Ask us anything part 3

[lovethaifood]

I'm sure some would. I wouldn't mind in theory but in practice there are children using the ferris wheel... It's not really the place.

I think if you attempt it, you go late night and maybe even in winter, when there are likely less people and get the high end private vip gondola. Although that cabin has a glass floor. There is actually a video of two people having sex on the Montreal ferris wheel if you do a google search.

There is a case of a couple being arrested though for ferris wheel sex in Ohio, so be careful and proceed with caution.

 

[S.S neo]

And be even more careful in Le Monstre or le Bateau Pirate

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I think if you attempt it, you go late night and maybe even in winter, when there are likely less people and get the high end private vip gondola. Although that cabin has a glass floor. There is actually a video of two people having sex on the Montreal ferris wheel if you do a google search.

There is a case of a couple being arrested though for ferris wheel sex in Ohio, so be careful and proceed with caution.

The fact that there's a video of it should make anybody cautious.. honestly with all the new privacy concerns, meta glasses etc. I don't think it's a good idea to have sex where you could potentially be seen by anybody even if there's only a small possibility.

A lot of these fantasies are cute but they are things I'd rather do with a partner I really trust and not a client...

 

[Julia Sky]

I think if you attempt it, you go late night and maybe even in winter, when there are likely less people and get the high end private vip gondola. Although that cabin has a glass floor. There is actually a video of two people having sex on the Montreal ferris wheel if you do a google search.

There is a case of a couple being arrested though for ferris wheel sex in Ohio, so be careful and proceed with caution.

I saw this video a while ago. I had the same thoughts when I saw it... I can't get past the idea that someone's child will be sitting in the same cabin later on. I wouldn't want a child to sit on one of cinéma l'amour old chairs (even if it was auctioned off and wasn't inside the cinema) the same way I don't want to leave bodily fluids in a cabin that a child will be sitting in.

 

[LeDodo]

Same! My next "partner" may benefit from these acquired skills lol

I literally had that thought yesterday and was thinking to ask here:
Because of your experience as an SP, you have learnt lot of skills, techniques. Meaning that in your personal relationship the person could benefit of all of that.

But will it be something that you'll re-use? Or is it like something that actually is "required" for work but not, maybe, enjoyable for yourself?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I literally had that thought yesterday and was thinking to ask here:
Because of your experience as an SP, you have learnt lot of skills, techniques. Meaning that in your personal relationship the person could benefit of all of that.

But will it be something that you'll re-use? Or is it like something that actually is "required" for work but not, maybe, enjoyable for yourself?

A lot of the skills I've learned as a SP were relational and business skills than anything else. But the relational skills helped me understand human psychology a lot. There are things I used to tolerate in my personal life that I don't anymore and probably never will again. I know this isn't the answer anybody wants to hear.

Of course I've had practice with certain things but I think my skills were good to begin with because I'm an intuitive lover. However I realized that really often in my past experiences in my civ life, it felt like "work" to have sex. It's not necessarily a bad thing because I like to please, but in a lot of situations I became submissive by default, or I just did what the person wanted me to, or what I thought they wanted.

Exploring my dominant side as a sex worker has been really healing and positive for me. Learning BDSM techniques and concepts. Being more assertive and learning to say no have been extremely important in my journey.

2 of the people I dated while being an escort never made me feel like I was working because we had so much romantic chemistry and there was an inherent trust in how we approached each other physically. The contrast was mind blowing to me and it made me realize that it's a dynamic and a story between 2 people that expresses itself physically, that I enjoy, rather than specific acts. I've always known this but I struggled to put it into words and I didn't have all of the tools I have now to explore complex romantic/sexual dynamics with somebody. Now I do.

I know this sounds very abstract but I think a few people may understand this.

 

[LeDodo]

A lot of the skills I've learned as a SP were relational and business skills than anything else. But the relational skills helped me understand human psychology a lot. There are things I used to tolerate in my personal life that I don't anymore and probably never will again. I know this isn't the answer anybody wants to hear.

Of course I've had practice with certain things but I think my skills were good to begin with because I'm an intuitive lover. However I realized that really often in my past experiences in my civ life, it felt like "work" to have sex. It's not necessarily a bad thing because I like to please, but in a lot of situations I became submissive by default, or I just did what the person wanted me to, or what I thought they wanted.

Exploring my dominant side as a sex worker has been really healing and positive for me. Learning BDSM techniques and concepts. Being more assertive and learning to say no have been extremely important in my journey.

2 of the people I dated while being an escort never made me feel like I was working because we had so much romantic chemistry and there was an inherent trust in how we approached each other physically. The contrast was mind blowing to me and it made me realize that it's a dynamic and a story between 2 people that expresses itself physically, that I enjoy, rather than specific acts. I've always known this but I struggled to put it into words and I didn't have all of the tools I have now to explore complex romantic/sexual dynamics with somebody. Now I do.

I know this sounds very abstract but I think a few people may understand this.

It is clear

I had that thought because clients tend to idealize the acts during intimacy after frequenting escorts. Obviously it will be a sharp contrast (or let down) with civvie life because it's still 2 individual interacting and not a service provided.

I was curious about the mindset from a SP perspective as she might just become a regular individual and not applying the SP "rundown".

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It is clear

I had that thought because clients tend to idealize the acts during intimacy after frequenting escorts. Obviously it will be a sharp contrast (or let down) with civvie life because it's still 2 individual interacting and not a service provided.

I was curious about the mindset from a SP perspective as she might just become a regular individual and not applying the SP "rundown".

I think it's unfortunate that a lot of people are so focused on specific acts rather than going with the flow and exploring what might happen. Obviously, clients are paying for a specific type of experience, and I understand that. However I don't know if our role as SP is to be acronym dispensers.

Intimacy isn't always linear "in real life". Just being naked with someone and cuddling while watching a movie and drinking wine can feel really intimate, even if there are only a few moments that are more sexual.

But this vibe isn't easily replicated with someone who is your client.. particularly when there's a pressure for the booking to happen a certain way.

 

[LeDodo]

But this vibe isn't easily replicated with someone who is your client.. particularly when there's a pressure for the booking to happen a certain way.

And within a very short timeframe...

 

[Lunaseraphim]

And within a very short timeframe...

I think it's complicated. You can't manufacture that energy between two people even if you get along very well. That's why I always smile a bit when clients talk about chemistry in reviews.

I'm not saying chemistry doesn't ever exist between clients and providers. I also think some people really mesh well and some don't. But I think that some clients confuse getting along with a provider + getting the service they wanted with genuine chemistry.

 

[DouMan]

A lot of the skills I've learned as a SP were relational and business skills than anything else. But the relational skills helped me understand human psychology a lot. There are things I used to tolerate in my personal life that I don't anymore and probably never will again. I know this isn't the answer anybody wants to hear.

Of course I've had practice with certain things but I think my skills were good to begin with because I'm an intuitive lover. However I realized that really often in my past experiences in my civ life, it felt like "work" to have sex. It's not necessarily a bad thing because I like to please, but in a lot of situations I became submissive by default, or I just did what the person wanted me to, or what I thought they wanted.

Exploring my dominant side as a sex worker has been really healing and positive for me. Learning BDSM techniques and concepts. Being more assertive and learning to say no have been extremely important in my journey.

2 of the people I dated while being an escort never made me feel like I was working because we had so much romantic chemistry and there was an inherent trust in how we approached each other physically. The contrast was mind blowing to me and it made me realize that it's a dynamic and a story between 2 people that expresses itself physically, that I enjoy, rather than specific acts. I've always known this but I struggled to put it into words and I didn't have all of the tools I have now to explore complex romantic/sexual dynamics with somebody. Now I do.

I know this sounds very abstract but I think a few people may understand this.

Your words are far from being abstract, all the opposite.
They are extremely wise and even touching.
Your post could easily be a "sticky" for many of us.
Je vous lève mon chapeau @Lunaseraphim

 

[johnryan]

Is it okay to shower solo? Do all showers have fresh bars of soaps?

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

Is it okay to shower solo? Do all showers have fresh bars of soaps?

Most provider and agencies supply liquid soap, often in â distrubutor

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Your words are far from being abstract, all the opposite.
They are extremely wise and even touching.
Your post could easily be a "sticky" for many of us.
Je vous lève mon chapeau @Lunaseraphim

Merci

 

[Skym]

To the SPs, are you familiar with the term "girl dinner"? And if yes, do you do girl dinners often?

 

[Giselle Montreal]

He bien, l'algorithme d'instagram m'a suggéré hier comme amie le vrai profil de de l'indépendante que je vois régulièrement. J'ai reconnu immédiatement sa photo et je connais sont vrai nom. Ca me fait chier car ça brise un peu la fantaisie. Pour les indépendantes soyez prudentes avec vos réseaux sociaux, les algorithmes d'IA sont de plus en plus puissants.

Ça brise la fantaisie de réaliser qu'elle a une vie en dehors de ce monde?

 

[LeDodo]

Ça brise la fantaisie de réaliser qu'elle a une vie en dehors de ce monde?

Quand ça m'arrive je me sens plutot mal à l'aise de connaitre son identité.

Malheureusement même en prenant pleins de précautions ça peut arriver. Des fois ça peut juste arriver quand elle te montre ses pages perso de réseaux sociaux.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Je croyais avoir lu qu'il connaissait déjà son vrai nom mais je comprends qu'il voulait dire qu'il connait "dorénavant" son nom.

Un avertissement de faire attention est un peu vain, par contre. Tout le monde devrait être soucieux de ce qu'il montre sur les médias sociaux, mais en réalité personne ne le fait.

 

[dominou]

Oui c'est ca Giselle, j'ai découvert son nom hier soir seulement.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Oui c'est ca Giselle, j'ai découvert son nom hier soir seulement.

Ça peut arriver, on ne vit pas dans un monde fermé, mais plutôt très ouvert aujourd'hui. Le mieux est de ne pas en parler, à elle ou à d'autres et de passer à autre chose.