Ask us anything part 3

[Rebaynia]

To fellow SPs, how open are you about your personal life (friends, family, projects, childhood etc) with clients?

I don't have much of a filter. I talk freely for the most part. I can talk about kids as a parent, but I don't like the moment what gender of my kids comes up. I prefer clients see my kids as genderless. We can share our parenting and stuff, it comes up when with dads looking to share about their kids.

Or I will talk about what I do for my other job, but I don't like when they start to narrow it down to what location, or what name is on the front of the building.

I also tend to be protective of information on my friendships and colleagues. I am willing to talk about myself, but I am not willing to talk about them, beyond saying they are lovely people and mean a lot to me.

My relationship and it's dynamic is fine to talk about. It does seem to intrigue others, and is so much a part of who I am. Can't mistake the thick metal collar always present, It is worn like a badge of honor.

 

[ChloeCoeur]

Don't know if this as been asked before (probably considering the number of pages ), but i'll ask anyway: from your experience, ladies, what's the ratio between MERB members and not in your clients?
I understand you don't systematicaly ask the question so i know it will be an approximation.
I'm asking the question cause i often notice that there's a gap between the availability of certain ladies and the number reviews of said ladies here.
Some people always assume that merbites "hide" some ladies by not reviewing their experience, that may be so; but another reason could also be that there's a good number of clients who simply don't come here.
(Of course there are also lurkers )

I try and remember to ask everyone who books me where they found me. Right now I am only posting on Tryst, X, and here. I think the ratio is probably something like 90+% Tryst, <5% from X, <5% merb.

So far, it doesn't actually make much sense economically for me to posting ads here hah, but of the people who have reached out, I find merbites to be more polite and informed than the average client. So here's to hoping more merbites in the future

 

[Doublevie55]

All the experts here. Need your help. I need a good recommendation on a good sex card game which I would like to enjoy with a provider. Kinkier the better.

 

[LeDodo]

When you began as a SP did the learning curve was high in terms of knowledge about STD, safe/less safe/unsafe practices, etc?

Are there any knowledge base? Or it's simply self research? Or friends or SP that you knew?

 

[jeffmathers]

All the experts here. Need your help. I need a good recommendation on a good sex card game which I would like to enjoy with a provider. Kinkier the better.

My advice is to ask the person if they have a favorite or what their boundaries are about sex card games and then base it on that. Any card game can be made into a sex card game (poker, blackjack, etc for example). If you google some of these you might be able to find reviews. Since you have to buy the card game the most economical option might be to buy regular cards and turn a classic game into a sex card game.

Good luck

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[LC18]

All the experts here. Need your help. I need a good recommendation on a good sex card game which I would like to enjoy with a provider. Kinkier the better.

I have one in my incall, let me take a photo

 

[Doublevie55]

I have one in my incall, let me take a photo

That would be really helpful. Thanks

 

[LC18]

 

[Doublevie55]

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Thank you so much

 

[Rebaynia]

When you began as a SP did the learning curve was high in terms of knowledge about STD, safe/less safe/unsafe practices, etc?

Are there any knowledge base? Or it's simply self research? Or friends or SP that you knew?

This time around there was a learning curve to go threw.

When I was 18, and went threw an agency, they just straight up told me what ropes to follow, including don't trust my co-workers, unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there.

This time around i had outdated info from 20 years ago, and started in, diving head first into the deep end, by just straight up creating free ads online, wherever I was allowed. Screening, price, availability, complete proper use of a condom, everything was a learning curve.

 

[jeffmathers]

This time around there was a learning curve to go threw.

When I was 18, and went threw an agency, they just straight up told me what ropes to follow, including don't trust my co-workers, unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there.

This time around i had outdated info from 20 years ago, and started in, diving head first into the deep end, by just straight up creating free ads online, wherever I was allowed. Screening, price, availability, complete proper use of a condom, everything was a learning curve.

"unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there." I don't understand

 

[Lunaseraphim]

When you began as a SP did the learning curve was high in terms of knowledge about STD, safe/less safe/unsafe practices, etc?

Are there any knowledge base? Or it's simply self research? Or friends or SP that you knew?

There was a learning curve about everything. Boundaries, how to talk to clients, marketing, branding, how to treat clients in person, how to deal with difficult situations and conflict, how to accommodate different types of people, etc. I feel like only in the past 6 months my boundaries as a SP have become firmly established and I know where I'm going in this industry or at least where I want to go.

As for STI, safe and less safe practices, it's fairly easy to find that information. Unfortunately most of the services except kissing and penetration with condom (and even with these there are risks) are unsafe.

 

[LeDodo]

"unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there." I don't understand

Maybe something you can ask her in PM

 

[LeDodo]

This time around i had outdated info from 20 years ago, and started in, diving head first into the deep end, by just straight up creating free ads online, wherever I was allowed. Screening, price, availability, complete proper use of a condom, everything was a learning curve.

There was a learning curve about everything. Boundaries, how to talk to clients, marketing, branding, how to treat clients in person, how to deal with difficult situations and conflict, how to accommodate different types of people, etc. I feel like only in the past 6 months my boundaries as a SP have become firmly established and I know where I'm going in this industry or at least where I want to go.

As for STI, safe and less safe practices, it's fairly easy to find that information. Unfortunately most of the services except kissing and penetration with condom (and even with these there are risks) are unsafe.

I see that most of the skills and work before and after can somehow be taught or learn. What looks difficult to learn are the soft skills and the situations to handle which can only be acquired through experience.

 

[Rebaynia]

"unfortunately fell asleep in the car one night and found out why that warning was there." I don't understand

I fell asleep and my colleague robbed my nights earnings.

But was a 1 time thing, and also made good friends out of colleagues as well. Even had a favorite duo partner who became a best friend while I was in the business.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I see that most of the skills and work before and after can somehow be taught or learn. What looks difficult to learn are the soft skills and the situations to handle which can only be acquired through experience.

A lot of people are competitive in this industry and won't want to help, or will feel resentful if they help you and you are more successful than they are. It's unfortunate but it's the truth..

Also it's really hard to teach someone anything because it's so different for everyone. We all get treated differently and have to do our branding and advertising in different ways, some things work for some of us but not for others. It depends on what you look like, your personality, your age, your race, whether you're indy or a MP or agency providers etc.

Escorting is also different depending on where you are. Montreal is very specific for a lot of things.. I've had an American lady tell me I should ask for a donation every time a client wants to make an inquiry lol that's a ridiculous idea here. It also depends on the social climate.. I've heard from many providers that since 2018 and particularly since the pandemic things have gotten more difficult.

I've received valuable tools when I first began and I'm lucky but not everything worked right away. Some advice I've been given backfired, and some of it was too rigid. A lot of things I did were trial and error.. I also didn't have access to all the resources I am lucky to have at the moment like an incall space, a clinic with a nurse who knows what I do and follows me, a professional therapist who knows a bit about the industry etc.

 

[Rebaynia]

I see that most of the skills and work before and after can somehow be taught or learn. What looks difficult to learn are the soft skills and the situations to handle which can only be acquired through experience.

Lol. When I returned back, the bedroom is the 1 place I didn't need to learn. I learned my skill in the bedroom from multiple different long term relationships, periods of juggling multiple ffs, and the curiosity of a kinkster. There, I get to shut the brain off and it's instinct that takes over.
Just tricks and things to make sure the condom has it's best chance of success needed to be learned.

And I have been asked before, and no, Master did not have to train any of it into me lol. For me threw the intimacy, is how I get to know someone best. How you are in the bedroom with someone says everything about you.

Oh and that I like people who give feedback, even if not verbally. That there are men who starfish too. not so much fun when the only confirmation they are enjoying is, it is still hard. I didn't realize that existed before.

A lot of what Luna wrote applies too. But I'm stubborn, I tended to do things my way from the start, and was given good advice for if I wanted to increase numbers, and be more mainstream. But I knew for myself I kind of need to keep my neichs that might turn many away, but I also don't have to pretend to be someone I am not with people I see this way.

 

[jeffmathers]

Lol. When I returned back, the bedroom is the 1 place I didn't need to learn. I learned my skill in the bedroom from multiple different long term relationships, periods of juggling multiple ffs, and the curiosity of a kinkster. There, I get to shut the brain off and it's instinct that takes over.
Just tricks and things to make sure the condom has it's best chance of success needed to be learned.

And I have been asked before, and no, Master did not have to train any of it into me lol. For me threw the intimacy, is how I get to know someone best. How you are in the bedroom with someone says everything about you.

Oh and that I like people who give feedback, even if not verbally. That there are men who starfish too. not so much fun when the only confirmation they are enjoying is, it is still hard. I didn't realize that existed before.

A lot of what Luna wrote applies too. But I'm stubborn, I tended to do things my way from the start, and was given good advice for if I wanted to increase numbers, and be more mainstream. But I knew for myself I kind of need to keep my neichs that might turn many away, but I also don't have to pretend to be someone I am not with people I see this way.

" But I knew for myself I kind of need to keep my neichs " I don't understand

 

[massagecentre]

Asians: same agency? I was wondering (if it is allowed), are the independent/outcall/in all posts from certain Asian escort agencies the same person(people)? Similiar posting, similar wording… just wondering

 

[jeffmathers]

Asians: same agency? I was wondering (if it is allowed), are the independent/outcall/in all posts from certain Asian escort agencies the same person(people)? Similiar posting, similar wording… just wondering

The staff or the providers?