Am I the only one not feeling much with a condom?

[FlyBob]

Greetings,

I'd like to know what is your experience with a condom...I didnt have many relations yet but I realy dont feel much with one even if the girl is very tight.

It even makes Mr. Happy not so happy after a while...what could make it more enjoyable, other than stop using one!

Cheers!

 

[CantSeeMrHappy]

Pelvic Muscles

I've noticed similar.

I'd try putting a drop of lube on your tip, before putting on the raincoat.
Once on, make sure end is well lubed inside.

Now enjoy the pelvic muscle action...most likely you are too "dry".

Another reason to do this, when going to a full-contact strip club. Tons more enjoyable when she rubs you.

Of course I tell the dancer that beforehand and tip accordingly

 

[naughtylady]

Safer sex versus the risks of no condom... seems like a no brainer.

That said, yours is a common problem. I have even met penises who are condom shy, that is to say go soft before we can put the diving suit on.


Here are my sugestions (in no particular order):

1) Be sure you use a condom for ALL sexual practices for a while... including MASTURBATION. (This will train Mr. Happy to looking forward to having a party hat put on as he wont get any sexual release with out one. Adhere to this faithfully and he will learn quickly.)

2) Make sure the condoms your are using are the thinnest most sensitive available in your size. Too big or too tight wont feel right!

3) Put a drop of lube in the tip of the condom. Not too much or else you risk it slipping off thus defeating the purpose of protection. This will increase the ammount of heat transfer between you and your partner.


Hope these suggestions help!

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

 

[Just-ass-weet]

3) Put a drop of lube in the tip of the condom. Not too much or else you risk it slipping off thus defeating the purpose of protection. This will increase the ammount of heat transfer between you and your partner.

I will add to this and say, use the new warming lube..

Try to find a lady who is skilled with putting a condom on with her mouth, or has other, more playful methods of putting on the condom

For proper fitting condoms go to http://www.condomania.com/theyfit.asp?dept=93&number=C-TFC-12

xoxox
Anik

 

[EagerBeaver]

You can talk about heat transfer, lubes, condom placement technique, etc., all you want, the bottom line is that for a guy, oral or vaginal sex feels better without a condom. A condom is a necessary evil for vaginal sex, unless it's with your girlfriend and you both have been tested and she is taking the pill. I basically can't deal with a CBJ any more. Unless a woman is totally hot, a CBJ will not do anything for me.

 

[FlyBob]

wow...thanks for the tips! It's nice to get replies from girls

"I have even met penises who are condom shy, that is to say go soft before we can put the diving suit on."

This might be the case...I noticed this on all occasions!

will have to buy myself some condoms by the big pack....at Costco

Nice to know im not the only one...will try and report back in a few days.

Cheers!

 

[naughtylady]

Eager>> this may be true but sometimes a BJ just isn't what the moment calls for. There are times when a good f@ck is just what the doctor ordered

...and in some cases Mr. Happy needs to be reminded who gets to make the final decision.

Anik>> warming lube... thanks for the tip

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

 

[FlyBob]

I will add to this and say, use the new warming lube..

Try to find a lady who is skilled with putting a condom on with her mouth, or has other, more playful methods of putting on the condom

Now THAT's a great idea thanks!

Cheers!

 

[zigezon]

There are "plastic" (plastis is the crude word) condom with transfers heat better than latex condoms and are still FDA approved. Google is your friend.

 

[naughtylady]

There are "plastic" (plastis is the crude word) condom with transfers heat better than latex condoms and are still FDA approved. Google is your friend.

You have 2 choices for non-latex condoms:
Durex Avanti Polyurethane Condoms
Trojan Supra Condoms

Just remember that polyurethane is less streachy than latex so leave a little extra at the tip.

Personally I have only seen the Durex brand ones in Montreal.

Ronnie,
Naughtylady

 

[HarmonyNYC]

I have noticed that the more excited you are the more "feeling" you will have when having vaginal intercourse with a condom.

The more excited the more sexual sensation, the more excited the more likely you will have heightened sexual sensation that will lead to orgasm.

Say you make an appointment with an outcall escort and when she arrives you open the door and a super hot chick walks in the room. Your body reacts and says WOW! Have you ever gotten a hard-on when meeting a girl you knew you would be fucking. This does not happen very often but it illustrates my point. It does not have to be that extreme but if you are very excited you will feel the sexual sensations you need.

The opposite of this effect is when someone is nervous of uninspired. In such cases sex with a condom will very likely be unfulfilling.

Now when it comes to what should be a more common situation of partaking in a sexual encounter with a fairly attractive (or better) girl in a comfortable situation... in such situations I have found things can go either way.

But I have also found that if I can get past the initial frustration, disappointment or lack of sexual inspiration things change. I am saying that the more you fuck, the more you will start to feel something. This can be a task for some because you have to keep going and not give up. Do what ever it takes to not loose that sexual arousal. Do what ever it takes to get or be turned on. Maintain this past the first few moments or even minutes and things will change. You will start to feel things that at the beginning you did not. Keep fucking. Easy for me to say! What I do is pretend that I am about to have sex with-out a condom. This gets me a little more excited because it is taboo and and I know how great it feels. Once inside with the condom on a hold onto that excitement and keep fucking. Keep fucking and it gets better.

Larger condoms and lube at the tip have helped also.

p.s. If anyone knows about this please add what you know.

I was once with a very plain if not ugly younger milf who used a "shared sensation" condom that felt like no condom. I am not sure but I think it was a Trojan "shared sensation" condom. Once I arrived and could see the girl was below my standard I tried leaving and only stayed because a super discount was granted. So understand I was not at a heightened sexual excitement but yet I was feeling everything right away and I could have cum 5 minutes into the session. We had sex for almost 30 to 40 minutes, the condom was fully intact from start to finish. In the middle of the sex I said to myself that after we finished I needed to keep the condom wrapper so I could remember to get my own. I forgot and the incall place closed down a week after this session.

So if anyone has had vaginal intercourse with a Trojan "shared sensation" condom (or other "shared sensation" condom) please let us know what your feelings are on this condom.

 

[FlyBob]

Nice read...thanks again.

The opposite of this effect is when someone is nervous of uninspired. In such cases sex with a condom will very likely be unfulfilling.

This is my case since I only had a very few sex sessions
I did notice that after the 3rd session things improved quite nicely.

I got a pack of Durex Sensi-Thin:
-Approximately 20% thinner than standard condoms.
-Fitted shape for easy-on and great feel.
-Low latex scent.

Will try those for now and will look for some lube to put inside the condoms.

Cheers!

 

[HarmonyNYC]

RE: A prescription drug like Cialis can also help ????????

A prescription drug like Cialis can also help.

reply to curious:

Are you saying "A prescription drug like Cialis" can help with the sensation problem?

Or are you saying what we already know... that "A prescription drug like Cialis" can help with keeping the erection (thus help the situation via my earlier statement a few post's above)?

 

[picasso]

As you get older, you lose sensitivity. The best advice is to use the Avanti condom with water-based lubrication and abstain from sex for several days before the session. If you have not seen the SP before and are not really that attracted to her, that will also cause a lack of sensitivity. A prescription drug like Cialis can also help.

If you're not attracted to the sp, no drug, neither Cialis nor Viagra will help. Those drugs only work with stimulation.

 

[FlyBob]

I dont think cialis or others similar will do me any good...there are a lot of factors that makes Mr. Happy sleepy, we discussed a few here:

-nervousness
-being tired
-not being attracted to the SP or her being too passive

Btw, why is it that in the morning my Johnson wakes me up and can be as hard as a rock for a very long time? Should I start seeing SP's in the morning?

Cheers!

 

[FlyBob]

As you get older, you lose sensitivity. The best advice is to use the Avanti condom with water-based lubrication and abstain from sex for several days before the session

Does this include taking matter into my own hands? I just cant be a single day without arousing myself
Well, in-between sex wont be much of a problem, not having a GF...yet (very soon).

Cheers!

 

[HarmonyNYC]

Of the three drugs to assist erection, Viagra, Levitra, Cialis, seems to be the only one that increases sensitivity. But if you think the problem is the condom itself, than you need to use a thinner condom. Avanti is the best of these for sensitivity.

curious:

you still are unclear...

but I guess you are saying Cialis also effects sensitivity?!?!?!?!?!?

Please confirm what you are saying.

 

[FlyBob]

Yes, because the theory is that the longer you go without ejaculating, the more easily you will be aroused when the proper time comes.

Thing is...if I dont go for days I will end up blowing my load very very fast!

Cheers!

 

[MakeIt]

Avantis

I did try the Avantis and they did break on my first try. I can't say I felt anything much more than a regular condom (until it broke and even then I didn't realize it). Size wise its still pretty tight IMO. I also find they have this plasticy feel to them, kind of like using saran wrap for a condom.

 

[naughtylady]

I did warn you that they are less streachy than latex condoms... could have been too small to begin with, or could have been not enough lube (too much friction), or not enough room at the tip. These are the most common reasons for condom failure.

In about 50% of the cases of a broken condon, peeing immediately, then washing with (an antibacterial is even better) soap very thoroughly for 5 minutes can prevent infection. The other 50% will need medical treatment. Far from fool proof but better than nothing.

Ronnie,
Naughtylady