Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

Until spring preferably

Damn I feel you

 

[Rebaynia]

For clients:

Imagine you have a 2hr session with an SP. You come within the first 15 minutes and then fall fast asleep cuddling.... How long would you want to be left asleep before being woken up?

I have 1 sweety who books for 2-3 hrs when he books. He finishes his enjoyment within about 15 minutes, but likes to cuddle while he sleeps the rest of the time away.
Often the appointment is after he's pulled an all nighter, he cums, and likes the feeling of being held while he sleeps until my alarm sounds. If he wakes up before the alarm sounds he has dismissed me early, but I enjoy the sleepy time cuddles, so long as the tv is on to keep me entertained. It's not fun being alone with my thoughts otherwise.

 

[DouMan]

I have 1 sweety who books for 2-3 hrs when he books. He finishes his enjoyment within about 15 minutes, but likes to cuddle while he sleeps the rest of the time away.
Often the appointment is after he's pulled an all nighter, he cums, and likes the feeling of being held while he sleeps until my alarm sounds. If he wakes up before the alarm sounds he has dismissed me early, but I enjoy the sleepy time cuddles, so long as the tv is on to keep me entertained. It's not fun being alone with my thoughts otherwise.

Wow that is really kind and thoughtful, even in the way it is written. Talk about GFE, this is GFE ++

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I have 1 sweety who books for 2-3 hrs when he books. He finishes his enjoyment within about 15 minutes, but likes to cuddle while he sleeps the rest of the time away.
Often the appointment is after he's pulled an all nighter, he cums, and likes the feeling of being held while he sleeps until my alarm sounds. If he wakes up before the alarm sounds he has dismissed me early, but I enjoy the sleepy time cuddles, so long as the tv is on to keep me entertained. It's not fun being alone with my thoughts otherwise.

This story made my day

 

[Rebaynia]

This story made my day

I don't get to see him often. But I adore when I do. There's something precious about someone feeling so comfortable with you, that they fall asleep so soundly, and he's so cuddly, it's almost a shame if I wake him before the time runs out.

 

[Vardhan945]

How long do most SPs - specifically highly sought after Indys - work for ?

Is it decades? or just when theyre young and super hot to set themselves up for retirement ?

 

[ChloeCoeur]

How long do most SPs - specifically highly sought after Indys - work for ?

Is it decades? or just when theyre young and super hot to set themselves up for retirement ?

This question feels like it could be better answered by an industry-wide polling / statistic situation (would be cool to have that). But my personal experience in Montreal has been meeting a lot of indys who have been in it for a long time in one form or another. Also youth may be hot to some clients, but just as many clients I'm sure are into older providers.

Personally, I plan on doing it for as long as I enjoy it or until some other reason stops me.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

How long do most SPs - specifically highly sought after Indys - work for ?

Is it decades? or just when theyre young and super hot to set themselves up for retirement ?

Honestly I know people who have been escorts for 10 years or even 15-20.. but a lot of them changed the way they work over time, or they work on and off. Some of them worked for agencies or parlors at first and they got tired of it. Some others just decided to raise their rates significantly to have a much lower volume of clients.

I also know a lot of people who were escorts for a short period of time and moved on to other types of sex work they liked better and found less upsetting (like stripping or bdsm or porn).. or they left the industry entirely because it was too hard for them.

That's why so many people take breaks or change their rate structure over time. This is my 4th year and I really don't see myself being a full time escort for 4 more. This lifestyle isn't sustainable for most people..

 

[Vardhan945]

Honestly I know people who have been escorts for 10 years or even 15-20.. but a lot of them changed the way they work over time, or they work on and off. Some of them worked for agencies or parlors at first and they got tired of it. Some others just decided to raise their rates significantly to have a much lower volume of clients.

I also know a lot of people who were escorts for a short period of time and moved on to other types of sex work they liked better and found less upsetting (like stripping or bdsm or porn).. or they left the industry entirely because it was too hard for them.

That's why so many people take breaks or change their rate structure over time. This is my 4th year and I really don't see myself being a full time escort for 4 more. This lifestyle isn't sustainable for most people..

Interesting. is it the prospect of running into psycho and dangerous clients that make it unsustainable? or just the social stigma ?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Interesting. is it the prospect of running into psycho and dangerous clients that make it unsustainable? or just the social stigma ?

It's a bunch of different factors. When you're a reputable SP you're a lot less likely to have "psycho and dangerous clients" because you're not as vulnerable. If someone has bad reviews and her rates are low she's going to attract the worst types.. or if she just entered the industry. There's also "psycho client" and then there's a lot more clients who aren't technically dangerous but are really unpleasant to deal with for a lot of reasons and these are the ones who are most likely to cause problems for your business and leave bad reviews or shit talk about you or just drain you. It's not a prospect.. it's a reality. If a SP tells you she hasn't had a bad experience with a client she is lying either to you or to herself.

Seeing a high volume of clients is exhausting psychologically and physically, also not the safest thing over time. Being hyper visible as an individual and being constantly scrutinized is tough. There is a high pressure to be perfect all the time. Also yes the social stigma is hard to deal with. This is a very isolating jobs and SP are constantly being pitted against each other and prevented from being friends so it's easy to feel really alone and like your friendships in the industry aren't real.. The drama between providers is really exhausting.. SP judge each other and talk behind each other's backs all the time. Jealousy can be really intense to deal with as well... There are differences between us that are hard to ignore and it can lead to frustration, envy and other negative feelings

There's also a certain lifestyle that a lot of SP conduct that can end up being unhealthy.. like substances for some.. I think for indies it can be really hard to have a break from working too. I know for myself it was very hard to build a good reputation and I have to invest in my brand and advertise and hustle and reevaluate my way of working constantly.

Overall I think being a SP is a legit job and you can be happy being an escort for many many years, but doing it full time at a medium to high volume without ever taking breaks is not sustainable. That's the nuance I want to make.

 

[mr.9inch]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

 

[LC18]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

Oh lord, this question again


Three possibilities:
• racism/stereotypes
• someone from a community that doesn’t want to run into someone they know
• discrimination because they can

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

Because they're racist, unless they don't want to accidentally see a client from the same community. There are countless threads about this and multiple people will give you other explanations that are vague and suspicious.

One I often hear is "I or this SP I like have noticed a pattern of behavior related to clients of a certain cultural background"

 

[Vardhan945]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

as a half indian half iranian guy...I can understand why. There are certain tendencies in our community that can make interactions with Westerners...awkward to say the least. It is what it is.

 

[LC18]

as a half indian half iranian guy...I can understand why. There are certain tendencies in our community that can make interactions with Westerners...awkward to say the least. It is what it is.

I find it sad that you would talk about your people this way….

 

[AnthonyAnderson]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

Since this is a highly controversial topic, here is what Google's Gemini AI has to say about it:

Some escorts and sex workers may have policies excluding specific racial groups, such as Black or Indian men, due to a combination of personal safety concerns based on past experiences, entrenched racial stereotypes, and, in some cases, personal preferences that intersect with broader systemic prejudices. These policies often arise from a desire to control the clientele in a high-risk, often unregulated industry, though they are frequently criticized as discriminatory.
Here are the primary reasons cited for these, and similar, restrictions:

• Safety and Previous Bad Experiences: Many sex workers report using racial exclusion as a form of client screening to avoid situations they have found to be higher risk. Some cite personal or peer experiences with specific demographics, such as reports of increased verbal aggression, physical violence, or robbery during encounters with certain clients.
• Safety "Stereotyping": Some sex workers may generalize negative experiences with specific individuals to an entire group, a practice often criticized as racial prejudice that ignores individual behavior.
• Negotiation and Behavior Issues: In some contexts, particularly in certain regions, escorts have reported that clients from certain cultures are more likely to haggle over prices, show disrespect, or break established rules during meetings.
• Racialized Sexual Stereotypes: Research suggests that some choices are influenced by stereotypes that deem certain races more desirable or less desirable, or which associate specific groups with aggressive behavior.
• Cultural Differences and Miscommunication: Some exclusions are rationalized by potential clients' perceived cultural differences in communication, which some sex workers feel can lead to boundary-setting issues regarding consent.
• Preferences and "Body Autonomy": While many observers and researchers consider these policies to be racist, some sex workers argue they have the right to choose who they interact with, treating it as an exercise of body autonomy and personal preference.

These practices are sometimes linked to a broader, well-documented, and systemic racial hierarchy of desirability in dating and sex work, where white men are often sought after, and people of color may face higher rates of exclusion

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I want to know why alot of girls in their ad put No black gentleman and some even put no indian. Why is that??

Because they don’t like 9 inches dick!

 

[kstanb]

Question to the ladies:
reading lately about the Epstein files, I saw there was a lot going on in terms of behind the door "social parties"
Has anyone been invited/ involved in that kind of stuff? I am talking big bucks or famous people organizing orgies

by the way I am NOT asking about pedo party stuff; if you had that kind of story you should be talking to the police

 

[LC18]

Question to the ladies:
reading lately about the Epstein files, I saw there was a lot going on in terms of behind the door "social parties"
Has anyone been invited/ involved in that kind of stuff? I am talking big bucks or famous people organizing orgies

by the way I am NOT asking about pedo party stuff; if you had that kind of story you should be talking to the police

I have met some famous Canadians, some wealthy Canadians/Americans but I’ve never been invited to any kind of party with many high profile people. At least not as Lena

 

[Rebaynia]

Question to the ladies:
reading lately about the Epstein files, I saw there was a lot going on in terms of behind the door "social parties"
Has anyone been invited/ involved in that kind of stuff? I am talking big bucks or famous people organizing orgies

by the way I am NOT asking about pedo party stuff; if you had that kind of story you should be talking to the police

I think it is not the wisest idea to namedrop when in this field. Their secrecy is as important as your own as a client.
No I have not seen privatized parties by famous people. Only orgy parties I have heard about personally were either hosted by providers, or by the kinky club, and some other option that was being called out for bad practices.