Boundaries
First, a little background. I grew up in an environment where I didn't develop healthy boundaries. Today, I realize that I need to develop them in order to have more fulfilling relationships, and I'm actively working on myself to do so.
It took me a few days, but I read all the "Ask us anything" threads (yes, I'm very curious by nature and I have a lot of free time). I'd first like to congratulate all those who generously answered the questions. I noticed on a few occasions that some of you responded firmly and with impressive tact to inappropriate questions. These answers, while not being mean or aggressive toward the author, were nonetheless clear about the boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.
So my question is how did you develop this ability to express your boundaries with such class? I'd appreciate any advice that could potentially help me on my journey.
A natural talent? Work on yourself with reading or professionals? Out of obligation because there are too many morons? (If it's following traumatic experiences, I'm sorry it happened to you, my intention is not to make you relive them / move on to the next question.)
I'm not sure about others, but my diplomatic skills became fine tuned while playing pvp games. When part of the game is attacking other players, you can easily end up with a troll who ruins the game for you if you respond in a negative way.
I learnt to be diplomatic in games to not infuriate trolls to ruin the games for myself. When you can appease the trolls, you have an ally others don't want to mess with. I became my peaceful guilds PR rep to deal with adversary guilds.