The jokes almost write themselves for this comment in this context, but I find myself in too gentlemanly a mood to pursue them.
Ask us anything part 3
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No....
I feel like people tend to forget this is a business for indies. This stuff is marketing.
Don't know if it's been asked before but always wondered whether SPs usually take notes on their clients after a session (written, mental, or otherwise); for example, hygiene, preferences, respectfulness, overall experience, and so on.
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I think it's so funny that independent workers are taking the time to answer these questions yet more than half of them do not concern us
Because "is there even time" is implying we're seeing client after client..
I do take notes..
Yeah, I stand corrected. As an Indy, you have full control over your schedule and how many clients you choose to see in a week. I was also thinking in general about higher volume agencies and MPs which doesn't necessarily apply in this thread. Peace.
I doubt anybody who works for these establishments are allowed to even post here without repercussions tbh..
I used to work for MP. I did have a notebook. I remember specific clients from that era who let's just say misbehaved and contacted me later, thinking I wouldn't remember what happened.
Also, I hate to say this, but whether or not we take notes physically we take notes mentally no matter how high the volume...
Absolutely I do. It also makes the difference on if there will be another visit or not.
When someone I've seen before reaches out from a new number and they refuse to give me identifiers to be able to link them with a previous visit, I will avoid seeing them again, because if they don't want me to remember who they are, then it means they've done something they are trying to hide from.
I already look for any excuse not to go see someone I haven't already met. So if I've met them before, it only works to their benifit with meeting them again, and happily so. I don't play games with people making me uncomfortable. Coming across as they know some kind of secorite, hiding who they are only leads to never gonna happen again.
I name them memory code words that kind of unlock the memory in my mind of who they are, and how I felt about them, if they were someone I was hoping to hear back from aswell.
Treat those you enjoy well. It might be the first and last time you see them if you don't.
I often write little notes about what happened to jog my memory if need.
For example I have one that says "absolute comedy of errors involving a strip mall and the strap-on", but that's a story for another time
For example I have one that says "absolute comedy of errors involving a strip mall and the strap-on", but that's a story for another time
#1 Anal? Was that a best of Montreal 2025 poll question I missed?
I'm sure some would. I wouldn't mind in theory but in practice there are children using the ferris wheel... It's not really the place.
I think if you attempt it, you go late night and maybe even in winter, when there are likely less people and get the high end private vip gondola. Although that cabin has a glass floor. There is actually a video of two people having sex on the Montreal ferris wheel if you do a google search.
There is a case of a couple being arrested though for ferris wheel sex in Ohio, so be careful and proceed with caution.
The fact that there's a video of it should make anybody cautious.. honestly with all the new privacy concerns, meta glasses etc. I don't think it's a good idea to have sex where you could potentially be seen by anybody even if there's only a small possibility.
A lot of these fantasies are cute but they are things I'd rather do with a partner I really trust and not a client...
I saw this video a while ago. I had the same thoughts when I saw it... I can't get past the idea that someone's child will be sitting in the same cabin later on. I wouldn't want a child to sit on one of cinéma l'amour old chairs (even if it was auctioned off and wasn't inside the cinema) the same way I don't want to leave bodily fluids in a cabin that a child will be sitting in.
I literally had that thought yesterday and was thinking to ask here:
Because of your experience as an SP, you have learnt lot of skills, techniques. Meaning that in your personal relationship the person could benefit of all of that.
But will it be something that you'll re-use? Or is it like something that actually is "required" for work but not, maybe, enjoyable for yourself?
A lot of the skills I've learned as a SP were relational and business skills than anything else. But the relational skills helped me understand human psychology a lot. There are things I used to tolerate in my personal life that I don't anymore and probably never will again. I know this isn't the answer anybody wants to hear.
Of course I've had practice with certain things but I think my skills were good to begin with because I'm an intuitive lover. However I realized that really often in my past experiences in my civ life, it felt like "work" to have sex. It's not necessarily a bad thing because I like to please, but in a lot of situations I became submissive by default, or I just did what the person wanted me to, or what I thought they wanted.
Exploring my dominant side as a sex worker has been really healing and positive for me. Learning BDSM techniques and concepts. Being more assertive and learning to say no have been extremely important in my journey.
2 of the people I dated while being an escort never made me feel like I was working because we had so much romantic chemistry and there was an inherent trust in how we approached each other physically. The contrast was mind blowing to me and it made me realize that it's a dynamic and a story between 2 people that expresses itself physically, that I enjoy, rather than specific acts. I've always known this but I struggled to put it into words and I didn't have all of the tools I have now to explore complex romantic/sexual dynamics with somebody. Now I do.
I know this sounds very abstract but I think a few people may understand this.
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