual that they would carry a lot of money.
