Ask us anything part 2

[Mefy]

1. No, because looks isn't what makes someone ugly to me. A bad personality is what makes someone ugly.
Someone who I have to question their cleanliness, where I have suspicion for my health safety is someone to deny time with. But that Isn't a reflection on looks.

2. Men are under the impression dick size matters.
To actually satisfy me personally.. takes foreplay that happens before penetration even happens... f*cking isn't where the fun is. That is where it ends. It is where most guys lack the understanding that their pecker isn't the beginning and end all of things.
Giving head and f*cking is for his pleasure not hers.
If your worried about actually satisfying a woman, it is in the romance before, the attention to her body, and the cuddling after. Your dick size has little to do with it.
Actually a guy with a smaller dick often has the right idea on what it takes to satisfy a woman, by not thinking what he is packing is what is needed to get the job done, but what he does that will satisfy a woman.

AGREED 100%

I've talked to many SP about that subject and many of them refuse ugly men or they block them in the future. They said they can't even do a proper BBBJ or kissing...

And for the size, 99% of SP told me that the size doesn't matter.

Foreplay is what I like the most!
Satisfying a woman is my priority!

 

[Mefy]

@Rebaynia
@LC18

I am a 1 sog guy. I really like foreplay/talking before SOG.

How long foreplay should last in a 60 minutes session?

 

[Rebaynia]

@Rebaynia

I am a 1 sog guy. I really like foreplay/talking before SOG.

How long foreplay should last in a 60 minutes session?

I don't lay out visits in that way. As far as I'm concerned a good visit plays itself out naturally. To plan out timelines and details of what happens make it calculated and takes the spontaneity and fun out of the visit. Besides the goal in the end of the visit is his satisfaction not my own, it often takes a lot of time for myself. I am happier with knowing the time is appreciated and meaningful in more ways than just carnal pleasures granted. The question more is how long do you last. Knowing that makes the difference on how much time can be spent on foreplay.

 

[Nachoy]

My master may do whatever he wants, wherever he wants, however he wants. But that is part of the trust I have in him. His love for me also means he is more likely to take better care of me then I would myself.

While when I am working, there are restrictions for safety, and anal is not available, mental health reasons. Neither is the total submission I have for him. If someone trys to force submission, when they don't have permission for it, they will find themselves corrected.

In the heterosexual BMSD community.
what percent are
men sub/dom?
women sub/dom

Do sub/dom like to switch ?

 

[Rebaynia]

In the heterosexual BMSD community.
what percent are
men sub/dom?
women sub/dom

Do sub/dom like to switch ?

I don't know about percentages. I do know there tends to be a lot of sub men. But there can be just as many sub women. I think there are more subs than doms for both sexs. And most see it as a bedroom thing and like to switch. Often it is just a desire to kink it up.

I can't speak for others as everyone is different. I will admit even though I am a sub, I get asked by more men if I can dom them than sub them. A few just asking to be beat, which I am not comfortable with.

As for switch personally depending on the persons personality, I take 1 or the other role, but if I dominate someone, I can't sub to them after. I can't play with the power dynamic in that way. The moment I sense someone as more submissive than myself, then the roles are set, and they become toys to play with how I see fit. Or if at some point I see a dom who is more submissive than myself, they won't be able to dom with me. My carnal inside will refuse to let them and fight back if they try to reverse the roles.

In my previous dating life, I would look for a dom, but often overpowered them. In many cases the dom would ask me to dominate them, once they saw the side that came out when I would refuse to submit, if I didn't like how they tried to dominate. Often once I dominated them I lost interest in them as a potential partner, and didn't want to play with them any longer.

At least for work I have come to embrace and enjoy submissive men as well, seeing as they become toys to play with as opposed to seeing them as failed potential partners.

While there are people who enjoy going back and forth on who is dom and who is sub. For them it is roleplay and a game. For me role-play isn't a thing. I either am, or I am not. It isn't something that I can fake. I don't play pretend well. It just makes me uncomfortable to play pretend.

 

[Julia Sky]

1- Is there someone too ugly or unattractive that you wouldn't sleep with them, no matter how much they paid you? (Assume they had a great personality, as well)

2- What's the minimum dick size needed to fully satisfy a girl? As in, ACTUALLY satisfy her.

1. No. Hygiene, on the other hand, is definitely a factor. But beauty is not. If anything, having sex with an ugly guy turns me on because I feel sexier, in a way. hahaha. Also like... Someone who is ugly can become more beautiful once you get to know them. Personality plays a role imho

2. I'm going to need everyone to let go of the idea that dick size is the end all be all of good sex. I've had great partners and terrible partners on both ends of the dick size spectrum. Also, like... Not every woman is the same. There's not a single answer that would apply to all of us. That's like asking "what size of boobs do men ACTUALLY like ?" - people are not a monolith !

 

[Mefy]

1. No. Hygiene, on the other hand, is definitely a factor. But beauty is not. If anything, having sex with an ugly guy turns me on because I feel sexier, in a way. hahaha. Also like... Someone who is ugly can become more beautiful once you get to know them. Personality plays a role imho

2. I'm going to need everyone to let go of the idea that dick size is the end all be all of good sex. I've had great partners and terrible partners on both ends of the dick size spectrum. Also, like... Not every woman is the same. There's not a single answer that would apply to all of us. That's like asking "what size of boobs do men ACTUALLY like ?" - people are not a monolith !

You feel sexier!!! Hahaha! REALLLYY!?
You made me laugh!

I really think size doesn’t matter!
Foreplay is better!

 

[Mefy]

Do you guys REALLY enjoy SEX with a client?
It is a job!
Be honest OK?

 

[Julia Sky]

Do you guys REALLY enjoy SEX with a client?
It is a job!
Be honest OK?

Depends on the client honestly, just like in the real world, sometimes it's great and sometimes it's meh

 

[Rebaynia]

Do you guys REALLY enjoy SEX with a client?
It is a job!
Be honest OK?

I enjoy having different expieriences. Sex is part of that. I enjoy it when he is visibly and/or audibly into it. If he is quiet and looks bored (enjoying it to himself but I can't tell) I am bored. That to me is the male equivelent of a dead lay.
If you want me into it. Show me your into it too.there is no fun in it if there is no feedback.

 

[LC18]

1- Is there someone too ugly or unattractive that you wouldn't sleep with them, no matter how much they paid you? (Assume they had a great personality, as well)

2- What's the minimum dick size needed to fully satisfy a girl? As in, ACTUALLY satisfy her.

Is there someone too ugly or unattractive that you wouldn’t sleep with them no matter how much they paid you?

Someone cocky becomes unattractive to me. You could be a sweetheart but if you think you’re too good looking and if you dare saying “I’m actually good looking and don’t need to be doing that” “i’m really good in bed, you should be paying me”, I won’t want to see you no matter how much you offer.

What’s the minimum dick size needed to fully satisfy a girl?

I’m not the official spokesperson for the billions of women on this planet. Everyone’s different, some of my friends are size queen (they only have sex with large dicks), some are afraid of anything above average, some don’t even like penetration (yes they’re hetero). But in all honesty, it’s 2023 almost 2024 please stop believing there’s an actual miracle size that will have all the women on their knees. There’s no such thing.

 

[LC18]

How long foreplay should last in a 60 minutes session?

Until you feel like it’s the right moment to move on to the next step. Can’t answer this sorry.

 

[Nachoy]

Until you feel like it’s the right moment to move on to the next step. Can’t answer this sorry.

I think when the SP prompts
“Are you ready for the condon?”
“I am ready for you”
Are clues that there is enough fore play time

 

[Nachoy]

What ways can you make me feel like the sex is not “transactional sex”. Or is that impossible?

 

[Rebaynia]

What ways can you make me feel like the sex is not “transactional sex”. Or is that impossible?

I can't explain how exactly.
Best way I guess, is what you take out of the equasion. If you make it all about paying for the sex you want, and remind me, or try to guide a narative, it makes me feel like it is transactional sex.
If chemistry is left to guide the visit, and things happen naturally along it's own way, With only favorited pointers given before i arrive as an idea of what to fit in the time, without the need to reiterate what your looking for.
Maybe if you keep it in your mind it's transactional while on your visit, you will feel it as transactional sex, but making the visit about more than just the desired sex act.. ??? Not sure I know how to explain it. ???
It is easier to just refer to it as gfe. It's an attitude, a personality, the concept that once the payment is made, the idea isn't to just force the person to cum, but that they enjoy the whole vibe happening. It isn't something that can be faked, or forced. It's actually giving a care about the person beyond the financial exchange.
You get what you give to the expierience as well.

I hope that makes sense. As i keep re-reading it, it sounds wistful. But that as well kind of explains it.

 

[Mefy]

I can't explain how exactly.
Best way I guess, is what you take out of the equasion. If you make it all about paying for the sex you want, and remind me, or try to guide a narative, it makes me feel like it is transactional sex.
If chemistry is left to guide the visit, and things happen naturally along it's own way, With only favorited pointers given before i arrive as an idea of what to fit in the time, without the need to reiterate what your looking for.
Maybe if you keep it in your mind it's transactional while on your visit, you will feel it as transactional sex, but making the visit about more than just the desired sex act.. ??? Not sure I know how to explain it. ???
It is easier to just refer to it as gfe. It's an attitude, a personality, the concept that once the payment is made, the idea isn't to just force the person to cum, but that they enjoy the whole vibe happening. It isn't something that can be faked, or forced. It's actually giving a care about the person beyond the financial exchange.
You get what you give to the expierience as well.

I hope that makes sense. As i keep re-reading it, it sounds wistful. But that as well kind of explains it.

Well explained!

 

[Nachoy]

Anyone who was SB, can you explain why SPs who are SBs and rarely escort seem to have condensing attitude to SP who strictly do escorting?

 

[LC18]

Anyone who was SB, can you explain why SPs who are SBs and rarely escort seem to have condensing attitude to SP who strictly do escorting?

Anyone who was SB, can you explain why SPs who are SBs and rarely escort seem to have condensing attitude to SP who strictly do escorting?

Whorearchy. They think they are superior to full time SPs because a lot of sugar babies don’t consider themselves sex workers. Silly in my opinion.

 

[Rebaynia]

Anyone who was SB, can you explain why SPs who are SBs and rarely escort seem to have condensing attitude to SP who strictly do escorting?

Whorearchy. They think they are superior to full time SPs because a lot of sugar babies don’t consider themselves sex workers. Silly in my opinion.

I don't understand the SD, SB thing. I've had a few guys looking for a SB contact me and then say "I don't want you seeing other SD's." Like I'm advertising as an escort, what do they expect? That I am going to stop working and they will hand over thousands per month? Pay all my bills, get me out of debt, and help pay to raise my kids? While I have a bf. I don't get the mindset.
Especially when advertising as an escort, not advertising to even be a SB. And then being insulted when I say I can't dedicate myself to being their SB.

As for johnarchy, I have seen a few who seem disgusted with themselves that they reached a point of paying for sex, as if it makes them disgraceful to have stooped so low. Just because you never have had to before, doesn't mean there is something wrong with it.
Besides there are parts of the world where it seems to be common place to be with SP till you find the girl you intend to marry, to satisfy carnal needs instead of sleeping with everyone they date, and having them demand marriage because you got to bed them. (The mindset of sleep with the SP, and marry a virgin)

 

[blow20102010]

Do you know the real name of your sp colleagues ?