Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

If you had a rapport with a regular client, would you find it awkward or offensive for him to bring up his experiences with another SP?

(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)

It depends of the context.. but generally I think it's a red flag specially if he names people. Sometimes I can also tell that what I'm being told isn't exactly the truth too. It's happened that a client wanted insight on a past situation involving a provider he didn't name but generally it feels like some clients do this to spread gossip or pit us against each other. I've had really bad experiences involving clients doing this...

 

[Fradi]

It’s gauche. Don’t do it, it’s on the “gossiping” territory

Edit: you can talk about the experience without naming the other person but name dropping in a session is a red flag for most of us

That is actually really funny because escorts gossip about each other way more than any client does about them.
It takes about 5 minutes of reading on X lol.
The competitiveness and the pettiness is sometimes unbelievable.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

That is actually really funny because escorts gossip about each other way more than any client does about them.
It takes about 5 minutes of reading on X lol.
The competitiveness and the pettiness is sometimes unbelievable.

yes it's true, some escorts do gossip about each other, that's why you shouldn't be fueling it. that's the whole point. don't encourage it. when clients talk to me about other escorts i usually change the subject or tell them i don't want to hear it. you shouldn't be helping someone try to take somebody else down. also a lot of this "gossip" that is spread by clients or providers is often false or information that has been distorted or blown out of proportion. one example is someone confusing a very similar sounding name with someone else's. the competitiveness that escorts entertain with each other is directly linked to client demands and the industry itself, not because "women are just petty"

 

[CenterofNH]

If you had a rapport with a regular client, would you find it awkward or offensive for him to bring up his experiences with another SP?

(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)Wouldn't

If you had a rapport with a regular client, would you find it awkward or offensive for him to bring up his experiences with another SP?

(not in a way where hes gossiping or talking shit. Just wanting perspective)

Would't it be a violation of trust? I expect a provider to protect my privacy; should she expect the same?

 

[Fradi]

yes it's true, some escorts do gossip about each other, that's why you shouldn't be fueling it. that's the whole point. don't encourage it. when clients talk to me about other escorts i usually change the subject or tell them i don't want to hear it. you shouldn't be helping someone try to take somebody else down. also a lot of this "gossip" that is spread by clients or providers is often false or information that has been distorted or blown out of proportion. one example is someone confusing a very similar sounding name with someone else's. the competitiveness that escorts entertain with each other is directly linked to client demands and the industry itself, not because "women are just petty"

It is like everything else not applicable to everyone.
The ladies I see are not jealous of other providers and you can easily approach them to even recommend their friends or colleagues, this is actually really nice to see.
I will disagree with you however, there are many women that are petty, catty and love to gossip this is not restricted to escorts and there are men who fall into that category as well.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It is like everything else not applicable to everyone.
The ladies I see are not jealous of other providers and you can easily approach them to even recommend their friends or colleagues, this is actually really nice to see.
I will disagree with you however, there are many women that are petty, catty and love to gossip this is not restricted to escorts and there are men who fall into that category as well.

I never said that there are no women who are petty and catty and love to gossip, a lot of women and men do. I just said that this isn't always the case. Your comment was "lol it's so funny that you guys think clients shouldn't gossip because sex workers gossip all the time".. it's irrelevant. I don't think escorts should be gossiping and talking shit just for the hell of it, either. The question was about clients talking about their experiences with other providers, we all answered the question

Its honestly in human nature to talk about other people from time to time, but where I personally draw the line is how a certain type of information could be harming somebody else who did nothing wrong..

 

[Jacob Israel]

That is actually really funny because escorts gossip about each other way more than any client does about them.
It takes about 5 minutes of reading on X lol.
The competitiveness and the pettiness is sometimes unbelievable.

Not only that many gossip about each other to clients like crazy but the little “collective” on here wants to tell clients how to behave in encounters that they paid for. Go figure lol!
The other “Gisele” thinks her and 3 people are everyone. How delusional lol.

 

[twenty4seven]

It’s cute that the “Ask us Anything” thread has both providers answering industry questions for free from curious clients and then a group of disgruntled clients telling people to ignore the providers answers to your questions (also for free?).

It reminds me of an old-timey saying they’ll likely understand, “It really separates the wheat from the chaff.”

 

[Fradi]

It’s cute that the “Ask us Anything” thread has both providers answering industry questions for free from curious clients and then a group of disgruntled clients telling people to ignore the providers answers to your questions (also for free?).

It reminds me of an old-timey saying they’ll likely understand, “It really separates the wheat from the chaff.”

Really?
You think they are doing it out of the goodness of their heart freely and honestly I agree with them.
They are posting for one reason only it gives them visibility and free advertising and hopefully they can attract more clients.
Nothing at all against that, it makes for smart business although with some of the comments that seem to group all men as disrespectful scumbags does not make logical sense.

 

[twenty4seven]

Really?
You think they are doing it out of the goodness of their heart freely and honestly I agree with them.
They are posting for one reason only it gives them visibility and free advertising and hopefully they can attract more clients.
Nothing at all against that, it makes for smart business although with some of the comments that seem to group all men as disrespectful scumbags does not make logical sense.

Posting an ad here is an advertising choice. Defending themselves against bad actors constantly is unpaid work. Answering hundreds of pages of client questions is charity.

People ask a question and they say something about how a client might want to act in that scenario and then they’re “grouping all men.” If you didn’t want the answer, don’t ask the question and if the question wasn’t directed at you, your answer isn’t relevant.

 

[Pamela Lee69]

My answers to some of the questions,

I would appreciate clients not talking about other SP to me. None of my business. I hope that the discretion I provide others would also be reciprocated.

I can usually read someone coming in the door. My first impressions are about how they carry themselves. Do they smell, how is their grooming. Tells me a lot about a client. All my outcalls have been to nice hotels, so they are on point for presentation.

I too would not see someone that reminds me of my father. Would be weird.

When I ask for a name, it would be beneficial if the name provided is real, since I do ask for ID of some sort. Saying your name is Mark and then showing an ID of David (for example) does not bode well for trust.

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

 

[Vardhan945]

My answers to some of the questions,

I would appreciate clients not talking about other SP to me. None of my business. I hope that the discretion I provide others would also be reciprocated.

I can usually read someone coming in the door. My first impressions are about how they carry themselves. Do they smell, how is their grooming. Tells me a lot about a client. All my outcalls have been to nice hotels, so they are on point for presentation.

I too would not see someone that reminds me of my father. Would be weird.

When I ask for a name, it would be beneficial if the name provided is real, since I do ask for ID of some sort. Saying your name is Mark and then showing an ID of David (for example) does not bode well for trust.

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

Pics and reviews. what they say and their choice of words has never been a deciding factor
Edit: what they say in their ad**

 

[Fradi]

Posting an ad here is an advertising choice. Defending themselves against bad actors constantly is unpaid work. Answering hundreds of pages of client questions is charity.

People ask a question and they say something about how a client might want to act in that scenario and then they’re “grouping all men.” If you didn’t want the answer, don’t ask the question and if the question wasn’t directed at you, your answer isn’t relevant.

Really, I don’t think you pay much attention to posts here or understand them.
There have been comments to the effect that I do not spend one minute of my time with a man that isn’t being paid for lol.
You actually think this same person is concerned with Merbites and is posting purely to educate them out of a love of community.

I didn’t ask the question lol and I have nothing to learn about how to treat women from the ladies here or anyone else for that matter, I actually had parents who took the time to teach that.
Yes there is quite a lot of man bashing in some of these threads disguised as “education”.

Perhaps some of you need a reminder that these ladies wouldn’t give you the time of day if you weren’t paying them.
That is not to say that they are bad people just that it is a job for them plain and simple, they are not here as a community service they are not here to educate you, they are here for visibility, for advertising, to get more clients and ultimately to be able to make a living and there is nothing wrong with that just don’t delude yourself into thinking it is something else.

 

[kstanb]

To Pamela Lee69:
I guess every guy is different, but the most obvious driver is looks, followed by "can I pay the rates", these 2 are mandatory "check boxes"

But after that, having a good website that hints on what you offer and that shows you are serious (and not a scammer) is good. social media presence can also be a big differentiator, because it opens a window to how you are, how you think, how you act, sense of humor, just to mention a few points, this is especially important if you are looking for longer dates

Reviews are less and less important now that there is social media (some older dudes might disagree)

"menus" can work (or not) depending on what you offer, I personally prefer hints on what can be expected, here social media can help too, because you can post pictures or write about some scenarios; this works well for kinky companions

 

[Fradi]

My answers to some of the questions,

I would appreciate clients not talking about other SP to me. None of my business. I hope that the discretion I provide others would also be reciprocated.

I can usually read someone coming in the door. My first impressions are about how they carry themselves. Do they smell, how is their grooming. Tells me a lot about a client. All my outcalls have been to nice hotels, so they are on point for presentation.

I too would not see someone that reminds me of my father. Would be weird.

When I ask for a name, it would be beneficial if the name provided is real, since I do ask for ID of some sort. Saying your name is Mark and then showing an ID of David (for example) does not bode well for trust.

** Question **
How do you guys pick ladies? Does the profile and what they say mean much or mostly look at pictures? No offence either way, just curious. I am thinking mostly pictures as I often get a question about something that is in the profile.

Yes what they say means a lot.
When I picked my ATF it was not only her gorgeous photographs but the elegant way she was dressed in each one ( not the in your face pussy
pic with legs spread wide open) Her choice of words, the way she described herself and what to expect when spending time with her. It was obvious she wrote it herself and it wasn’t a copy and paste form someone else. Her follow up email confirmed it as it was the same kind respectful tone and choice of words.
I have been seeing her now close to 9 years.

This whole thing with I D.
Never would I show an escort I meet for the first time a real ID or share my real name ( I do use my real first name but never the family name) unless she is willing to do the same lol. References from other SP no problem.
Yes I know and agree that your safety is much more at risk than mine but mine is not guaranteed either, don’t care how many reviews they have or how many social media accounts they have.